CamaroJoe

dude, trust me, i know exactly what you mean. Look at my quote at the bottom of the page TJTWII.... I'd say i'm a gentleman, i always let the ladies go first and all that. I'm not saying i'm completley good either lol but i'm not an A** After i broke up with my ex after 3.5 years. I met this girl at work who ended up liking me. i had her, no take that back, she had me in bed with her the first night I was at her house. But she was hott and I wanted her too lol (not completely good). Then after a few months she moved out of state. Then I met another girl, G, and i ended up sleeping with her after the 2nd time I was at her house. Again, I didn't make the first move on this one either. Not trying to sound manipulative or anything, but it's kinda cool to know that you don't have to make a move. Not saying i'm scared or anything, but if you don't have to, why should you? but that's seriously, my deal too. I always attract the girls that like to have sex. In fact, just the other day this woman asked me if i'd ever have sex with an ebony chick. And they she knew someone who wanted to, not strings, yada yada...I have more morals than that now. well, i hope this helps some

I just thought I'd let everyone know what happened. Well, this girl at work, S, came to my house after work one night (we work 2nd shift, 3pm-12am), and used my computer because she needed to do something online for school and didn't have a computer. So we did that and we just talked until like 2am. I really like this girl so i wanted to take it slow, maybe a mistake? Anyway, when she went to leave I let her follow me to the gas station and then to where she would know where she was at. When we were at the gas station, I asked her out for yesterday evening. I didn't mention a time or where we would eat or anything like that. so, yesterday at around 1:30/2:00 pm she called saying that her sister called her and asked if she wanted to go with her on a gambling boat. And that she never gets to see her sister so she decided to go with her instead. And she said that she felt bad for cancelling on the first time. I dont know her that well, so i can't judge her on this aspect. But i'm always skeptical from the start, but i never just not believe someone until they lie to me. But from what i've told you, does she sound sincere? Also, how soon should I call her for another date? I WILL probably see her monday at work and possibly tuesday at school and work. -----------------------------------------------------------------------More Background Information--------------------------------------------------------------------------------- The first time I ever really talked to her was at school. I saw her, said "hi" and we talked for a few minutes. I walked her to her car and she gave me a ride back. Her car was a mess lol...and she said "the next time you get in my car, i promise it'll be clean" lol Everytime I see her and we're talking now, she's always smiling and really open about stuff. ....I just need to know how long I should wait to ask her out again. I don't want to seem desperate, because i'm not. And I don't want her thinking i'm mad or want to ignore her or anything because she cancelled on me, because I'm not mad and I don't want to ignore her.

bad breath? actually, brushing after every meal is a good practice. But if he only brushes once a day, that's fine. But make sure he uses mouth wash. Listerine or Scope. Listerine is more potent lol but, really, toothpast, if not washed off after brushing, stinks!!! Also, he should get some mints. I prefer the Life Savers hard mints, winterfresh? The ones in the green package lol They're good, not too strong, and work really well. and also, if he goes to the dentist, i'm sure they'd find a cavity. if he only brushes once a day, when you get older, it catches up to you.

When you massage her, does she take her shirt and bra off? If she does, the next time she does, you need to make a move on her! Rub her sides, and if she kinda sits up a little, then reach in for the kill. You won't be disappointed.

See, that's where you're confused. I could't write everything that had happened because it would have been too long and no one would have read it lol... this is how i know it was mutual.... My 'friend', we'll call her G. well, I asked her out one night and she obliged and we went out to eat. The whole time , she talked about her ex's and her relationships and all this. And when you like someone, you don't do that, i'm sorry. Then I still hung out with her, i let her talk to me about anything, i listened, i gave her advice, everything. And of course, we messed around. But I NEVER initiated it. And the stuff she would tell me. We would be having sex, she'd stop, start crying, and tell me she couldn't cuz we're friends and that she feels guilty when she has sex and all this. Plus she's always saying how she's still in love with this one dude even though they've been separated for 2 years. Now, one night, we were riding around and talking. And she flat out said "I guess, the only reason I wouldn't date you is because I know it wouldn't last" I did like her. I liked her alot acutally aside from all the things that are emotionally wrong with her. But I'll always be her friend. I'll always be here for her if she needs anything. there's more too. She's very insecure about herself. She IS beautiful and she should know it. But she doesn't. And she's always mentioning these 'hott' guys she sees and blah blah. But she's complaining that she never gets asked out and all this. It is very hard to read her. Yes, she gives me signs that she likes me but she's always reminding me that we're only friends. She's told me stuff like she could have sex with someone and it doesn't mean anything. And she does stuff like that to get back at her ex when he pisses her off. And she basically, flat out, told me that she used me for that. But at the time, i didn't really care. So that's my story about her. She freaks me out sometimes. And sometimes she can be just the most awesome person. I don't think we could ever date, simply because of all the stuff that we've been through in the short time we've known eachother. We're close, we talk about everything, we're completely honest with eachother and I love our relationship. But romantically? I don't think it'd work out myself, i'd have to agree with her on that. Plus, she's moving to go to UF soon anyway...

