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    Hey Guys, For once my questions not involving me (yay) i have been asked for advice by a good friend and you guys have always come through for me so i thought i'd ask your opinion..... i hope thats okay. Do you think best friends (one male, one female) who love each others company and talk or see each other or both daliy....who have both been sexualy attracted to each other for a number of months, can start sleeping together.....and it not mean they actually want more than just sex? This is the situation of my friends, she doesn't know how she feels whether or not she wants more, so she asked him out right and he said he is only attracted to her in a sex way not a girlfriend way. Personally i don't understand this, there best friends, having sex, trusting each other completely and love each others company.....basically my friend asked me if i think he's being honest (which i don't, because when they look at each other, they seem to be in a world of there own) ....do you think thats right...shall i tell her that or am i maybe setting her up for a fall if all the guy wants is sex? Thanks Sugar xx
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    Hey Enotaloners, Hope you're all well. Sorry if i posted this in the wrong place but it just seemed the most apt, i don't think i am pregnant. I can off the pill 4 months ago after taking it for 7 years as the doctor said it would be a good idea to give my body a break and for my body to regulate its own cycle, however ever month since then my period has been getting 2,,3,4, days later than usual, when on the pill my period came like clockwork every time for 7 years! I don't think i could be pregnant as since coming off the pill i have only had sex twice and both times used proper protection. Do you think this is anything to worry about? and also, when not taking the pill, do you count your 28 day cycle from when your period actually starts or from when in should start, for example it was 4 days late last months, so this month should i start calling it late from when it should have started or from 28 days after it did start. Hope that makes sense. Thanks Guys Sugar XxXxX
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    Hey Guys, Been a long time since i've posted here, basically i broke off my long term realtionship a few months back and even though it was one of the hardest things i've ever done...i'm glad its over and we're still friends Recently i've started seeing someone else, the first guy since my long term ex....things are going great, he has the same sense of humour as me and we sit up into the night having such deap conversations, it's bliss....it's not love, not yet, we're only been official a few weeks but its all been great...however, he likes to have a drink a couple of times a week, he's a student and i don't think he has a drink problem or anything but occasionally he's started scaring me when we get intermate ( we haven't had sex) He's a gentle lover most of the time, however when he's had a drink he gets very rough with me, not violent, but rough and i got a bit scared last night he wouldn't stop when i asked him to (he did after about 1 minute) I really like him, but today i've avoided seeing him and feel very confused i can't be with someone who i'm even a little bit scared of....am i being naive? I know he'd never deliberately hurt me. He called tonight and i tried to tell him how i felt but he just said he was drunk and i turn him on...what can i expect....typical guy response? I dunno i'm just confused...please tell me if you think i'm over reacting, is it just because i was so secure with my ex that i'm comparing my new guy? Sugar XxXxX
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    Hey Guys, I'm really confused today, as some of you know my daddy has terminal cancer. Today was his first check up after his first 18 weeks of cemo. He got a very positive result, the cnacer has more than halved, however it will never be able to go completely. I know i should be really really pleased by these results and also by his good health currently and the fact he's not suffering, I know this is more than a lot of cancer suffers can wish for. However last week i had a visit in my sleep from my grandad whom i have never met ( he passed away before i was born) He tld me that the doctors had been wrong and that my daddys cancer was going to be cured. Now I know to some people that last statement makes me sound like a wack job! but since i was a little girl, i've had ppl who have passed away come and talk to me in my sleep, advise me and offer me support in my life, i don't openly discuss this with my friends and family as i'm afraid of how they'll react, either think i'm mad or be hurt or think i'm lying, i'm not sure. Anyways, I truly believed my grandad as everything i've ever been told in these "dreams" before has proved to be right....so what i'm asking is are they just dreams? not messages from god or my loved ones, i truly believed for all my life, these people were really with me helping me, watching over me.....but if thats the case how can they be wrong...does this mean when my daddy dies he won't visit me, i'll just make it up in dreams. I'm really scared and confused...i know this will sound very odd...but maybe some1 on here has had similar happen? Sugar XxXxX
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    Whatever you do, don't use the word boring, you'll really hurt her!!! Why don't you be the one just to suggest doing something diffrent, or ask her how she feels about going to the next level. I'm guessing she's young from your age so please be kind and patient with her. Sugar XxXxX
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    Firstly Big Big hugs babe! I couldn't pass this post without replying because the exact same thing happened to me! Firstly, you know he's lying to you but you need to find out to what extent, he lied that he'd stopped talking to her, but from he's phone you can obviously tell he is...ask him outright what is really going on and don't take no for an answer...i'm so sorry this has happened to you. I felt , when it happened to me that this is worse than normal cheating, if he met her, in say a bar......because then he could blame his pecker! This is not physical....its up to you how you handle it....but if i was you i'd leave. Sorry I hate leaving posts that arebn't positive....if you want to PM me about this feel free ...i'm so so sorry you're going tro this Sugar XxXxX
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    What kind of protection did you use?
