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I think it would be sorta weird to contact someone that you've never talked to, but I wouldn't consider it "stalking", just a little weird, and I think you could even get to know people that way if you do it right.

no she didn't dump me, we never went out, we had a crush on each other, but I don't think my situation even counts it was a LOOOONNNNGGG time ago.

I don't know but it sure bugs me when girls my age try to go for older guys. Girls that go for older guys are EASY targets for those guys.

There's definitely been a girl in my past that I haven't gotten over, but I don't think it was because she didn't want me.

"and if he made a move on me, does this mean that Curtis doesn't have any romantic interest in me (because friends don't go after their friends' interests)?" Friends will go for their friends' interests. I don't think you need to tell Curtis personally. When Curtis gets back tell him that you have feelings for him. Talk to Matt, and make it VERY clear that nothing will ever happen between the two of you. I think you can still be friends if he gets it...

There's a girl that I'm CRAZY about. I would much rather be her friend than not know her at all. CRAZY...almost literally.

I'm sorry about what you're going through buddy. People can be real jerks, and it's all about them feeling better about themselves. But hey... you CAN change the way you are. Get into a sport. You have a pool nearby? Go swimming everyday. Lose some weight. Get motivated. You've gotta go hard if you wanna lose it. I hate to be the one here that is suggesting that you need to lose weight, but it will make a huge difference in your life. Eat healthy and get LOTS of exercise. You have to make a routine for yourself. Go swimming for 30 minutes every day. Make yourself TIRED. Eat less. Look up how many calories someone your height should eat a day, and figure out how much you should be eating. MAKE sure you avoid fatty foods. You CAN change, but like someone else said, do it for yourself. You will feel much better about yourself knowing that you were able to change your life. And when you've done it you can shove it in those jerks' faces. But for now, you've gotta learn how to make fun of yourself, it will completely diffuse anyone that is trying to make fun of you. If someone calls you fat, just grab your belly, smile wide, and say, "damn right,I worked hard to earn this". Take it on the chin and no one will be able to take advantage of you.

Find someone else. That's the only thing I can think of... especially if you're around this guy all the time.

-"Great poll! If I had to pick ... it would have to be Freddie Ljunberg! For those of you who don't know who that is, he's my UK football teams midfielder! He plays for A,rsenal! Great topic! Miya xx"- HAHA!!! GO TOTTENHAM!!!! Champions league here we come. HEHE Celeb - Keira Knightly or Charlize Theron

immature people are fickle (both men and women).

... I have enough crap to worry about already, I really hope this doesn't matter either way for women....

I would send someone something like that when I'm sober.

sh*t = mind if you ask me. I don't think that's a drunk e-mail necessarily. He's taking the break up hard, and just wants you to know it.

"walk with your head down, shuffle when you walk around them, avoid eye contact if you talk to them, and talk in a scrawny tone of voice, act like you have zero confidence, and you will have success my boy. Also, when you talk to them, start complaining about everything, be as negative as possible." Wait... you mean girls don't like that? No wonder I've been alone all my life, or... am I like that because I've been alone all my life? Wow what a catch 22.

screw you for having a problem like that. Get over yourself . There's no way to stop that.

how old are you?

I'm an INTJ

Avoidance doesn't mean he doesn't like you. Not all guys will just "go for it". In fact, if he sees you coming and goes somewhere else to get away, then chances are he does like you (unless you did something to make him dislike you) and just can't really deal with it. I know this from experience.

"as a guy that has fantasized about this somewhat at times, I can tell you, most guys love this kind of sex. I'm glad that I don't have to be on the receiving side, cuz it seems like it would be very uncomfortable. But, of course, if you dont wana, you need to tell him so." Most guys? Dunno about that one. I for one don't really feel like that's something I would want to do... I'd be willing to do it if my partner wanted to but...

Venus just ask him straight out if you're exlusive or not.

"I wouldnt say that men are dense we just prefer to be spoken to in blunt simple terms. Not some "beat around the bush, I am afraid to offend, scare etc. you"' definitely agree with that. That stuff drives me NUTS. And you're right it's not that we don't get it... but rather that we EXPECT people to be straight forward, because... why wouldn't they be?

...How far from you? If it's really far then I would suggest you find someone in the real world. If he's close then I suggest you drive over to meet him some weekend and see what happens from there.

I don't think anyone's trying to put you down. If people see you as quiet and tomboyish then it's because that's the way you act, or at least the way that they perciece you act. I don't think you should take offense to any of that, but if you want to be seen in a different way, be aware of how you're acting and how people might percieve the way you act.

The most important thing to me is health. I've seen LOTS of women that I considered very beautiful that would not be considered skinny. Someone who is "fat" is very unattractive to me because it makes me think they're inactive and don't take good care of themselves.

Yeah, that sounds like a good sign to me. Like you said you "upped the ante" and he liked it and wanted to follow up. Up the ante some more next time you see him.