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I think it is, i think the thing you have to remember is that she's his ex for a reason and even though its hard for you sometimes, he's with you because he loves you, he should just be more sensitive around you about his ex, you should let him know how you feel but also you have to trust him, without trust you might as well not be with him. Has he given you reason not to trust him ? xx
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Big hugs!! I really feel for you that must be awful, my situations not like that at all really, there not like brother and sister at all, they just say hi and thats it. I feel now that i'm kinda overreacting. I don't know how i'd cope in your situtation xx
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Thanks for the replies, I see what you're saying, thing is he never really mentions her or brings her up, its me that does that, he speaks to her maybe oine every three months online but its always on very quick in a bussiness way and when i ask him about her, he just thinks i should get over it because he is, although he does tell me anything i want to know.
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Hey Guys, I know this is going to sound silly because i'm in a happy relationship, but it really gets to me when my b/f talks to his ex. We have been together 10 months, before we started dating he told me he wasn't completely over her, she was his first love, they only dated for a short time and them splitting up was a big shock to him. This said after we had been dating about 4 months we did discuss her and he told me he only had eyes for me and although she will always be his first love, it's me he wants forever and she was just a learning curve. The thing is my guy and his ex work for the same company even though they rarely exchange more than hellos when they see each other, they do occasionally talk online as well, just brief things usually work related, he is very open about it, he see's no reason why they can't be friends as i am friends with my exs. I don't want him to stop being friends with her, it just makes me so jealous when he talks to her....i haven't told him. I just feel so stupid and immature. Any ideas on how i can deal with this jealousy becuase i trust him and we are happy together and i don't want to ruin this as its the best thing thats ever happened to me. Sugar xx
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Thank you DN, that is almost exactly what my b/f said about my dad xxx
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I'm not sure, it hadn't really crossed my mind if i'm honest. I haven't dealt with my dads death yet, i haven't been really sad, we were just so close i still can't believe he's not coming back, everyone keeps telling me what i'm feeling is normal and that deneial is the first stage of grief, although i don't really feel anything about his passing yet, just empty xx
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My dad died 6 weeks ago, but until then he was my best friend he and my mum were happily married for 36 years, what does that have to do with it (No offence!) I Have been cheated on before a long time ago, but i have never been the jealous/paranoid type before, i see myself as pretty laid back and trusting, sometimes too much so, that is why this is so out of charcter for me xx
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Thanks for taking the time to read and reply guys, The thing is i have no reason to think he cheated, he is an amazing boyfriend and i trust him, we hardly ever speak on the phone whilst we're working so yes i'm sure he was just busy. I Just don't understand what suddenly happened to make me so paranoid, i don't want to lose him, why am i acting so stupidly??
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Hey Guys and Gals, I'm very confused, my boyfriend of 9 months and i both went out last night to different night clubs in different towns with different friends. For some reason about midnight i became convinced he was cheating on me ( i was drinking but not drunk) I called him about 1.30am as i knew he'd still be up but he didn't answer. This morning i tried to call him again he didn't answer he txt later saying sorry he didn't answer he was at work and to call him about 6pm. So i did, when i spoke to him he was still busy at work, asked him if he had a nice time and he just said "had a few drinks, that was about it, sorry i'm busy gtg bye" I'm now convinced he cheated on me. My question is, why the hell do i feel like this, i'm in a happy commited relationship, i trust him and he trusts me, we go out separately once every couple of weeks and i never minded before, he has never ever given me reason not to trust him. How come i'm so paranoid?? whats wrong with me? and also...do you think he did cheat?? If i ask him he's going to be upset that i don't trust him, so confused. Sugar xxxxxx
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hey guys need some advice on how to greave for my daddy... he died a little over 2 weeks ago now(terminal cancer) and i haven't been really sad yet or cried, i loved my daddy so much, we were insainly close and he was my best friend although i onl saw him every few weeks we would talk most days, now i just feel empty...why can't i cry? Sugar xxx
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being told your hot vs. being told your pretty
Sugar-Rush replied to shau_nee's topic in Dating Advice
Guys who want sex tell you your hot, this is not always a bad thing, the guy may be in love with you or whatever but he wants sex. It's far more intimate when a guy tells you your pretty, thats personal. Sugs xx -
Hey Guys, Its my daddys funeral tomorrow and i'm just not sure how to help my mum, she hasn't as yet cried for my dad even tho they were so incredibly close, she says she can't be sad because it doesn't feel like he's gone, which i know is a good thing, i just fear she may break down at/after the funeral, how do i help her? The haven't spent more than 24hrs apart in 35 years they were deeply in love, how on earth do i tell her its going to be okay? Advice would be great. Thanks love you and God bless. Sugar xxx
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Daddy's gone somewhere better now.
