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My ex and I were together for 2 years. We had something really meaningful together. On the first day of senior year, he broke up with me for no apparent reason. It has been 6 months and I am still in love with him. We are still close friends, and we still maintain a physical relationship. I know it is wrong but we can't help it. But I have been very depressed since our official relationship ended. I have tried to talk to him about it but he refuses to go back out with me, he absolutely refuses. I don't understand why. I never did him any wrong, and I have always been loyal to him. I put up with a lot of crap from him, and he knows that too. We hang out so often, and talk on the phone, and have a physical relationship, so I don't know why he won't go out with me. I know that he has pretty much everything a girlfriend would be without the responsibility, but I am scared to break that part of it off as a ultamatum, because I am scared he will walk away. Senior year has been hell for me, and professional help did not help me. I am writing him one final letter to ask him to be with me, but I doubt he will be affected. I knonw there are plenty of other good guys, but I don't want any of them!
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I can't take it anymore!
mephesto56 replied to mephesto56's topic in Ex-boyfriend/girlfriend Relationships
I have. He tells me "ok" like he doesn't care, and he won't even make eye contact. He says "Shhh I'm watching tv." He knows how to push my buttons. -
My ex boyfriend broke up with me on the first day of senior year. We were together for 2 years. His reasons were pretty stupid, and more like excuses. But instead of just ending it, he still calls me, and hangs out with me, and asks me to do stuff with him and invites me over. We have sex sometimes, you know, one thing leads to another. But he refuses to go out with me again. I don't know why! We are basically going out, why won't he just go out with me? We got in a fight and I didn't talk to him for 4 days and he got really upset and begged me to talk to him. Every time I try to talk about us getting back together he gets mad and tunes me out. I love him and I tell him this. I can't take this anymore. I want him back and I've tried everything. What is wrong with him? Why won't he just go out with me? We hang out all the time and he calls me all the time. I'm getting really exhausted. Its been 6 months. He will make out with me, and then he won't give me a kiss goodbye. What is the deal? I don't want to end contact with him. It would be too painful. It's impossible for me to do that. I used to go to counseling and nothing the doctor told me helps. I'm at my wits end. I want him back, but I don't know what the hell to do!
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I love him, but...
mephesto56 replied to mephesto56's topic in Ex-boyfriend/girlfriend Relationships
NC is impossible with him. He calls me every time I try and hes not mean to me, so I can't just be like "I don't want to speak to you" -
I really love my ex boyfriend. We were together for two years and have been broken up for 2 months. I want him back so badly, but he says he doesn't want a girlfriend right now. I don't understand that. We hang out and talk as much as we did when we were together, if not more. I don't understand why he wont officially go out with me, because we get along so well. The step to dating again would be so small, it doesn't make sense why he is so adament against it. The other night he was telling another of his friends and I about how he wants a girlfriend but no one would go out with him even if he tried. What the hell is this? I am crushed, because he tells me that he doesn't want a girlfriend. I'm so frustrated. Sometimes he has sex with me, not that often, but all the same. But he hates when I touch him, like putting my head on his shoulder and such. He says he wants to be just friends and he wont let me try to talk to him about my point of view on this. I don't know what to do because he doesn't make any sense. I'm at my wits end. If anyone can help me on this, about what to say to him, or how to behave, please do.
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I don't know what to do at this point. My ex broke up with me 2 months ago, but we have remained close and have had sex on several occasions. He behaves differently around me than he does with other girls, such as by touching my butt and such. We get along about the same as we did when we were dating. our relationship lasted 2 years. Last night he was talking about how he wants a kind of wants a girlfriend but no girls would go out with him anyway. That really pisses me off because he knows how I still love him and want him back, but I guess I don't count. I'm getting really frustrated and pissed at him because we are right for eachother and have everything in common and he didn't even have a reason for breaking up with me. He knows if he gets another girl I'm not speaking to him anymore, but right now we hang out a couple times a week. He gets mad if I touch him or put my head on his shoulder, but he can have sex with me? I'm almost to a point where I don't want to speak to him anymore. I want him back but I don't know how to get him back. He is always in my business, like I was out to dinner with my guy friend Josh, who is gay, for the record, and my ex calls me and says "where are you? what are you doing? who are you with?" and I said "out to dinner with josh" and he gets all pushy and says "josh who?!" because he thinks I like another kid named josh, and old him it wasnt him and he said "oh ok" like its no big deal. please. He still thinks he has a right to be in my business and is obviously jealous, then why did he leave me? I'm heated right now. Any advice would be appreciated.