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    No the break up wasn't that great, tho mainly on his part! he has since apologised and it would be a push to say we are friends, but we are civil. Im not that bothered about my b/f's reaction as i say...but she was just such a cow! I know this is such a small thing, things a gazzilion times worse have and will happen in my life so i'm really not sure why i'm dwelling on this tiny thing?
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    Hey Guys, Think this one is about to turn into a ramble, please bear with me. I was my b/f birthday over the weekend, we had an ace party and went to bed, slightly drunk around 2am, at 4am one of his old school friends rang him up in a very drunken state to say happy birthday...However this old school friend is an ex of mine from a long time ago and even tho i am very over him and very happy with my b/f, he was my first love and...well you know the emotions that go anlong with your first love? Anyway so the ex (on the phone) puts his current g/f on the phone to wish my bloke a happy birthday...then she asks to spk with me ( we have never met or spoken before and although i knew she exsited not some1 i often think of) She then started swearing loudly at me and said that people like me didn't desreve to get married ( we are to be married next year), i was in total shock baring in mind its 4am and i'm having some random girl shout at me for no apparnt reason, i handed the phone back to my boyfriend in disbelief....he then continued to be polite to her!!??!! The next morning he really apologised for not standing up for me using the excuse he was shocked drunk and half asleep....i completely forgive him...even tho it made me feel very alone, he would normal stand up for me in any sistuation... Three days have past and i still can't get her words out of my head....why don't people like me deserve to marry? I know she was probably drunk to but i feel very hurt and alone by the whole situation....i know it probably sounds like i'm banging on about nothing...but i just can't get it out of my mind Love n Hugs Sugar xxxx
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    I'm so so pleased for you babe! Last night before i went to bed i read through your post again and altough i truly feel the other people had given good advice and true accounts...i really thought your relationship was going to be okay....mayb i'm just fruit loop LOL Really glad it worked out for you babe, stand by him whilst he works out his issues, don't suffercate him, but do explain by pushing you away he won't achieve anything Sugar XxXxX
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    i understand what your saying. The issues i had to deal with were personel, my partner knew about them but at the time we hadn't been together long enough for me to accept his help. things are very very diffrent now
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    no disrespect, but i don't believe that at all,just because you need some alone time doesn't mean you're going to break up
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    Big Hug babe!!! Firstly, i have asked my current boyfriend of 4 years for a break twice now, both winthin the first 2 years of our relationship, i have never really considered splitting up with him...i love him to bit and we are planning to marry now, the reason i have asked for a break in the past is because when you are constantly with some1 morning and night, it gets suffocating, not that i don't love him. I used the time i had my break to go shopping with the girls, get my hair done, visit relatives and so on. When i got into bed every night by myself i lay and thought about him, how much i missed sleeping with him warm arms around me and so on...missing him so much made me want him so much more and truly know he was the man for me. Please respect that your boyfriend needs a break and some time to think, it's true that some breaks can lead to permanent break ups. If you have a happy relationship i very much doubt this will lead to a break up, he just needs time to contemplate how much he loves you. Be paitent with hi, give him the time and space he needs. he's not lightly to forget about you. And my advice for you is just try and take your mind off it, spend the time catching up with the friends you've been putting off seeing to see him. Remember what its like to be you and to be happy on your own to feet, i'm sure he'll be back in your arms soon Be strong babe and good luck xxxx Sugar XxXxX
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    I think this girl is trouble. She seems to be very manipulative, maybe she was jelous of what you and you ex had, mayb she wanted more time with you or maybe she likes him herself? I don't think she sounds very thrustworthy to me, but i have only heard this little bit about her. If i was you, i'd invite her round and as nicely and politely as possible ask her all the questions you want the answers to without accusing her of anything, after all she is meant to be your best friend. Hopefully you'll get to the bottom of the proble, mayb she just has no self confiendce and was jelous of you being happy, i know this sounds bad but you do need to chat. Sugar XxXxX
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    If you don't think he's cheating on you the chances are he's not. An ex of mine used to always mastabate with a condom , its called a posh w*nk. The reason he did this was simply to save from cleanign up the mess afterwards and also because it feels more like having sex, which presummably he was imagining doing at the time. Don't think its everyones cup of tea, but some men deffinately do this Sugar XxXxX
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    Hey babe, If i was you i'd just ask him, but don't acuse him of anything tho. Just say to him, whare are the rest of the condoms gone, i'm sure we had more than that. Hopefully he'll have a truthful answer for you. If you're in a happy loving relationship, there is no reason for him to cheat, just because past b/f's have been jerks doesn't mean this guy is Sugar XxXxX