Well, actually, we talked about it. We messed around a few times but we decided just to be friends. And I knew, from the first time that I hung out with her, that I would never date her because all she ever talks about is her ex's. And, me being her friend, i never told her it bothered me even if it did. Unless, of course, she asked. But either way, we had a mutual agreement that we wouldn't date. So I know, at least i think, it's not like that.

Here's a scenario: if you two decide you are just staying at your house and wanting to watch a movie, just let her sit down first (offer her a drink or something that way it'll be easier to allow her to sit down first), then sit close to her. If she scootches over, not a good sign lol . But if she smiles or just doesn't move over any, then that's awesome. Next, once the movie starts try putting your arm around her or holding her hand or something like that. Don't be affraid to be touch-feely with her, remember, she IS your g/f. Then, if you see she seems uncomfortable, which happens when you sit in one position for too long, ask her if she wants to lie down. If she says yes then you're in. Just lie behind her and put your arm around her and grab her hand. Then as the movie progresses, just caress her arms. Don't do it so soft it tickles. then move up to the shoulders and neck, play with her hair and listen to her breathing and body language. If once, you get to her neck she starts breathing a little heavier, or if she doesn't remove your hand or ask you to stop, then just keep getting more into it. and if you feel confident enough, put your hand under her chin and gently pull her face towards you and kiss her. If she kisses you back, caress her in this order: side of the neck, down her shoulders and arms, then lean back and pull her close to you so u can rub her legs. The key to this, depending on how far you want to go with it, is to get her horny before you touch any of her sexual parts. If she's submissive to it, then always start up top. Remember, if she doesn't want to, she'll let you know. And i'm saying this assuming you've been together for a little while? And she feels comfortable with you. You didn't give many details on how far along you two are, like if you kissed her yet or anything like that.

Well, it started when I got hired at the hospital. There's this chick that works there who caught my eye. But you know those people who are so attractive to you that you just want to wait for the perfect time to talk to them? Well, it's been a year and I finally got the 'nerve', i guess you can say, to talk to her. And we talked and got along great. (This is when i saw at the college one day). So the next time i saw here, which was at work, she was saying that she needed to take an online quiz an didn't have a computer. I told her i had a computer and so she came over to my house after work, about midnight. We did her quiz and we talked till like 2 am. All a while she would, every once in a while, touch my arm and my leg. When she went to leave, she didn't know the way out. So I drove out and let her follow me to a gas station, where I asked her out for sat afternoon and she agreed, then i let her follow me until she knew where she was at. When I turned around to go home, she called me and we talked till about 3 something. Well, I've never actually dated before. It always just ended up that i was with someone. All my relationships started off kinda weird. But, i have this other friend who works at the hospital, we'll call her G. I felt i could talked to her about anything. But when i told her about this new girl she got all upset, she even cried. And said she was sad because if i started dating this other chick, i would never have time for her anymore. Then she preceded to talk to this women who works with the other chick. And this women told her all these stories (bad ones) which were later related to me by G. And then later that night, she told me she was sorry for telling me that stuff and that she just felt she had to for being my friend. And that she wishes things work out b/t us and she was giving me these pointers: dress nice, smell nice, open doors, bring her a lil' gift, give her a kiss on the cheek when i first see her, etc... ok, that was a little weird, why would she tell me bad stuff about her and then turn around and wish it would work out b/t us? She also said that maybe something happened in her life that made her the way she is and that she deserves a chance or something like that. but to go back to my story, this girl i'm taking out is REALLY hott. I'm not nervous or anything, but like i said, i haven't really dated much. But aside from the obvious (opening doors, dressing and smelling nice, etc..), what else would be some goods things to do, or not to do? Is it it cosher to hold her hand and be a little feely with her? I am totally confortable with her. If anyone has any advice or success stories they would like to share, it would be most helpfull.

