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  1. Msnak
    Hmm, things about someone I dated that I can SEE now 1. he was glued to his friends--on "man dates" where it's the guys hanging out 2. when his parents came into town from 1,000 miles away, he didn't hang out with them, he went out with his friends instead 3. he wasn't that good at calling when he said he would (but always called me back) 4. he was too much into sports (playing it, watching it, talking about it) and I do like sports! 5. he wasn't romantic 6. always apologizing for making the same mistake (being too busy for us) and not really doing anything about it 7. calling me at the last second to hang out, when he knows we both have nutty schedules 8. when a family friend died, he made a joke about death--insensitive jerk! 9. didn't seem overly interested in being a couple Overall, nothing too bad, but, bad enough!!! (I might have to edit/update this! LOL!)
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    Hello, Iwant--- You're doing excellent. Everyone's right about the ups and downs. I'm on a rollercoaster ride, and the switch seems to be broken! I want this ride to end! Let this be the place to vent and think aloud. You might learn something new about the relationship that will teach you something to use in the future. Never know.
  3. Msnak
    Yes, be very careful, he sounds so confused that he's currently blind (or just selfish & inconsiderate) and cannot see what harm he is causing you. A relationship cannot be sustained when you don't see each other very often, and have no REAL reason or distance keeping you apart. He may be stalling, but you're right to be worried that you'll be investing too many emotions in a man who might not be worth them. I've been there. And a man who really cares for you, won't let too much time pass without making a committed effort to see or spend time with you. That was my lesson learned. Good luck.
  4. Msnak
    Brandy, this was a very refreshing post, I had to respond! I agree! You brought home the main points and I think Moose has a chance with her. So, as long as there's some interest, it would be silly to walk away. I had a similiar situation, where the interest was there, but shyness, work and schedules got in the way. But you do have to see what's there, to keep from wondering!!
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    You'll need some time to keep getting over her, but I wasn't sure if you wanted her back or someone else. Maybe it's the good qualities about her that you find yourself drawn to. Perhaps you can figure out what those were, and find a woman with those. Of course, that's easier said than done!
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    Well, as a woman, I think it was awesome how she taught her children by example, that you should speak up for what you believe in. She did, until a very late age. Her children are following her legacy. Unfortunately, there are very few people in this world who are able, interested or willing to "fight" for something that can change the world and make it a better place.
  7. Msnak
    Do you want this person back? You seem to care about her perception of you.
  8. Msnak
    Hmm... At one point in my life, I thought I was a pure jerk magnet. After the proverbial midnight, I turned into a pumpkin and my princes turned into frogs with jerk-like tendencies! (Kermit, the lone exception) I even intentionally started dating nerds or shy guys and--not to make a blanket statement--but most guys in my life find some way to let me down, more than hurt me. So I guess it may depend what makes someone a jerk. Poll wise -- in the past three years: 7 of 9 were jerks.
  9. Msnak
    Great quote. Shows you're aware of what's important. I would say, if you two didn't burn bridges, maybe you can strike up a friendship with her and see what happens. But maybe let a little more time pass.
  10. Msnak
    It was probably a "I want you back" test. But it sure has been a while!!
  11. Msnak
    You're so beyond your years, it's ridiculous!! This is a poem with a message.
  12. Msnak
    Wow. You have analyzed this. You seem to have received good signs from her verbally and physically--but they don't match up with her availability. I don't drink or anything like that either, but I'm not sure what you mean by referring to that. Is it that she makes you feel good, a natural high, if you will...except when you consider not being with her? Does this mean you like her but think it won't work out? The last line you wrote speaks volumes. But can you get confirmation from her, just to make sure it's true? Try asking her directly if she'd like to honestly try and spend more time with you. If she says no, that's your answer. Is she close to being done with school?
  13. Msnak
    I'm not exactly sure what your reasons are for running away. It seems like you need her to show more interest, and that maybe you're confused. I understand she's not in touch as often, and that you weren't able to talk much in person. How many times have you seen her? Can you get together once more, just to see how things go? I bet she won't say no. It sounds as if you two may have built up such anticipation and excitement, that when you finally met after all that time, both of you were a bit disappointed. Were you attracted to her? Does she have time to date? Does she complain much about being single? Could you see yourself with her? You might have to do some serious analyzing to figure out if you really want to walk away or stick around.
  14. Msnak
    She's certainly not over you! I cannot believe she had the nerve to come harass you while you were out having fun, knowing that you are not into her. Shame! I wonder if she's this annoying with every guy. You handled it well...politely.
  15. Msnak
    What to do? First, make sure you feel confident around him. What would help you get to that point? A favorite outfit? Treating yourself to something special? A new lipstick? You make it seem as if no one would want to take the time to know you, but indeed, you sound like an interesting and witty person. Approach him in private and ask if he'd like to go for dinner one evening after work. Perhaps name your favorite restaurant or food? But I'm guessing you won't be able to do it...until you feel better about you. Find at least five things about you that are unique or things you like about yourself and focus on that. You'll be just fine!
  16. Msnak