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    Hey Hun, I felt like you a few years back, i finished college and was like ...what now? where am i going what do i want blah blah.....the truth of the matter is you're already living and life is already happening around you, for all you know you may get hit by a bus tomorrow you have to live for today. Try lots of things, do it for a few days and if its not you, move on, life is far to short to sit around wondring what to do...start doing it. Sugar XxXxX
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    Calm down you're not obssessed. I think most women feel like this at the start of a good relationship and if you still feel like this after a year it oibviously is a good relationship! My advice from past experiences would be to try and tone it down a little maybe don't txt or e-mail him in the day time and that way at night time you'll have something to talk about. Also make sure he's doing 50% of the work, let him be the one to contact you first, let him miss you a bit and realise how much he needs to hear your voice. I think you're completley normal honey and i hope your relationship continues to go as great as it sounds now Love n Hugs Sugar xxxx
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    Thank you so much for you kind words, they don't make the situation any better, but cheered me up loads so thank you. I know a lot of people find this sort of thing to hard to talk about and i completely understand thank you both so much Sugar xxx
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    I'm sad today, as some of you may know from previous posts my daddy has terminal cancer. I'm not asking for any form of sympathy, i just feel really sad today, he's not doing to badly right now, still pottering round the garden, painting things and so one, but the past week or so he's looked really sad, he's picked a place to have his ashes burried right by our house, and has bought an eagle statue to go next to it. He keeps going and looking at it, what must that be like to know thats where you're going to spend forever? I've always truly believed in God and heaven and know my daddy is a good man and surely will go there so why am i so scered? I just can't stop crying today. I know i'm being selfish i know i'm lucky to know that i have some time left with him and i should really appreciate that...but i just wish he could go back to normal. I'm praying ever day for him to get better or at least for him not to suffer, i just ......i don't know Just need a hug Sugar XxX
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    Hey Girl, I wanted to post a reply so you knew you had my support, but Raykay has said it all exactly right. I do understand your pain, but i'm sure he doesn't understand how much he's hurting you as generally speaking most people are okay with there partners looking at "Normal porn" he probably just pressumes you would be. IMHO its far better for my man to see these girls in magazines and dvds than to actually go out and find one, which i'm sure he doesn't want to do. Just out of interest why were you looking through he internet historys? were you trying to catch him out? if so maybe this is something you need to think about too. My thoughts are with you Love Sugar xxx
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    Well if this boy is unpopular maybe she feels she needs to say she doesn't like him to fit in with everyone else. When mayb she wants to be his friend or likes the attention he gives her.
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    Do you mind me asking roughly how old you and your g/f are? It is possible that she likes him and thats is also why she hates him if that makes any sense? In junior school the guys always used to pull the girls hair they liked the most. Its a weird kinda reversed psycology. This said i wouldn't take this to mean anything, sit your g/f ddown ask her outright whats bothering her and try and find out why she doesn't like him? does she have a real reason. Trust her tho, there is no point having a relationship without trust and if she tells you something try and believe her...hope this helps Sugar
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    Thank you, both of you so much, just to know that you've taken time out of your day makes me feel better! I know you're both right in the things you've said. I know my mum and sister aren't being as strong as they look i just wish they could share there true feelings with me. Thanks you Sugar xxx
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    Hey Guys, I listed my post under grief and loss, which was probably wrong but it seemed most suited. I'm having a down day today. We found out a few months back now that my daddy has terminal cancer. Although this is probably the hardest thing i've ever had to face, my family are very close and have been talking about it really openly. My dads health is very good considering and although he and my mum have given up work ( she's now his full time carer) they are carrying on as normal as possible pottering around the garden and so on. My Daddy is not afraid of death, We are a christian family and although we don't attend church regulally individual prayer and worship has always been part of our lives. My Daddy has chosen where he wants his ashes put and an Eagle momunment ( he has had an eagle tattooed on his arm since he was 16) here's my problem, My mum dad and younger sister (19) just seem to be coping too well....i know that sounds really selfish, but i just want to scream and shout and break things. I hurt so much inside, i'm not suggesting i hurt more than they do tho.... i spend most nights thinking about how my daddy must feel knowing he's going to die and leave us and its killing me inside, i can't do anything, everytime i try to go out with my friends or do something fun i just feel so incredibly gulity. My Daddy has been my best friend since i was a little girl, and although i've grown up and moved out i don't understand how my life can go on without him....reading this back i can hear how selfish i must sound to you. I just don't know what to do. I tried to talk to my sister about it but we're not that close and although she was very kind to me she didn't seem to understand. I am really scared of talking to my daddy now as well which i hate so much, i just feel like nothing i have to say would be important now. I'm sorry, just need a friend and a hug. Suggs xxxxx
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