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  1. minnie
    you already seem to know what to do - so now you just have to wait for him to get back. I have been through something like this and that wait is the hardest. When he gets back you are going to miss him like hell but, fight those feelings because, you know what you HAVE to do. To be honest, i think he will deny it, i dont know why. If she calls again talk to her and hear what she has to say - for you, so you know. I have just only now changed my number, after eveything i have been through, and it is hard but if thats what you want to do, then do it. But dont change it, only to give it back to him!!!
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    It was intentional, she probly passed your name in the phonebook, and was like hmm! i wonder. I think if it was really a mistake, she wouldn't have realised that she sent it to you.
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    Hi, Dont call him, wait for him to call you. If he does then, tell him what has happened and that you are not interested. He sounds like the type to deny it, which is why i say you should talk to this witch - to get something more concrete, so he cant deny it. If he denys it an you didnt get much information, after a while you may start to believe him, and let him back in your life. You dont really need to say much just that you know, and you dont want nothing to do with him - then hang up, Cuz there is no point listening to his explanation, although i am curious as to what he will say - you dont really want to hear it. You dont owe him anything, i know you are going through a hard time right now but, you dont have to let him explain - it will do you no good. Be strong, dont accept no less than you deserve.
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    Answer your phone and tell her EVERYTHING!!! How dare she deal with you like that - you didn't know. Im sorry, but i would have it, tell her to tell HIM to stay away from YOU, cuz i bet he will be calling you none stop when he knows you know, try to 'explain'. You can tell her as much as you feel comfortable really, but get the point accross that you didn't know what was going on here, so she really need to think about WHO to blame. You are not pestering him, you didn't know about her (because he didn't mention HER) and you dont need him and dont want him. I know you probably still do but dont let on. Stand up for yourself, to her and him x x x
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    No i would not have been turned on if my mailman saw me naked - although i love my body and who i am, i would have been sorta embarrassed. I mean on a beach me in a bikini yeah, everyone can see parts of me they normally wouldnt, but no way i cant even imagine it. I wouldnt be turned on because i dont know him, i dont like him, and thats just not a turn on for me. It maybe just me but... no Do you like the mailman?
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    True, True! Alls i can say is im trying, and this does actually make sense. A person needs to get back in tune with themselves before persueing, the same or another relationship - period.
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    I think its quite weird to be 'turned on' by your family seeing you naked. I dont understand why you would want to do that. Also, you seem to like the fact that the mailman saw you, so maybe you should take up stripping. At the end of the day, your family have told you they dont like it - so why keep doing it? Yeah you enjoy but out of respect do it in your room, if someone knocks your door, put something on first!! They dont like it.
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    So right now are you still speaking to him? Or have you not spoken to him since
  9. minnie
    I think if both people are cool with it, then fine. But it rarely stays that way, and someone develops feelings for the other etc... i dont think you should do it.
  10. minnie
    Do you think he may already be in a relationship with someone?
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    Hi, I think to an extend you have to just let it go. You have said your piece to him so he knows how you feel. And you know how he feels. I think you should just leave it as that and dont mention it again - he said he didn't want a relationship yet, so its up to you how far you let things go in the future, you already know what he wants. If this is not what you want then, dont call him back - his loss x x
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    There you go, it would be much of a thread if we waited on the guys!!
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    I met a guy at work who had a wife and just found out she was pregnant, then he told me about his other woman. I wanted to know the same thing you are asking now, but he couldnt give me an answer. Alls he said was it was just about sex. He also said this girl was totally different to his wife. He praises his wife day in and day out, when i ask him how he could do this to her - he cant give me an answer. So overall i didnt get any understanding about the situation other than he was being selfish.
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    Hey, It may be a possibility that she has a problem with self esteem. I say this because i am, near enough in the same situation. Yes, i think i am acting the same as your girlfriend, and reading this has made me think about what it is doing to my boyfriend. If you knew me you wouldn't know i have self confidence issues, so maybe she is hiding it. I mean there are parts of my body i dont like but overall i think i look good. What stops me from initiating sex, is fear of rejection and even though i am as horny as hell i wont do anything until he comes to me. We have done doggystyle 3 times, i have never been on top, i really want to but, i think i will be embarrassed and that i wont do 'it' right another thing is i dont know what i should be doing. I dont know what to do to overcome this... yet, but i just thought i would give you another view on things as this may be a possibility. x x
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    I agree - the text doesn't really need a reply anyway. Stop thinking so hard x x x
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    Thanks guys, i think the main point here is meaning what you say and sticking to it. I have been NC since Nov 30, he has tried to call but i hang up. But he is on holiday right now now and is due back soon, i know its going to get harder and hope that he wont turnin up outside my house everyday. I dont want to be rude, but i suppose after a certain time you have to be!
