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FallBack, i know exactly how you feel. i was bullied and picked on for a good portion of my school career. what helps though, is you need to outwit them. i can tell by the way you ellequently wrote your thread that your a smart kid. next time hey bullie you, calmy and sternly ask 'why are you doing this?' try not to get emotional. if they answer, keep asking them why they do any of it. if they say 'well, your a loser' or anything like that, question why they think so. finally, they will probably come to a pathetic reason why they bully you. it will probably be a stupid answer, but if you keep calm, it will be more intimidating than if you threaten them or get angry at them. out smart them. they have no reason to pick on you, and you can make them realize that. tell them they are only bullying you because they are looking for someone that wont stand up for themselves, and make themselves feel good and strong. they are fighting unfair, but they probably know if they pick on someone tougher than them, they will get thier butts kicked. i hope that helps, it always has for me. if someone told me i was a loser i asked them why and they generally answered with something dumb like 'because' than you can just laugh at them and walk away. that drives people nuts!! a good line for me was 'think whatever you must to make yourself happy' than i giggled and i was gone. another good line for me was '... ... okay ...?' kinda like, what are you getting at and i dont care either way. please be careful though, i dont know the full extent to thier anger and i dont want you to get hurt. try confiding in a teacher or maybe the principal. you can also pm me any time you like, darlin. i hope this helps, but please dont hurt yourself. just remember, these kids are ignorant and petty and those are the people you never want to win. we're all here for ya if you need anything the best of luck!!!

you can always see a doctor and they can keep it confidential. they arent gonna tell your parents why you did it. if your really opposed to seeing one though, use antiseptic every day at least twice a day. i wouldnt keep and bandages on it because you want to let it air out. or you can put neosporin on it A LOT. i cant garentee that will kill an infection, but it may help... but i agree, you should probably see a doctor. or atleast go to a clinic. there they can help you privetly, i think.

i know what you mean by its hard to find a motivation to stop cutting. i sliced myself up because i felt no one cared if i did or didnt, in fact, i pretty much feel that way still. but you can find motivation in little things. for instance, i have a dog who has been with me for her entire life. shes about twelve now so ive been with her for a long time too. as bizarre as this sounds, i think about how if she were human how she would worry about me. my dog is probably one of the very few creatures that truelly understands me. its her devoted love that makes me think twice about picking up the razor. what im saying is that something as odd as an animal can help you stop. but you have to want to stop. if your not ready to stop then dont force yourself, because you dont want to make yourself feel bad because your having a hard time stopping. something that helps me is writing. i bought a journal and i write furiously when im upset. i let my handwriting get all crazy and messy. it gives me something to look back on, and then i can tell if what im upset about is logical or if its just me overreacting. i hope that helps

thanks. i really appriciate your input, considering ive never met anyone with my mentality about it. i'll take your word for how normal it is

well theres lots of things it could be. sometimes when i get tense i cant pee, like if im afraid someones gonna walk in on me and stuff like that. also, i find when i think about peeing to much, like im in a hurry i cant go for a while. generally, i just space off and it works okay. but give it a little while and if it continues, or is accompianed by a pain, you may wanna see a physician.

i am a cutter and a self abuser. i have bouts of very low self esteem and im not to fond of how i look. there are many things ive done inn the past that really upset me. so to help, i cut myself. not to deal with the problems, but i honestly feel i deserve to be hurt. for example, my semi bf had made out with my best friend. well the next night, i had a talk with him about it and he said he regretted kissing her. he knew that what they did made me very upset considering they are both my best friends and she said she'd never do anything like that with her friends ex's or crushes. so anyway, that night i had slept with him to help show to him that i was okay and i still loved him and so on. the next day all three of us hung out and i was flirty with him and such and my friend got mad. later i found out that she thought they were dating and he had asked her out (because he wanted to know if she wanted to date him in the future, but she didnt understand what he meant). i felt like such a skank becuase i had slept with him and i made him cheat on her. so i cut myself up very badly. so what im asking is, does anyone else feel like they deserve the pain they inflict on themselves?

they are all right, you should definatly leave him immediately. break up with him in a very public place, like a returaunt or a mall. make sure there are many people around to see, because if he does something to you in a public place, you have so many whitnesses to aid you. and to get your stuff, bring many friends, or even just people you vaguely know. the best of luck to you. and remember that its not your fault at all. hes an adult and should know how to handle his anger by now.

im the same way. i had no idea i liked to be spanked. i think that comes from me being more submissive during sex. sometimes its just fun to let your partner go wild. i think it adds some thrill!

dont be ashamed of that. many people are curious about having other relations. if you really wanted to act upon your fantasy, try inviting him to watch. you guys sound like you trust eachother immensly, so something like exploring sexual ideas would probably not hurt your relationship. a good way to bring it up to him may be to tell him about your fantasy. you dont even have to say you want to go through with it. he may find it really sexy or cute that you have fantasies about women. and if he enjoys talking about it, perhaps he wouldnt mind letting you try it. good luck!

