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  1. gattsuga
    i live in alberta too, and i wouldn't invest in real estate right now. the winter months are generally the best times to buy a home, but that's pretty much over now. right now, i'm playing in the stock market, but these have certain risks associated with it. If you want to play safe, invest in mutual funds, or blue chip stocks. those usually give you a return of ~10% a year. good luck
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    I agree with kuys. the only reason is because she had some a relationship with this other guy. who knows what his intentions are, maybe he wants to fool around again. it's not unacceptable for you to tag along since you two are now a couple.
  3. gattsuga
    i think you need to ask why you're marrying your current fiance. do you love her? other than safe and responsible, what else do you two have in your relationship? why don't you two have any sparks in your private time? other than the intense 'private time' with the blonde, what else do you share? Is it all just physical? You say she doesn't have much of a personality, and doesn't share the same views as you in a lot of areas. Is this 'intense' private time going to last forever? What happens 5-10 years down the road, when things die down a bit... a relationship has to have more than just an intense sex life (although a lack of one is a big problem too) from your post, it sounds like you already know what you want... but you just don't know if it's the right choice. this is a really tough choice... and i don't envy you for having to make it. but i think ultimately, it's what YOU want the most. It doesn't matter what your parents/her parents think. It's better than living in doubt for the rest of your life
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    why don't you just abstain from sex then. it's your body, u can do whatever you want. nobody is forcing you to have sex, or even do any sexual acts. i watched a documentary about a group of people who boycotted sex completely from their lives... they have a wesite, but I don't remember what they're called. You don't need to give in to the pressures of society. Just b/c other people enjoy sex, doesn't mean you need to. the reason i remembered this documentary was because two of the leaders of this boycott sex group eventually got married... and guess what? they tried out sex for the first time to experiment. at the end of the documentary they said they've stepped down as leaders and have sex frequently. maybe there's just something more you need to make sex good.
  5. gattsuga
    Hmm... does your wife know she calls you? Is she okay with that? I find it really strange why you're still in contact with her... Didn't your wife tell you to never contact her again?
  6. gattsuga
    She was obviously devastated by what you did. I'm surprised you two stayed together when you initially had the affair at 25 years of age. She obviously cares about this relationship, or else why would she stay? Did you have kids 7 years ago? I think you two need to sit down and have a long chat. From what you say, your wife just can't get over the fact you cheated on her. is there any love left in your relationship? Or is the only reason you're staying together the kids? If you two want to have any sort of romance/love, she's going to have to stop mentioning the affair every chance she gets. It's become so easy for her to mention it, cuz once she does, she usually wins the argument right? Tell her if she wants to have any kind of happy relationship between the two of you, she needs to stop mentioning it all the time. I mean 7 years is a LONG time... I think she's only mentioning it all the time because 1) she despises you, and has not forgiven you yet 2) she uses it to win her arguments 3) she's really hurt, and it's something that bothers her every day of her life.
  7. gattsuga
    don't over analyze the situation. you'll only create doubt in your mind, and it will show in your relationship. if you have nothing other than this to base your accusations on, i don't think they are justified. it could be he just likes to mix it up, and being dark adds more erotism for him
  8. gattsuga
    slip some viagra into his coffee but yes, male sex drive does go down as we age i hope i'm 50 or 60 before that happens to me
  9. gattsuga
    i like slow r&b music. artists like babyface, boys2men, usher, janet jackson, mariah carey
  10. gattsuga
    well you are taking money away from her. maybe she only sells once in awhile because people don't buy that much at your office. is there anywhere else you can start selling your products.... or even sell different things?
  11. gattsuga
    The best thing for you, and the worst thing for him right now, is for you to ignore everything he does.. completely. If he stalks you, go to a public place and pretend he doesn't exist. If he doesn't stop, get a court order. NO JOKE. Stalkers are really creepy, you never know what's going throught their minds. for all you know, if he sees another opportunity, he might even try to rape you and dominate you again. Please be very careful. If he spreads rumors around, and tells all his friends/your friends, I'd ignore it. It's something you did, and you probably will have to live with it while you're still going to school together. But school ends, and life goes on. He's like your bully now, and like all bullies, they crave attention above all else. Depending on how stubborn he is, he might keep persisting relentlessly, but if you ALWAYS and always ignore him, he could lose interest eventually. Take care of yourself, and I'm glad to hear you're taking steps to correct what you did. He's definitely not worth it. other than his parent's money, he doesn't have much left. i pity him
  12. gattsuga
    wow... are u sure you want to be with a woman like that? maybe i'm not as open as everyone else, but doesn't this seem extremely inappropriate? Her ex doesn't know she's playing around with him. She's sleeping with other men willingly. You're encouraging her to do all this. ??? what if the tables were turned and she did the same to you one day. man i'd probably be arrested for assault.