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    Just a quick question, for both genders really. Say you have just broken up with someone... they are begging and pleading for another chance... ](*,) What did you do to show them that you were serious and didn't want to get back with them? OR You were the one that was dumped. What did the other person do, that made you take a step back and think "they are really not interested anymore" All input is good input X x x
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    Im sure you understand that there is only so much i can tell you to do, cuz im going through it too. But, i am at the point now where i can see exactly what is going on, and i know what i need to do, that is the hard part. I dont think i would ever get back with him, after how he treated me. I spoke to him last tuesday, and he said he was gettin his hair cut and would call me back.. I haven't heard anything since. I have made the decision to go no contact - so i can move on as all hes doing is holding me back. I dont want to hear from him, i want him to stay away. I have made the decision not to tell him, cuz if he call back he would have known. I have had it, and i know what i need to do. You really need to start taking control, so you can be happy, with or without him. No games, decide what you want to do and stick to it. At least until you are in the right frame of mind to deal with him, and when you are there i dont think, you would waste your time on him anyway. TAKE CONTROL please do this, i feel rubbish right now but i am sticking to it - i know i will feel better soon. You will too X x x
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    I think you shouldn't have any contact with him, babes. I have been there and i no its damn hard, but you HAVE to do it. I am doing it now, i cant really see the light yet (at all), but i know its coming. I just thought, if he loved me at all he wouldn't have done the things he did. You have to move on, or at least try and let him think you have. Speak to you later X X X
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    Let out a yell, i sure did that!!! I think it went o.k, just o.k. I was nervous as hell, but i got through it. Thanks for all the advice, i know i have more presentations to come so its very useful. Thanks again x x x
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    This is so true. But.. with me i try to let go of hope, and tell myself its over and try to move on. But something in my mind always brings me back to him. I wouldn't call it day dreaming... well yeah i suppose it is, but i always have these visions of us in the future. When i realise i am doing it i try to stop myself. That is the hard part. But.. i suppose this will pass with time.
  22. minnie
    Thanks all for the advice. I just keep telling myself these things and try to train my mind not to be worried (if that makes any sense). But i bet no matter what i try to do , my body will do something else!!! I have completed it now so, i will get as much practice as possible in presenting. Im thinking of using some visual aid to get the eyes off me... Thanks for all your advice x x x
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    hey, I have to do a presentation for a module at university next week. I am dreading it, and was just looking for some tips on how to go through with it. I am not a terribly shy person, but i am quite reserved. I rarely speak out in lectures unless i really dont understand something. But thinking about it now i feel really nervous, and am just looking for tips to just make me get on with it. Any ideas?
  24. minnie
    Hi guys, i have been doing full no contact for about 10 days now. I broke up with my 'boyfriend', because i found out he was married - after 3 years. Yes, now i look back i see the signs but i feel that i chose to ignore them. Anyway broke up with him in august, but i havent fully done no contact, i always broke it- either by answering my phone or calling him and i have also slept with him since then. I feel like a fool for being kept in the dark for so long, and i have realise that he is not the person i would really want to be with, if he could do that to his wife. I have made the decision to have no contact at all, so its been jst over a week and i have just found out he has gone to his home country for christmas and new year - he hasn't tried to call me. Sometimes i feel good within myself, then.... well you know the rest. I will post here my feelings and progress along with everyone else - so we can help each other. we can do it x x x x
  25. minnie
    I am going through kinda the same thing too, i think you just have to be firm. You either want it or you dont. I dont want it, but its still happening, i know i sound stupid not taking my own advice, its the doing that is the hard part. That is what i have to put all my effort into now, but i always seem to fall back. If you both want it and have no problems thats fine, but there will come a time when soemone will get hurt - i my case it is me.
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