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  1. Johnathan
    Have you ever had what you thought was a 'good' friend lose interest in maintaining the friendship with you? I'm not talking about good aquaintances that you don't get close to, I'm talking about good friends who genuinely liked you and and wanted a piece of your time. With one of my groups of friends, there was one who I considered a great friend and she was the "in" to the rest of the group, who I was just good aquaintances with. I'd always be invited places with them, but in the last month or 2 it has dwindled. It went from being invited out alot, to being invited out on more special/major occasions, to nothing at all. I'm completley on the outside looking in and it hurts and angers me. She doesnt return calls anymore and hasn't for several weeks now. I've invited her out when I'm out and can't even get a response. Thanks to MYSPACE I can always find out what they've been doing, and it's the same sh** as before, she's doing the same stuff just as often. Nothing's changed...except that I no longer get invited. I could understand it if I was a total j*ckoff or mute or prone to getting P.O.'ed or something, but that was definintely not the case. I was drama-free, always happy to hang out, cracked jokes and made them laugh, was a good listener, they always seemed truly interested in listening to me, and now its all gone to sh8t for what appears to be no good reason at all. It's just unbelieveable. Are friendships really like dating and relationships?? Do people's chemistry with each other sometimes just fizzle out, even when there's no romance at all? I'm so angry and hurt at the same time. I have enough problems with dating and self-esteem and getting alienated by a good friend is the last thing I need. I have a few awesome friends who have always been there since day 1 and I thought this girl was going to be one of them. I don't feel like I deserve it. If I felt I deserved it because of something I did, or how I was, I wouldn't be posting about it on a forum. And what's sad is this has happened one other time. One of my best friends in HS and college gradually fell out of touch with me. I haven't spoken to him in 15 months after several useless attempts by me to call, even as recently as a few weeks ago. It's just unbelieveable and completely unfair that people do this.
  2. Johnathan
    I actually had the opposite problem, I was having functionality problems in bed because I couldn't stop masturb8ing when I was on my own. If I could've just stopped beating off for 24 damn hours I would've been fine but that was apparently too much to ask.
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    whoever told you that is a moron. It all means the same thing.
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    and 50% of those marriages will end in divorce.
  5. Johnathan
    Getting a girls number is as easy as Paris Hiliton after a night of boozing at the Viper Room. The hard part is making something happen after that. Alot of single girls like to just collect numbers for whatever reason--playing the field, hungry ego, etc. Sometimes it just isnt meant to be. I also got a random girl's number at the last concert I went to, left a voicemail 3 or 4 days later, nothing came of it. That's just how it is sometimes. The only thing you can do is keep collecting them yourself; dont stop doing it just because it won't always work out. You can't make a bucket unless you take the shot.
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    I work down the street from mine. If I 'show my damn self' it's all by circumstance of me seeing her / her seeing me while driving. I have alittle plan and that's when I get a new girl, I'm going with her and some other friends straight to the bar where the old girl hangs out 1 or 2 nights every single week. The only form of 'getting vengeance' I can get would be to do something like that and make sure she sees me while making zero effort to even say hi to her.....it would be the boldest, most confident thing in her eyes, to see me there with my group, having a great time, living my life.
  7. Johnathan
    I'm jealous.
  8. Johnathan
    Its not necessarily a bad thing. I got dumped over text messages, and before I started NC I sent off what I felt were things that absolutely had to be said. Then I stopped.
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    What if the person works down the street from you and you have to drive right by their place of work everytime you go to and from your work? This is what I'm dealing with. She wants nothing to do with me now, she dumped me over a goddamn text message and I have to be at work knowing she's 300 yards away and I have to hope I don't see her while driving. I'm on day 9 of NC and because of this BS, it looks like the healing process that NC brings is going to be slowed down.
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    I'm going through the same feelings you're going through. But I have to address what you said about not being rich hurting your chances. I just lost the girl of my dreams. She knows I'm doing good for myself, with the great career and all, and I'm the co-owner of the house I'm in, got a decent car, I totally made it look to her like money was never an object. And guess what. She doesn't give a rat's heiny about me now. I'm telling you, being rich doesnt mean a damn thing. Its all about the attitude you bring and if you bring a nice guy attitude it doesnt matter how much money you have. I wasn't aloof enough, wasn't insensitive enough, was always bending to her will, always wanting to be with her, called her way too often, and she got bored and annoyed with it. She's probably with some douschebag now who treats her like sh*t but always knows how to lay down the charm in his 86 El Camino. Dont let the "I need big bucks to keep a girl" mentality fool you because guaranteed, it had nothing to do with that.
