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hi evy thanks for the reply. The mailing list thing worries me. I feel I might have made a fool out of myself by saying thank you. May be he had completely forgotten that I was in the mailing list and sent out the email. It make me look so stupid Anyways I hope that the damage was not too much.

hey dazed, thanks for the reply. Things were not good between me and him. He had stopped answering my phone calls!

I have been maintaining NC for three months now. My exbf and me see each other now and then but dont converse. I act totally indifferent when he and I are at the same place. I think that has started disturbing him. He send out two emails to me past week. Not to me alone but included me in his friends list. And although I didnt reply to the first one. For the second one. I emailed him saying thank you for some information he had sent out to me and his friends. Will this just plain thank you email, send all my efforts down to the drain. Inspite of the advice of some veterans here I did this stupid thing. What do you guys think

Thanks for the great advice all you guys! Reborn : your reply was really enlightening and all made sense. I dont know what i am going to do. But you are right when you say that ex's are ex's for a reason. I cannot get mad at him. I really reacted in a immature way after the break up. I dont know what I am going to do. maybe just leave it as it is!!!!!!!! And act cool. If its meant to happen it will!

Hi everyone, Is there anyone or knows about anyone who has gotten back with their ex after not talking to eachother for months. I mean if one resents other and never wants to talk due to misunderstanding. If yes, how? in desperate need of some hope. Thanks

Hey muneca, you should write a book about realtionship...! You are great!

Hi rich I would say dont call her. If she is really interested she will call you again. She will wonder whats up with you. Act indifferent! If you call she might lose the interest. Dont make her feel you are still hung up on her.

My ex bf broke up with me a few months back. he stopped being friendly to me due to some misunderstanding. I wanted to apologize even though I dont think i really did anything wrong, just to make him talk to me again. The people on this forum helped me a lot! I decided not to apologize. But I see him almost everyday in school. And everytime I see him the pain increases. He is totally indifferent wrapped in his own world. It hurts to see this! Now I pray to God that I shouldnt see him in school. I wish he graduates and leaves the place soon. I am tired of this pain and misery. I am angry at myself that I still love him inspite of all ths. I sometimes think I have become so used to this pain that I dont want it to go. I am just beating a dead horse. Please tell me how can I be truly indifferent?

hi mephesto i completely understand what you are going through. My ex bf is doing the same thing completely avoiding me. But believe me girl, if he talks to me normally as a friend even that hurts. We have to accept, we are just not ready to be friends!!!!!!!!!! I have decided not to ask him for any answers just wait patiently and be nice to him. If he really wants to be friends eventually we will be. your story is exactly similiar to me. the best thing we can do is show them that whatever they are doing.....is not affecting us in any way. best of luck.

hi switchbladeromance, I think u are absolutely right. I made the same mistake that ur exgirlfriend did. Pushed him for an answer. then went into NC phase. he called me three weeks later. I did not answer. he did not call again. But I called him again on his birthday which was in the same week. Though i did not actually say i missed him. I made it obvious in some other ways that I still care, like i called him three times the same day for stupid reasons, just to hear his voice! he was very distant during all this. he has not called me since its been ten days already. But I would like to follow ur strategy even we have mutual friends. But we dont meet so often. Can all of u tell me what I should do next, should i call him or just wait till we meet again and appear confident. it was me who called him last time? help me please!

thanks for the advice! What I meant when I say he is cold is that the break up doesnt seem to have affected him at all. if he would have been ignoring me or cursing me I think it would mean he still has some feelings ( at least negetive). but the way he is behaving shows that he doesnt care at all about the relationship and wants me to be a casual friend to him. And I think he is doing this only because we cannot avoid each other since we have same friends and we meet atleast once every month. one of my friends asked him what went wrong between us to that he replied that he doesnt want to talk about it and is trying to put it behind his back and that he has to change he expected a lot out of me (!) Am I being unreasonable here?

My boyfriend broke up with me two months ago. he broke up on the phone, isnt that low!!! he said he doesnt love me anymore and that we are too different. i did not try hard to convince him against this. he had his exams going on so i thought he is under stress and he will come back after his exams. i wished him good luck for his exams by sending an email to which he replied "Thank you" . I did not contact him at all except once after his exams and I kept the conversation very light, I did not say anything about the relationship. he called me lastweek one month after his exams. i did not answer his phone call. he left me a message saying that "I just called to see how u were doing and it has been a long time since i talked to u. i will try and call u later this week or on weekend. i am going to bed now but will talk to u later" I did not reply back. he called me again after two days. I answered the phone but told him i was busy and he said he will call me the next day. but he did not call. it was his bday yesterday so I called him and wished him. we talked for a little while but I called him again after few minutes as I wanted to talk to him more. i told him I would like to talk to him a little more time (stupid me) he said he had his friend is at his house but he will call me later after he comes back home after playing tennis. I told him its fine dont bother. but he called later that day and we chatted normally (it hurt just talking casually),in the end he asked me if I had anything else to say. I said I just want you to know that I am glad we are talking again. to this he just replied OK. did i ruin everything by showing emotions I really dont understand whats going on. Does he have any kind of feeling for me or just wants to be friends? I would like things to work and want to do the right things. I need your opinion guys thanks