Johnathan

She was probably caught off guard. Have you gotten the vibe that she could be interested/attracted?

whats the job?

hold on a sec. what exactly did he pick a fight about??

I agree with rose....people who constantly accuse their partner of cheating are very often making up or covering up for their own personal inadequacy-that they did it themselves. Even if he didnt, there's not enough reason for you to stay with someone as insecure and immature as this nutj**. Read this again. This is a pure contradiction..that's not 'love' at all. That's infatuation turned to obsession. It pains me to hear you say you love him despite the same garbage day in and day out. This guy is a world-class tool. That's how I was with my 1st girlfriend when I was 15 and didn't know a damn about humility, loving myself, and sustaining a healthy relationship. Get out and move on. Put your foot down and stand up for yourself. Don't take his mental abuse BS anymore, you deserve much better!

This is one thing that has always baffled me. I was reading this thread which, in short, is about the thread starter wanting a fling and not a relationship, and being unsure if the guy in question reciprocates her intentions. So if both parties sense that the other just wants a casual fling, when is it appropriate to have an upfront conversation with the about what your/their intentions are? Like if you just want to make sure they're on the same page as you, is it ever a good idea to just bring it up and be blunt about it? Like saying "look, lets just be honest with each other, we both want it, blah blah...." Or do you guys think that it kills the 'sexual vibe' and does more harm than good?

yeah it sounds like you're getting played pretty badly. Being FWBs with this guy is NOT in your best interest and will only continue to hurt you because you're not that type of person.

so this former coworker of mine met up with me last night for the 1st time since she left the company. There had always been alittle something between us, some flirting, hinting etc. At the end of her employment there, she had been treated bad by the company and one day cried on my shoulder about the situation because I'm one of the only people there who she felt comfortable around and could confide in. After she quit we kept talking, and I sensed a great connection. I asked her out on a real date and she agreed and told me she had been attracted too. So we went out for drinks last night but she bought along a girlfriend of hers who was in from out of town. Everything was going smoothly. But within 35 minutes of us being there, she said that they had to leave because of what sounded like a legitimate excuse having to do with her friend's family and this is the only weekend she gets to see them, blah blah...I got no mention of this before we met up. They left after what I can only call an extensive bathroom conference...we had a long hug and she said she'd call me. Here's the kicker: while we were chatting she basically gave me the biggest red flag I've ever gotten from a girl. She started telling me about how she can't help but bounce around from place to place, can't stand still for too long, can't do one routine for too long, comes and goes as she pleases, always has her foot out the door when it comes to where she lives, works; she's so independent that she doesn't have a thing for serious boyfriends. I teased her about it, saying 'well you've still lived in this area your whole life. It's not like you moved to new york." To that she said "well not yet". So later that night after alot of contemplation, I realize I'm not going to bend to her will and let her take my backbone, I'm not gonna let one more girl take control. I decide to shake the ground underneath her so I text: "look, I'm gonna have to say so long to you. I was into you as more than just a casual whatever and anything less is just not in the cards for me. So this is it dude"... She replies with "ok but are you wanting more than I could offer?" ??? I say "tell me what that is instead of making me guess, or I wont be able to answer the question"... Ok. Obviously she wants me to want her. My question is, is she trying to hint now that she would like to be FWB's? Shes made it clear from day one that she thinks I'm a hunk. I don't want to get into a debate about the evilness of FWB, that's for another thread. I'm just curious as to what she means by that. BTW, she's 28 soon to be 29, I'm 24.

oh snap! LOL

image removed BS, it's not a "load of garbage", it's how it is most of the time. Notice I didn't say all the time. It is the general consensus so don't single me out like I introduced some novel idea.

You're not going to find relationship material girls at clubs, mainly because they're not there looking for relationship-material guys. It's like going to your local video store's porn section looking for a nice video on home gardening.

don't feel too bad, I gave this girl a free ticket to a concert I went to that she really wanted to go to, and she straight up ditched me at the concert and I went home by myself. I haven't heard from her since.

a bed........

great advice. You not eating breakfast alone is a major factor. I was exactly where you were in my HS days, 6'1, 150. I never ate breakfast, sometimes dind't eat lunch because I was trying to save money. Fast fwd to 06 and I'm 185, trying to hit 190 (same height) after years of doing most of what now_better suggested. And don't fill the daily food quota with garbage like fast food!! Try to eat clean at all times and if you want to 'cheat' do so no more than a few times a week.

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legs for sure. I think I have an 'older chick' fetish. I can't get enough when I know the girl is a few years older than me and I start getting hard-ons just thinking about messing around with one.

This doesn't really count but this girl I dated wanted to f*** my brains out during a Sacramento Kings game at Arco Arena. We were having a great time and she was COMPLETELY wasted, like 6 beers and 3 shots of Jack deep, and she started talking dirty to me. I literally had to push her off of me to keep her from shoving her tongue in my mouth and her hand down my pants. And this is a girl who always said she HATED public display of affection!

I lost my virginity at a satellite station that belonged to AT&T a long time ago. It was in the 'guest bedroom' which basically looked like a classroom with a row of beds in it.

I had the same problem not too long ago. One thing you need to do for sure is lube it

oh believe me, I have given her some hints and so has she. I'm actually trying not to think about her so much so I don't completely psych myself out. I totally agree about us not having much time on this earth and when it feels right, I am gonna take some initiative. oh btw, I don't know what I'm smoking but I'm 24, not 23

that's awesome. I'm 23 and am hoping my 28 y.o. coworker and I end up the same way!

I just got mine done this morning. The good news was that I only had one. The bad news was that it was impacted pretty deep. I saw the x-ray and there was a MILE of space in between the gum surface and the top of the wisdom tooth. So I was sedated. When I got home the wound felt fine except for the incredible pain I'm getting when eating soft food. Protein smoothies are sending me into hell for 5 minutes straight. I'm doing the usual ice packs/teabags/antibiotic/Tylenol and I'm curious of those who've had impacted teeth removed, how long did it take before you could eat solids? I weightlift 4-5x a week and this is killing me to not be getting my real food...I can almost hear myself losing weight!

We can all agree that if one of you leaves the company, go for it in a heartbeat. If you want to take a greater risk then go for it while you're coworkers. Maybe if it works and you guys hit it off, have a talk with her right off the bat and establish that no matter what happens between you guys, you need to be on good terms in the workplace and keep it professional. Also, what exactly are your priorities with her? Dating? Something more serious? Or just f-buddies? I've got a coworker I'm into who may also be into me and I'm holding out (we're both holding out considerably)...but I'm also considering exactly what I'd want with her and vise-versa...I know it's not an LTR

The trick is to stop wanting it so badly. I've learned in life that when you stop looking for something, whether it be a great girl or your spare house key, you will then stumble upon it at a random time. Every girl I've been involved with landed in my lap (literally) when I least expected it and didn't care. 99% of the time when I'm looking for something, like my phone, etc., I didn't find it until after I said "forget it" and stopped looking for it. I always find long lost stuff when I least expect it. It's not a coincedence.

You said you're 100% sure you're going to marry him and be with him forever, and in the same breath you said you shot down his offer because you don't want to rush into marriage, you just want to see if living with him will work...make up yo mind girl! lol

lol, the most ignorant response I've gotten in a while. I seriously just laughed out loud reading that. Did you even read the first post in this thread? And it's ironic, I read some of the threads here and think to myself, "whew, I guess I'm not as needy and insecure as I thought".