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    That's awesome. I too have an ex from 4 years ago and after years of NC I can actually hang out with her AND her boyfriend in complete indifference. Time is a great thing.
  12. Johnathan
    I know how you feel Joyce. I don't know what else to say. Just that I know how it feels. That is all.
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    It's not about how many theyve slept with, it's about their attitude concerning it. Some allow their history to make them become really jaded and stuck up, theyve fooled themselves into a 'been there, done that' kind of thing with every guy they come in contact with. They're usually alittle arrogant and alittle closed-minded. But there are just as many with the same history who do not let it shut themselves off to the possibilities out there. These people are usually nicer, easier to talk to, and more open to seeing guys for who they are instead of comapring them to the Don Juans from their past.
  14. Johnathan
    everybody's gotta love sometime - beck
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    ok listen, I know exactly what its like to want to shut yourself off from your friends because of something like this but you cant. I went through it very recently. Give yourself time to greive, yeah, but give your friends a chance too and you'll be pleasantly surprised. I'm only 5 days ahead of you in NC by the way!
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    Christy
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    Sometimes you keep working there but you stop receiving a paycheck. Or you're still on payroll, but they start giving you less hours and eventually you're getting zero hours a week. Either way, you realize what's going on, take the hint, and pack your stuff because you realize your employer doesn't have the character to confront you and let you go.
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    weird Al has a song with that title too.. -------------------------------- Since you've been gone Well I feel like I've been chewing on tin foil Since you've been gone It's like I got a great big mouthful of cod liver oil Well, I'm feeling like I stuck my hand inside a blender and turned it on You know I've been in a buttload of pain Since you've been gone (Well Since you've been gone) Since you've been gone I couldn't feel any worse if you dropped a two-ton bowling ball on my toes (Since you've been gone) It couldn't hurt any more if you shoved a red hot cactus up my nose (Yap yap dibbie dow bop bop duba doom daba dawm baba dowm baba dowm baba dowm Since you've been gone Well, it feels like I'm getting tetanus shots every day Since you've been gone It's like I got an ice cream headache that won't go away Ever since the day you left me, I've been so miserable, my dear I feel almost as bad as I did When you were still here
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    since you ended it on good terms you can give it a shot. But you have to go in not expecting a damn thing. In the event you get burned, you're not going to want to be thinking 'but I thought all the pieces were in place for this to work out!' Because that will of course lead to more grief and less self esteem, which was the problem in the first place. I think you have the green light to do it but feel free to wait a little bit longer as well, to gain even more emotional distance, which will aid you in not expecting a certain outcome. I'm always cautious of breaking NC when I was the one dumped. That's not to say it's always a bad idea, but I personally would want to be completely liberated emotionally from that person before I call/email, and then IF she reciprocates and is happy to have me in her life again, I can enjoy getting involved all over again.
  20. Johnathan
    One thing...STOP looking at his facebook. For good. And I only say this from personal experience. It is only going to hinder or reverse the healing process. IMO it's no different than driving by their house to see who's parked out front. You're doing good. Relapses are normal and part of the healing process. You're "doing time" to get the benefits that are on the other side. Sooner or later, feeling good will come natural.
  21. Johnathan
    "WE'RE NOT GONNA TAKE IT!!1" (with cowbell)
  22. Johnathan
    that's kind of odd you're having trouble remembering why you broke up in the first place. Did you at least get that sorted out?
  23. Johnathan
    shorty I'm going through it right now too. Like realizing that meeting new members of the opposite sex wont do anything to rid your memory of that one person if you were crazy about that person. As for him pulling a disappearing act, it's sad to say it, but it's very common for it to end like this. That's pretty much what happened to me last week. Yes, it sucks and it shows a lack of character on their part but alot of people just cant deal with confrontation. You're not alone!
  24. Johnathan
    Maybe I'm just a freak, but... There was a girl from my past who fed me those lines as it was ending. I found that in order to get over her, I initially harbored some hope that someday we'd get back together. It did make the greiving process easier. And then months later it hit me that it really was not going to happen and I very objectively accepted it, with no pain. At that point she was a distant memory. It's like I tricked myself into getting over it with a bit less heartache.
  25. Johnathan
    Its amazing the double standard that's in place. Its okay for the girl to start letting you know she's infatuated with you and misses you, but the moment you show her you feel the same thing, her stock in you starts to plummet. There's a girl I knew from several years ago who I breifly dated before I moved away and I was ALWAYS aloof with her and NEVER gave her any indication I was crazy about her. Why? Because I WASN'T. I got with her simply out of convenience and being somewhat bored right before I relocated. Shockingly, when I moved she cried and she still to this day wants me to come visit her, almost 2 years later Dating is such B.S.
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