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I don't know how to help you. The thing with my ex is that he likes me one day and not the next, and I don't know how to deal with it
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My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me a month ago. We still hang out and talk on the phone and online. I still love him. He said the reason for the breakup is that he wants to be single. But we have had sex several times since the breakup, and that ended up in a huge fight with him saying that he cant do that, we are just going to be friends, which progressed to him insulting me and saying he is tired of me and hasnt loved me for six months, and other deliberately hurtful things. He apologized for that and said he didn't mean the things he said. He and his friend come over my house a few times a week and we chill and drink a little, and the other day I started crying because I want to be with him, and he got angry and ran out of the house. His friend talked some sense into him and he took a walk to cool down, and then he came back and apologized profusely for treating me badly and hurting me. We then took a walk to get his friend to sober up, and he talked to me and told me how important I am to him, and that there is a chance he will fall back in love with me. He kept calling me pet names and "baby", and when we got back to my house he took me to my room and one thing progressed to another. Then, the next day, he once more says he doesn't have feelings for me and wants me to stop being affectionate to him. What does he want from me? He acts differently every other day. I've tried talking to him about how it hurts me and I've tried to talk sense into him about his behavior and how it affects me, and after being mean again and saying he doesn't have feelings for me. Well, I'm at my wits end and I just want to scream and tell him to leave me alone. But at the same time I can't be without him because I am still so in love. What is your opinion on his behavior? His words and his actions are completely opposite, and he is completely unpredictable.
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You have it wrong. He says he DOESN'T want to have sex anymore. Thats why this is confusing. He says it is wrong, and I agree.So we aren't doing that anymore.
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My ex and I dated for 2 years until about a month ago. when he broke up with me. At first, we had very little contact and were not on such great terms. Now, for about the past week, we have been hanging out and talking on the phone. Actually, we had sex 3 times this past week, and he seemed happy, then suddenly, right after one of the times, he flipped out and became very cruel to me and told me a was a bit%^ , and that he hated me and didn't want to be my friend. He later apologized for that and he says he didn't mean it. Well, I just found out he went on a date with a girl that I hate, after he told me the reason for us breaking up was that he didn't want a girlfriend right now. He says that didn't work out with her tho, and that he doesn't like her. I really love him. I talk to him and I am extra nice to him, and I hang out with him and his best friend. I want to be with him so badly, but I don't want to push him away. I just don't know what to do. I'm positive he would get mad if I kissed him. He flirts with me a lot though, especially in school. Its confusing, because while he says he doesn't want to go out with me, he acts like he wants to. I just don't know how to act right now.
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Really worried, 99% sure not pregnant though (PLS READ)
mephesto56 replied to Finch's topic in Pregnancy
well is this the first time she has had sex? that might explain the pain. Or if it has been some time since she last had sex. -
Dude, if you love her, be with her. Why did you pick a college so far away? If she matters that much to you, I'm sure you could transfer to a closer school. I know how she feels. But my boyfriend left me for NO reason. I would suggest that you try to see this from her point of view.
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My bf of 2 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago. He didn't really have any reason. At first he wasn't really speaking to me, he would ignore me in the halls and stuff. But now, we talk and he called me last night. I talked to him on the phone for 30 mins today. Yesterday he was flirting with me in gym. He would tie my shoelaces up so I couldn't unod them, and he would take my shoes and throw them over the fence of the tennis courts and play with me like that. Then in the hall he kept pushing into me. trying to knock me onto the wall playfully. This is flirting. If it isn't, I don't know what is. He also says he wants to have sex, but it would just be sex, not a relationship. These are pretty confusing signals. What he says and what he does are obviously very different things. I don't think I should say anything about the sex comment to him though, because it would scare him off. I feel like I can't put any pressure on him right now or he will run. How do you think I should act? I really love him and want him back, but I don't want to scare him off.
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I can't cope with this
mephesto56 replied to mephesto56's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
I have tried to do things with my friends, I have tried to talk to people about it, but NO ONE understands. My mom just makes me feel worse, and my friends get mad at me when I talk about it because they don't care. He was the only person I could really talk to and now he is gone. -
My boyfriend of two years broke up with me about two weeks ago. The day before he dumped me, he said he wanted to marry me. I love him and he means everything to me. My happiness depends on him. He says he doesn't want to be with me anymore and he never wants to get back together, even though he says its not me and I didn't do anything wrong, that its not my fault. He doesn't have any explanation for why he doesn't want to be with me. I need him. He means everything to me. My friends and my parents don't understand why I can't just forget about him. Its so easy for them to say that, they obviously don't understand that I really love him. I'm getting to the point that I want to harm myself or kill myself. I wrote him an email and I keep telling him to please read it. But he said "why its not going to matter, I'm not going back out with you." I don't understand why! He was my best friend, and I was his! I cry every day and I just want to curl up and die. It feels like I don't matter at all to him, and that everything he told me was a lie. I go to a counselor and I am on Prozac, recently switched from zoloft, but no one can help me with this. No one understands. I don't want to live if its without him. Everyone tells me hes not worth it, but to me he is. I don't think I could actually commit suicide, but I have no will to live anymore. Any advice would be helpful.