Sugar-Rush replied to Sugar-Rush's topic in Grief Loss and Bereavement
I just wanted to say thank you so much for your kind words. The funeral is this friday so i think after that i will have time to sit down and think xxx -
Hey people, My daddy passed away on Thursday morning, after 14 months of battling with terminal cancer, he and my mum watched the sunrise together from his bed downstairs, he slept for a few hours, then woke and sai "Margy i think its time for me to go now", she said "Are you sure sweetheart?" he said "Yes its my time to go now" and he fell asleep forever in her arms. Words can't express how much i love my dad, how i'm feeling now is just so mixed up, i'm so glad i was with him the night before, i'm so glad i got to tell him i loved him. I don't really miss him yet, its just like he's still here, everything is untouched, his cars still here, its like normal minus him....We've had so many visitors, cards and flowers. I have had nearly 200 E-mails telling me what a great man my dad was and how proud i should be of him (and i am so so proud, he was the strongest and bravest person i've ever met) I know he's an angel now in heaven and i know he's not far away, i don't understand why i can't cry when i hurt so much. LOve u daddy. Sugar xxx
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Hey There Guys, As many of you know my daddy has had terminal cancer for the past 18 months or so, he's been fighting very hard and has done really well and still been enjoying life with my mum. The doctors told him today though his liver is failing rapidly and he has a matter of days maybe a few weeks left. I know i sound very selfish but i just don't know how to deal with this, i've had 18 months to get used to the situation and yet i still feel shocked by this news. I love my daddy sooo much. I live and work 200 miles away and have been visiting home every 2-3 weeks to see my family, my granma lives next door to my parents and my little sister lives with her boyfriend less than 5 miles away from them. When i heard how ill in hospital my dad was i didn't want to come home, thats awful isn't it? My partner convinced me i had to come back, i was just so nervous, i'm glad i did because it gave my mum a break and me and my daddy a good chance to talk. He's told me he does not want me to move home and that even though when he's first gone my mum will need me and lots of support, i must visit but i must continue to live my own life in my own city....do you think this is the right thing to do? I just wish with all my heart there was just something that could help him or fix him, he's only 52, thats not old enough to go, i'm so worried about my mum. My dad must be so scared...sorry just confused. Sugar xxx
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I know this might sound strange but this is something i've been thinking about for a few days and have decided to do some research on it for a uni project and was hoping for you help. I was wondering if you would miund sharing how many people contribute to your love life. Nobody IMHO anyway has just there other half in there love life, yes maybe that's the only person they want to be with, the only person they sleep with and the only person they want to spend there life with, fair enough, but there are so many other contributing factors. here's my list anyway. My boyfriend: the guy who makes me happy, the guy who gives me great sex and great friendship, the guy and trust and the guy who even though its scary to put down on paper, I am in the process of falling in love with. My Ex boyfriend: probably my closest friend in the world, the guy who knows me inside out and upside down, the guy I will always unconditionally love and wonder what if, the guy who I once had great sex with. The sex buddy: nothing will happen with this guy if he or I are in relationships, he's a good friend and we have been close without being very close for a long time. There was a time when I wanted more, but now we both have very defined lines of our relationship, if that was to ever change we'd stop being sex buddy's. The abusive ex: who I could never say no to: He is long gone and no contact is ever made with him, although I do have days where I miss him and I do have days where I hate myself for letting him do unto me what he did. This said he is the core of my strength and cofidence, I have found myself because of him and would never let another human treat me the way he did. I am now a strong and confident woman. The what if guy: A good male friend who I will probably always wonder what if about, there have been so many times that we nearly got together, but it never quite happened. The guy I have a crush on who doesn't know I do: nothing will ever happen with him, but harmless fanatsies are good fun. The guy who has a crush on me who doesn't know that I know: nothing will ever happen with him either and I have to be carefull not to hurt his feelings but its very flattering. Love and Hugs Sugs xxxxx
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AIM profile.. weird question sorry
Sugar-Rush replied to fishrrshortae's topic in Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender
Sorry maybe its me but i don't really understand what it is your looking for could you explain, thanks xxx -
Hey Guys, I don't really know what i'm expecting from posting this, i'm just very low today. My period is 5 days late, so i did two pregnacy tests this morning both completely negative. I have been having period style cramps and still craving chocolate as usual, i've even come out in a few spots as i do every month. I didn't have unprotected sex last month, that said i know its always a possiblity to get pregnant whilst using comdoms. I have been training for the race for life and its far more excercise than i normally do so my best friend suggested this could be what caused the late period. I am just kinda sad i'm not pregnant, i had convinced myself at 5 days late i must be and even though my situation is completely un ideal, i only work part time and my partner and i haven't been together very long at all, i was almost hoping i was....does that make me sound stupid? I know it was a stupidly selfish wish, but i felt like mayb i had a little life growing inside me and now that feeling is gone, i know i'm being silly, i know women who lose babies must be in such terrible awful pain and i'm whinging about something that was never there, I'm sorry i'm just a bit down Sugar xxxx
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Hey Guys, Firstly i'm sorry, i know compared to most of the posts on this site this one is very selfish and unimportant so thanks for taking the time to read it. I just wanted an outside opinion. Its my birthday this weekend and me and my mates are going up to my parents for a big bbq party. Thing is my b/f of 4 months has just told me he can't come because he has a project report due in next week and he won't have the time to finish it. He's had 3 months to do the project and he's known about my party for 6 weeks, it just makes me really mad he's been going out with his friends and stuff if he knew he wasn't gunna have time to do it all. I know i sound like a spoilt brat but this was the first time He was going to meet most of my friends and family (i've already met his). I haven't said anything to him, but do you think i'm right to be p'd off? He says he's sorry but he just can't "put fun over work". Do you think i should tell him how upset i am or am i just being childish? Thanks Sugar xxx
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Thats the most hugs i've had in ages, thank you so so much!