Look, life isn't always perfect, and i'm not gonna be harsh to you even though the first statement seems a little pricky. You just need to live your life how it is. Just live! You need confidence, just believe in yourself. Set goals and accomplish them. Screw that guy!!!! There's a milllion great guys out there. Take his friendship and move on. A friendship is the greatest thing on this earth. I'd take a strictly plutonic relationship with a chick over a g/f any day! Simply becauase you can talk to the plutonic friend about ANYTHING. You're an awesome person and once you get the confidence to know you'r e an awesome person and every who knows you has that privilege and everyone who doesn't know you is deprived, you will become a better person. I'm not sayin you need to be conceded about it but you needd to have confidence in yourself. Go out with your friends and have a good time even if it's fake. Eventually it'll be come real. And once your at peace with yourself and you love yourself and you have confidence and it shows, others will love you too...........i speak from experience. just believe me. everyone is awesome even if it's in their own way.

Now, this is really hard for you because you love her and you were married to her. And i've never been married before but i'll go out on the limb anyway and give you the best advice I can give. First off, you obviously can't force her to stay with you or come back to you. That's something you just have to let her do on her own. So you have to wait Secondly, don't tell her you want her back, it's ok to call every now and then to keep in touch since it doesn't seem as though you hate eachother. And it seems the only reason she wants the divorice is because, to her, it seems you don't have the time to committ to her. So she feels she's doing this for the both of you. Maybe she feels she's holding you back and putting more stress in your life than what you need or already have. Thirdly, just do what you have to do. Keep working, make your money, i know it's hard but you have to keep busy so you don't think of her as much. It will take a loooong time to get over her, if you ever do. (if you want to). Lastly...even though you'll be 'leaving her alone', some how, make it so that she knows you still care about her, but you CAN live without her but PREFER not to. So if you want her back, just leave her alone, do your thing, and just wait. She'll see that you're fine without her even though you still love her and care about her...and maybe, she'll come around. G'luck!!!

Alone Forever We were best friends We were also lovers Only to each other We showed our true colors But then in the end It did not last Our relationship faded It faded all too fast It so was not fair The way it would end I didn't even say goodbye I wasn't with you then But now I have a chance To give you my goodbye But i'm not sure I can It would surely make me cry As I'm telling you this I'm realizing all my fears My body can't restrain anymore It's releasing all my tears Why were you taken from me? What did I do so wrong? I need you to come back Without you i'm not strong I cannot live without you But I must endeavor I lost my soul mate to death Now I live alone forever

it's funny how quickly people bite your head off. I was hoping to get more responses from women to see what they thought of this situation. of course all women are different, well actually their not. They all want the same things we do, we're just more outspoken with it. And maybe not even that anymore. Women are just as sexual as men whether they admit it or not. Maybe even more so.

My question is...Do women prefer a man to try to kiss her on the first date? Or does it depend on how the date goes? And do women prefer a guy to just try to kiss her and not say or ask about it? This 'first kiss' question on the first date has been bothering me for some time now. I don't date that much, usually i just 'end up' with someone without even dating them first. And I know it's the whole 'confidence' thing with trying to kiss a girl. So I just wanted to know if it was cosher to kiss a girl on the first date...and if so, what kind of kiss...just a peck? long lips-lips kiss?, is it safe to use a little tongue? any help would be awesome!

I was just meaning in General. Because what if you like someone, yet you're content with being single and you dont' really want to date anyone at the moment, and then all of a sudden that person you like starts noticing you. It's not like you can just turn them down and miss out on the opportunity to be with them. Yet, maybe you feel it won't work out at this point in time in your life? lol...i think too much. but that would be a huge predicament.

Why is it that when you're finally content with being single, you end up meeting someone? And since this is the case, why then can't you force yourself into being content with being single? ...doesn't seem fair.

I have this friend, we'll call her G. She and I first became friends when I asksed her out one night to get something to eat. (the first time we ever talked she said 'i'll never date anyone again until i get over my last boyriend'...i don't know how the convo got to that point). Anyway, we went to eat and she started talking about her Ex who she was 'still in love with' and all that. As a friend, i listened. But i know you're not supposed to talk about your ex's to someone you like. But we would hang out and talk every day during and outside of work. And we slept together a couple of times. And this one guy at work told me that she gave me a look, when we talked, like she liked me more than just friends. Since then, she and I kinda decided that we shouldn't hang out together by ourselves anymore because she felt bad for sleeping with me because we were 'just friends'. She also 'supposily' realized that she and her Ex would never get back together and she's over the whole situation. Well, tonight she called and i went over there and watched some movies 'nothing happened'. and then she called after i left like normal to see if i got home and asked me who i had the best sex with. then some how our convo got to us finding someone to date and all that. She also complains that i never call her, gets mad when i don't answer the phone, and sometimes when i'm already out when she wants to hang out. Stuff that a g/f would be like. Just out of sheer curiosity: does it seem as though she likes me more than just as friends but is scared to say anything about it because of the whole deal with her ex? i can give more details if anyone needs them...but i do need some advice on this matter. any, even a few words of advice would help.

well, there's this girl at work, we'll call her Megan who i kind of had my eye on for a while. We would talk a little at work and when she got off, i'd walk her to her car and we'd chit chat. But the other night i asked her what she was doing this weekend. And she said she was going out of town... But I asked her for her # and i didn't remember her name lol (how horrible does that sound?)..so i set it up on my phone and gave it to her to put her number in for me. So she did and she put her name and then she put her Cell phone # and Home phone # in my phone...What's up with that? ...is that normal? i've never had anyone give me their home number along with their cell number before. And my second question is, since she's going out of town this weekend, how soon should I call her? I know i'll probably see her tuesday and i don't work wednesdays and neither does she, so i'd like to ask her out for a wednesday date...any advice?

