MooseManWisconsin

I'll agree. I'm not really sure how much time she has to date (being a full-time student) but I was attracted to her and I don't necessarily feel as though I ran her off. I'm not a rocket scientist, but I believe anytime you can get a hug right before the date, a hug right after, and then a phone call and an e-mail following up that say "I enjoyed it", it wasn't ALL BAD. I could see myself being with her. Let me sum things up. I don't drink or do any kind of drugs (and I also don't preach against anybody who does). This may be wrong, but if anything can make you feel better I normally say all for it (and that includes alcohol). But I can say, from my point of view -- being a few years older than her -- that it's often an uphill climb. And she has spoke with me many times about the fact that I'm a "good guy" and she likes my qualities. I think I honestly may just be a bit disappointed that she doesn't have all the time for me that I would want her to have.

And I'm really not that good at even BEGINNING to understand what may be going on. I don't date frequently and reading the mind of women has been my difficulty area for years. I'm positive this probably makes no difference, but I'm 27 years old and live in Wisconsin. I met this girl through the Internet. I didn't really think it would be any big deal at first but it turned out that we had so much in common (it wasn't a dating website) and we eventually started talking about meeting. Through the course of the four months we first started talking, she would tell me EVERYTHING about her family and other friends (as I would her). When we met, neither of us were shocked (we did know what each other looked like through pictures) but we really didn't have a whole lot to say (which I'm beginning to agree with others on the philosophy that we had already spent four months talking about EVERYTHING so it was just sort of a laid back dinner). She is pretty busy (with education and everything) so the amount of time she spends sending me messages, etc, are off from what they may have been during the Christmas holidays. Where we used to communicate daily, we now communicate maybe two times in a week (and I have started to pull back). The other night she sent me a message where she said she was sad and sorry that she no longer got to send me longer messages and missed not talking to me more often. And she had called me up last Sunday (but I missed the call) and I decided not to return it and in the message she was like, "just wanted to say hi and see that you had a good weekend." She occasionally tells me about her other friends and I know for a fact that her roommate knows about me. I consider it decent that, at times, she will tell me about some of her thoughts and problems (being single and stuff). About three weekends ago, I sent a message and basically told her she could forget me if she wanted (because I felt like I was being a bother and all) and she sent this message back about missing when she doesn't get to talk to me and stuff and I decided not to write her back for about four days and when I did she seemed pretty happy in the e-mail and said that she was afraid I wasn't ever going to write her back or call her again for her neglecting or taking so long to respond or whatever. So the other afternoon (the last e-mail I sent and maybe the last one period) I sent her a message and complimented her on how beautiful she was, etc, and she said all the things I mentioned earlier (about feeling sad and missing when she didn't get to talk to me more or send me longer messages) and said she probably didn't deserve the compliments because she didn't feel like she had been a good friend to me lately. I know she has several other guy friends (which may be a point I need to get accross, I'm not really sure...). This is my first time posting and sorry to ask... but guys, what do you think is going on here and what should I do? Should I run and stay away (as I'm thinking about) or go back? And what should I say now... I wasn't intending on sending another message... Marcus