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^thank you for your reply. i'm glad that there are at least some men who understand what i feel. of course, most of my discomfort comes from my own insecurities and jealousy, but another part of the problem is my anger towards society itself. i detest the fact that i got caught up in the trap of the very things i hate the most. for example, i hate to admit that i feel inferior to some women because of my smaller chest, but being a very self conscious person, everything around me that i see seems to suggest that society's "ideal female" is tall, thin and reveals too much cleavage. my boyfriend, of course, tells me that it's all in my mind and to stop playing the victim. i would agree, but his actions confuse me. i mean, he tells me to stop b*tching because i'm perfect in his mind and that he wouldn't change a thing about me, but then he goes and jerks off to fake blonde bimbos. isn't that ironic? i feel that i've been cheated or something.

sorry for taking so long to reply. well, i don't think porn viewing has anything to do with disatisfaction in our sex life. i do my best to please him yet i seem to be the one who always wants sex now, and he blames his loss of libido on the fact i banned porn from him, but this makes me insanely mad because i believe that in a healthy relationship, sexual stimulation should stem from each other, and not from an outside source. i have also thought over watching it with him. but again, i don't want to be just the "flesh" that he directs his lustings (from looking at other women). my feelings are hard to put into words and i apologize if this is a bit hard to understand.

alright, i just read the post a ways down from mine concerning the same topic. i've tried this time and time again, and i always get the same replies from people. *prepares to be bashed* but as someone stated, porn is an addition to the world, and it doesn't mean just because males are MADE TO DO IT that women are MADE TO ACCEPT IT. this battle will probably go on eternally... anyway, any comments are welcome =)

I have been battling jealousy all my life but I feel it affects my love life the most. I have been with my current boyfriend for a year and a half and things are going alright but this problem is bugging me to the point of sleep loss. It may seem like a small problem for some, but I get uncontrollably jealous and angry about my boyfriend looking at porn or anything that includes scarcely clad women (of course him gazing at real-life attractive women angers me too, but that's a different story). He has told me he won't do it again, but after all, he is a guy and the fact that he sometimes can't help it is what angers me the most. What can I do? I feel bad for nagging and checking and prodding him to keep his promise, but yet porn viewing in a commited relationship is just disrespectful and absolutely against my morals. Of course I don't deny that it is stimulating and there would be nothing wrong if he wasn't in a relationship with someone, but I just break down everytime I find evidence that he has looked at something. I will probably never accept his porn viewing (not that he's obssesed or anything, I've only caught him one time after he promised not to) I don't see the need to. Mostly, I'm looking for a way to trust him when he says he understands and will never do it again. Does anyone have the same case? Words of advice are much appriciated!