  13. gattsuga
    trimmed is the best
  14. gattsuga
    so why are you with her? and yes i believe restraining someone without their consent is considered abuse.
  15. gattsuga
    That's strange... why is she so afraid of you cheating on her? Is there something in her past that would make her so insecure? maybe something you did, or a previous relationship? Let her cool off for a bit, and tell her you need to talk things through. she doesn't trust you at all... and if you've been together for 3 years, there should be a solid trust unless something's broken it. i'd reason with her, and tell her that there's nothing to worry about. But you can't have her accusing you of cheating, when a bunch of stuff was just stolen from you...
  16. gattsuga
    is his fingernails clipped? how does he finger you? just in and out? maybe use some lubrication on his fingers too.. and tell him to go slower at first
  17. gattsuga
    I think the most important thing you can do is make sure you're clean and have good hygeine. Hopefully she will do the same. Cleanliness will make things 10x more enjoyable. Communication is very important, watch her body language. Always compliment her on her body, and don't say anything insensitive like, 'wow i didn't know they looked like THAT'.. and if she tastes bad, never say it... ok as for technique... you probably want her to be laying down in a comfortable position. Start out slowly, and don't focus too fast on her vagina. Kiss, suck, lick her nipples, her ear, neck, stomach... wherever she likes it. then once she starts moving her hips towards your mouth, find her clit and lick it.... every woman is different, so be sensitive to her reactions. her clit can be very sensitive, so you need to experiment to see what pressure is best. ask her what she wants, and go with it. for your first time, just relax and enjoy the experience. don't cum on her face... lol. unless she's into that i guess. but it's pretty messy, so either she can try keeping it in her mouth, or get some tissue
  18. gattsuga
    You know it's wrong, but you just can't stop... it's good that you know it's wrong... but then why are you still doing it? you know if you stay with your current bf, you're going to have this on your shoulders for the rest of your life... or you can tell him and it'll be on both of your shoulders. i think you need to end things with both of them like everyone's been saying, and stop being so selfish. yes, what you're doing is very selfish. it's time to grow up, and learn to practise some self control, and do what YOU know is right.
  19. gattsuga
    u got lucky this time...
  20. gattsuga
    maybe you need to just work your PC muscles... or do some kind of kegels. if your sex drive is still normal, and you have no problems getting it up, maybe your muscles are just too weak to sustain you longer than 30 mins
  21. gattsuga
    how old are you two? if she did that when i'm around, i'd probably say 'good luck with him, hope you two have a good future together' and walk away. no way i'd let anyone treat me like that. i'm not into the whole revenge thing, that just makes you as bad as her. tell her to stop, or tell her to get lost
  22. gattsuga
    I think you should seriously consider your options here before saying your vows. You want to explore, and see what else is out there. You have to decide whether or not it's worth it for you. Do you want to risk losing her forever, in return to clearing your doubts? If you marry her, do you think these doubts would ever go away? It sounds like there's a personality difference here. It's almost like the love is mostly on her side, and you're just there kind of reflecting her love back to her. If the way she speaks, and acts bother you to such a degree, don't you think there's something seriously wrong here? Are you going to be able to spend everyday with this girl, and not be annoyed or frustrated? If you answered no, then you're just lying to yourself to go through with this marriage. i won't lie to you... since you're already engaged and everyone knows, it's going to be extremely difficult for both of you if you break up. But you need to decide whether or not you can accept her for better or worse, and love her for the rest of your lives.
  23. gattsuga
    so what's the ideal size for most women? or what's your personal preference?
  24. gattsuga
    i disagree. What kind of relationship only has one side winning all the arguments? There needs to be a balance, or you'd never get your way, and she always will. Maybe she made some mistakes, you can't just dismiss that and say it was your fault. it could be the long distance that is eating her up. not having any physical contact is very difficult for some people. Whether or not you two are strong enough to overcome that is up to you two. send her flowers from her local flower shop, mail her some presents that have your personal touch.
  25. gattsuga
    Sounds like you're being pressured into something you don't want to do. She's the one who gave you the ultimatum, she's the one who wants to book the wedding, etc. Take a good look at yourself, and your future. Can you remain faithful and in love with this girl for the rest of your life? 30-50 years? Or are you just scared to be alone. If you are just scared to be alone, then do yourself AND her a favour... seriously consider breaking up. It WILL hurt both of you, but in the long run it will be better for BOTH of you. She doesn't deserve someone who is always unsure about her, and compares her to others. And you deserve someone you can treasure, and worship. Have you ever felt that she was perfect for you? Or are you just settling for the fact that she's there and makes you feel good.
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