There is this chick i've liked since the beginning of the semester, lets call her Mary. Well, I finally got up the nerve to ask her out. Well actually, we skipped class together, me, her and Connie. Then the next monday I asked if she wanted to go with me to Starbucks after class and she agreed. So we went there and went to the mall and hung out. Well, we've been hanging out before and after class for about 3 weeks now (?). Monday was my birthday and she got me a card telling me how she's enjoyed getting to know me and looking forward to getting to know me better. We get along so well. I've never hit it off so well with anyone in my entire life. We can talk about everything and anything and there's never a moment of silence between us. We agree on just about everything and what we don't, we don't talk about lol Anyway, earlier today I called her (her parents are strict about who she hangs out with) and asked if she'd want to do something. She said she was going to walmart and asked me to meet her at the school. So we did and i went to walmart with her. And she told me Connie didn't like me cuz she heard me say a curse word in class one day. And I said "so that means you can't hang out with me anymore?" and she said "no. I don't care what she thinks of you." Does this sound like she's liking me more than as just a friend? oh another thing...I kind of put my arm around her waist a few times while we were walking together and she never said anything or asked me to move my arm or tried to move it. And then I told her i'ma do that in front of Connie just to piss her off and she said "no, don't do that" and laughed. She also invited me to her church to meet her parents. Cuz she said the only way that I'd really be able to hang out with her outside of school is by getting approval from her parents. She's 3 yrs younger than I. if anyone can help or if anyone needs more info, lemme know. I just need to know if she'd like to be more than friends. Because i've known chicks to be like this, but it never ended up going any further. thanx!!!

one thing you can do, if she asks you out, say something like that you'll hang out with her (if you wan to) but you're not in any type of postion to be dating or to be able to committ to anyone....or if you feel you don't even want to hang out with her, then just let her down easy by saying you're extremely busy and that you're booked for a few weeks. But if you get some free time then you'll let her know, but just don't get any free time lol...that's harsh, but funny nonetheless, and should work. hope this helps.

then just email her. ask her something about the class since that's what you have in common with her. Maybe pretend you forgot something about it like an assignment or something. Then wait to see if she replies. If she does then go from there. If she doesn't, then just pretend you never sent it when you see her in class.

implying that you already have her email address?

it's not dumb at all, although i was talking to this one chick on the phone who said she was thinking and then i asked her 'about what' and she almost stuck her head through the phone and bit my head off. She said "no one asks me that. those are my thoughts" or something like that and then said she would have hung up on me if i already knew. weird....haven't talked to her in a looong time lol...i can't deal with people like that.

I have never asked a girl out whom I didn't talk with a lot like at school or work. But there's this really cute chick i sit beside in Pscyh class and also in my Anatomy Lab class and we talk before the teacher arrives in Psych class, but only for a minute two. I'd like to ask her out, maybe just to hang out, but i don't know how to do it. I know she liked Starbuck's and there's one down the road from the college. Should I just come out and say "would you like to join me at starbuck's after class, some time?" or something like that, and in any case, how should i set my conversation up so it seems more like i'm just asking her if she wants to hang out instead of like a dating situation? Also, there's this cute chick at work (i work in a hospital), she works on the 5th or 4th floor and i'm on the 1st, and the only days I see her is when it's my week to go up there and pick up patient's charts. This isn't going to be my week. But in any case, i hate asking people out at work and i want to get over that. Anyone have any suggestions about how I could do that? I'm just exploring my options, before I set a commitment. I just want to find the right person.

don't worry about it. as long as it wasn't broken before and nothing poked it to break it, it's fine. most of the time, espcially colder weather, temperature has no bearing on the condom. But if it gets too hott, it's possible it could melt. I'm not sure if it could freeze, i'm sure it's possible though. but it would have to be extremely cold.

I'm like that with every 'first kiss' with a new person, assuming the first kiss with a previous person didn't turn into anything or did and the relationship unfortunately failed. But yes, first kisses are awesome, especially if you REALLY like the person.