    Closet Smoker

    Msnak replied to SuzieB's topic in Dating Advice

    Aww, Suz-- Probably with the guilt you feel, you might not be a closet smoker for much longer. It does seem you're looking to quit. Do you know what event or person in your life may have prompted you to begin smoking? I'm one of those who isn't fond of dating smokers, but some of my best friends are smokers. They don't smell like smoke, not sure what their trick is.
  17. Msnak
    Donknow-- You're trying to be slick -- adding the P.S. about the ex! Cool for you! But you're right, I WILL NOT date a smoker. Did it once, the guy was gorgeous and I was really drawn to him like never before, but I couldn't kiss him. He made jokes that Listerine makes a difference, but I couldn't get over how just his clothes smelled of smoke. I couldn't kiss a chimney, as they say. Honestly, if I see a handsome man and he smokes, I lose interest. I am fearful, perhaps, of falling for a smoker and then not having them in my life for as long as necessary, due to health problems. Comments from others??
  18. Msnak
    Wow...your poem is so beautifully expressive. And it describes a relationship I had! Thanks for sharing. Really, really cool.
  19. Msnak
    Wow, great advice, patience. You have me thinking. It really is so weird for ocrob that a day after thinking of this girl, that he gets an email. I guess, if the girl's truly interested, she'll come out and fight for him. That's what I want to believe--if she's interested. Otherwise, she might be too shy. That's the hard part...trying to get into someone else's head and figure out what their intent is/was. Sometimes the person's not worth it.
  20. Msnak
    Sure, you can base a relationship purely on physical attraction. It just will eventually unravel, that's all! But love can grow. Sometimes it just takes patience and to not expect it.
  21. Msnak
    You sound very wise in saying: "I am starting to see both sides of relationships. You can't make someone love you and you can't love someone that you just don't have feelings for." In that case, you're doing what's best, moving on. It's hard to say what someone should do, one way or another, when you're OUTSIDE the relationship. Because no one else understands the dynamics better than the two people involved. I can sit here all day long and say: "Go back" or "Move on" -- but only you know what the best choice is based on your experiences with that person. Sometimes our minds and emotions replay something that takes us back to the good moments in a relationship. And for a moment, it feels right. And then you remember all the crap!
  22. Msnak
    You know, if you ended the relationship in a way where no bridges were burned, you might be just fine contacting her to say hi or see how she's doing. Just, have no expectations. Iron and Ocrob--You each said something really interesting: Iron has a point. And ocrob...do you think she still loves you?
  23. Msnak
    The good thing about keeping friends separate...you get to experience different types of fun with each. I have my nerd friends, my professional friends, my goof off friends, my road trip/travel friends, my secret-swapping friends, my party friends, my philosophical friends.... I don't mix them, I like them apart! Some are older, some same age, some younger, some are married, some are single, some are outgoing, some are shy.... I make the joke, if I ever get married, my reception's gonna have so many diverse types of people, it'll look like a doctor's office waiting room!
  24. Msnak
    Hmm, you can do without the controlling part! Life has enough pressures of its own! Good luck, you'll do well. Because you're entering the world with open eyes and that will be good.
  25. Msnak
    I think you can learn to love some...as you learn MORE about them. Sometimes, in dating, you only get to see a little bit of a person. As time passes, that mask they wear goes away. You see who they've been hiding. This either attracts or repels you. The two times I've been in love, I didn't see it coming. I didn't even like either guy at first. They didn't impress me, didn't stick out in some memorable way. But both were guys I worked with and as time passed, I got to know them. The twist--neither guy is right for me. One guy even said he's not good enough for me. (I disagree! We're just not a match. I see it more than he does. Yet, if I ended up with him, I'd smile everyday for the rest of my life.)
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