i was 17. i gave it to my absolute best friend in the world, and i think he deserves to keep a part of me forever!

you sound absolutly thrilled! congradulations! it sounds like you had one of those 'romance movie' kinda moments lol

first kisses are fun. but again, dont plan it. just do on her what youd like her to do to you! i remember my first kiss. my friend, who was sitting next to me just kinda leaned in a kissed me! i was confused but very happy. the surprise was an excellent expirience and his lips on mine felt so good. i dont think it really would have mattered if he accidently bit me. all that mattered was that he did it!

it does sound like he was lookin for a quick fix. but again, act friendly towards him. he may like you a lot, or he may have the wrong idea about you and think that your easy. if he does, you may not want to date him because you were intoxicated and who knows what could happen next time?

when my partner and i kiss, i like it when he gentelly licks my lips or sucks on them. also, try sucking lightly on the colar bones. and as stated, the ear and neck are both very nice. if you you want to play with her nipples, while keeping up a gental sucking, try lightly flicking your tongue around and on it. ive also heard from a lot of women, that they like the back of thier knees licked. try also tongue caressing parts of her body that may get stressed daily or that she kind of forgets about. for instance her fingertips or the palms of her hands.

ten times a day is nothing. dont worry about it. sometimes people just discover that they can do things like that and they're like 'whoa... what was i doing before this!!??" i know i was like that. im a girl so i dont know any techniques, but maybe shampoo, obbviously not going near your urethra. or maybe a soft piece of cloth...

if i remember correctly, when girls have an orgasm they feel like they have to go to the bathroom. ive expirenced this a lot. also, i found that certain sex positions can push on my bladder more and make me feel like i have to go. but i get UTI's a lot, so i may be more sensitive. try trying a new position or if ya gotta go, push him off and go go go!!

dont ever be ashamed of masturbating! its fun! try manipulating your pillow technique with your boyfriend. i bet hed have no problem helping you! and mircle's got it right! thats a lovely way to feel good (and clean!). i have never climaxed during sex, and i dont really expect too. but nonetheless, masturbating is a wonderful expirence that will help you learn a little more about your secret self . have you ever heard of "Tantra"? look into it, it may help!!

i think what may be triggering some problems is that perhaps you feel like he isnt saticfied with you. sometimes girls think that because a boy looks at porn that his they are not living up to his standards. i doubt thats the case though. boys sometimes just like to look at naked people.

i think you may be jealous because before, girls werent threatening. he was just dating them because... but a boy could be a different story. jealousy is an aweful feeling but dont let it infringe on your friendship with him. it sounds like you wont anyway. but try to get saticfaction in that he may be very happy with this boy as his partner. that helps me sometimes.

thats a good idea hopeless. try cutting something else. i know it sounds dumb, but it helps me. i cut paper a lot. but i cut little things out of it, like shapes and designs. i think being able to focus on the art of it helps me resist the urge to cut myself!!

i had a cutting problem myself and i never thought twice about it. i cut and i didnt care who saw or who mentioned anything, because no one ever gave me a good enough reason to stop. it was finally one day that one of my friends, who had made me so upset noticed that i had sliced my leg and my arm up. he broke down in tears and cried for a long time. it was then i thought that that was a good enough reason to stop cutting myself. what im saying is, it helps to try to live for something. it doesn have to be a person, it could be a special pet, or even just the saticfaction of knowing you wont have any scars. and trust me, i know its incredibly hard sometimes to overcome the feeling to cut... but oddly enough, and i really never thought this would work, i started cutting up paper, really intricitly with the tool i had cut myself with. it helped a bit, just enough to make me feel better. live for the day, not for the past or the future. and congradulations. you have incredible strength and will power.

lots of kids act violently when they are young. sometimes they just dont understand what they are doing. they think that hurting something will slove thier problems. perhaps you hurt animals and kids because subconsciencly you wanted the attention or maybe because you liked the power. its really not unusual for a child to be violent. sometimes that kid has something to say and cant think of a better way to explain him or herself. i wouldnt worry about any of your children. at a young age, teach them to talk about anything thats on thier mind. anything. perhaps then they wont have any violent urges or tendencies.

my dad had cancer just this summer. my mom and my sister both had serious issues as they coped with it. i had an a feeling, the entire time, that nothing was truelly wrong. i kept optomistic and stayed that way, and now hes in remission!! i always remember this study that was done. they took a glass of freezing ice and put in into a bland room, without people or music or colors. just a bland room. then they took another glass of freezing ice and put it into a room with classical music, happy people and a generally pleased ambiance. the ice crystals in the bland room grew in odd ways but the crystals in the happy room made shapes and patterns. your dreams may be the real deal. your dad may get better! always think positivly but dont deny what may happen. opptimism, i think, really does help!!

i have seen a lot of that too. it is annoying, but again, people like attention. its kinda this new age fad because back in the pre 80's balemia was the fad. what will come next?