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Thank you, you've made me cry even more with the hug but i appricate it. I have been looking into renting a flat/apartment but need to find a roomate first to cover costs.
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Hey Guys, Tonight is the first time in two years i've felt like ending it all....this is not a suicide threat, i have no intention of hurting myself but this is the first time in a long time the thought has even entered my mind. I'm so down tonight, the tears just keep coming and they won't stop, i tell myself its a good thing because i never cry and mayb crying will make it better. My life is so messed up, i know how immature and selfish i sound, i will get over it and i'm sorry in advance but i just need to vent! I'm still living in a house with my ex boyfriend, for the simple fact i can't afford to move out! he was one of my best friends for 10 years even though we were only dating for the past 3 (we broke up just before Christmas) right now we just can't say or do anything right around each other we are just both desperately seeking space and finalisation of the split. even though we are now very much not together we still have to share a room and a bed, some nights either one of us sleeps on the floor or the couch. My parents live 200 miles away and my daddy is very sick with terminal cancer, i wish i could go home but all my friends have mooved on, and my job which is the only thing i really enjoy and provides enough stability to keep me going is here....I so wish i could be 16 again and in high school, living at home with my family and believing the world was one perfect adventure. The new guy i've been seeing i really like ...its not love, not yet, i need to get away from my old realtionship and spend sometime alone before i can consider having anything serious with anyone else, i think he likes me too, he says he does and he's always nice to me but i can't tell him about all the things inside me that just make me want to stay in bed every minute of every day. My best friend who now live 400 miles away due to work commitments just got engaged and my other closest girl friend who lives by my parents has just become pregnant, i'm so happy for them and not at all resentful, i just no they have far more to think about than my stupid little problems Everyone i know here are friends of my ex and even though there still nice to my face, he tells me they constantly slag me off behind my back. I feel so alone i just need a hug!!! Sugar xxx
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Hey enotaloners, He had an appointment with his specalist today, he is starting his cemo again next week but now there is only a 20% chance it will work. He is defiant and determind he'll be strong and stay with us as long as he can and don't get me wrong i haven't given up, i'll never give up i just feel so deflated. I know this sounds really really horrible, but i just feel that mayb if it doesn't work, well mayb he should give up. I love him so so much and i want him here with me and my family forever, but i hate seeing him suffering so badly he doesn't deserve the pain, what kind of life is that... i feel so evil...i just think if the cemo doesn't help mayb he should just go to heaven and be happy.... i don't want him to hurt. I just want my daddy back cancer free happy and healthy, he's the kindest person i've ever met, why does he have to die? I'm sorry, i'm just hurting and confused. I know my daddys gunna be an angel, but i want him here with me and my mum. sad today... in need of a big fat hug. Sugar XxXx
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Thank you, its so nice to know there are such nice people out there! I'm going to try and get the next few days off work and go home, even if its just to help out my mum.My sister still lives at home and i know she's a big help to them, i jst need to be there right now too. Thanks xxxxxxxxx
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Hey Guys, I'm not posting for sympathy, basically i just want to talk. As some of you know my dad has terminal cancer and was diagnosed bout 10 months ago with less than a year to live, as you know from previous treads he's been doing really really well. This week he's gone really down hill, he's in a lot of pain and even though he's been told more Chemo therapy could give him another 6-9 months, our family doctor told my mum not to count on this working again. I live quite far from home for work, (4 hour drive) and talking to my mum on the phone is terrible she's hurting so much. I really want to go home and see my daddy but he keeps reassuring me he's okay and even if he isn't when i last saw him 10 days ago, we said a proper happy goodbye and if anything was to happen thats how i should remember him. I love him so so much and don't understand why he has to die, i know god wants him back and i know he won't be in anymore pain, its selfish for us to want to keep him....but i do... i love my daddy so much. Today is a bad day ... just want a hug...please Sugar XxXxX