lovelynns

you have more going for yourself than you think. A 17 year old guy writing about why the jerks get all the girls. You're wise beyond your years. God made you the way you are for a reason. You are good looking you are amazing you are perfect in the eyes of God. YOU need to know this ... before other people can learn it. Confidence is a great way to show you love yourself. and yes girls will see that. and dont worry the older you get the more looks dont matter and heart does. and let me tell you from just that small amout you wrote i can tell you have heart. Don't worry about girls right now. You'll meet the perfect girl someday when you least expect it. As for your friends. they arent your friends. Theyre jerks. You put that nicely. You are better off without them. I hope you learn how much you have to offer.

love doesn happen on the net. I met my man online. I moved. We live in the same city now. a year and a half later we are more in love than ever and waiting to marry eachother someday. You on the otherhand have hope. I do believe you that there's something special between both of you. BUT I can tell you right now why shes running away as fast as she can.. dont get ahead of yourself. Meet her. Let her know you love her but marriage is too soon. She is only 18. by the way how old are you? and hopefully you've been completely honest about yourself and your looks or the relationship is going to have probs. anyway, slow down. keep saving. meet her as soon as you can. but you need to calm down the situation with her... marriage is aBAD BAD BAD idea without ever meeting the person. I think you should try letting her know how amazing she is but discussing marriage might be counting the eggs before they hatch. Remember. you need to be extra careful because if you get on her nerves ... try too much when she doesnt want to listen... she can change evrything you know. email address. aim. phone #. unless you have a home address. Sorry to sound neggative but you dont wanna get hurt. Dont worry just talk to her. Be calm and honest.

why would you fake an orgasm? why would you want to? I personally want the orgasm. if you keep lying to him you'll never get off. you're right you shouldn't just stop faking. you should talk to him. If you're close enough to be having sex you should be close enough to tell him the truth. You both can experiment together until you find what stimulates you enough to O. It should be fun and bring you both even closer to one another. have fun be honest.

It sounds like you both care about one another. From what I've read it sounds like she's not where she wants to be. To give something an opportunity simply because it might be ok an opportunity that is distanat alone and for several years... that doesn't seem to add up to me. you just need to ask her if she's possitive that continuing in the program and keeping the long distance relationship is what she wants. OR maybe you should move near her fir the four years... if your able. Oh. I did undersatnd the navy program... I just meant that maybe getting a college degree or masters at a normal college might be a better path for her. Just a thought. Good luck with everything. I hope your love is strong, faithful, and forever

I'll post a song that my boyfriend's band wrote. If you like it, reply here or PM and I'll send you a link to the MP3 (so it doesn't appear that I'm spamming). Rhetoric By Echoes Fade Copyright © 2004 Christian Warner & Echoes Fade So this is the way it's gonna be You pummel me with rhetoric but I will not let my anger show again You show me how, and tell me when, you started to believe that all was lost in this, I can't resist, but say it to your face That in All the stupid letters that you promised you'd write me And all the million times you told me you loved me I never heard a more disturbing sound And all the wasted days that we watched the sunset, Those are the evenings that I've come to regret Your fickle moods took them all away I hope that you remember this someday 'Cause maybe then you'll change You know, you left me with a knife stuck in my heart I have broke, then I crashed and burned for my mistakes I hope this reminds you now Of what we were, and what you did to me Unashamed and flaunting all your treachery for Everyone to see It's easy now for me to say That all of this was just a lie but Still I try to ease the pain When You tell me now, like you did then, that everything will be ok as Long as I Forget your sins But you're not gonna change

I've been posting these directions everywhere but it works. My boyfriend couldn't get me to O with force until this. Try it out. Orgasm for her... These are directions for the lady. one hand maybe two and a tongue is all you'll need ... his of course. You just relax. say that again...RELAX. ok now before you get too excited you need a man who loves going down on you. If that is a no go forget this type of orgasm it'is not for you. For the ladies still reading.. 1st. lay down on the bed and relax. 2nd. spread your legs and have your man get in position to lick you. 3rd. have your man take his best hand and insert two fingers into you. This needs to be done with some force. use the technique known as "the wave" (a back and forth motion always rubbing upward) to hit the G spot. DO NOT LET HIM STOP THAT MOTION. 4th. The man continues to do this and begins licking your clit. If he needs help in knowing what to do just tell him to let his tongue go wild. 5th. This continues until oragsm. He may need to switch hands several times BUT DONT LET HIM STOP LICKING. This is a mind blowing, body shivering experience. Just remember relax and enjoy. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Hope this works

Try this on her... she'll never forget it or you. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Orgasm for her... These are directions for the lady. one hand maybe two and a tongue is all you'll need ... his of course. You just relax. say that again...RELAX. ok now before you get too excited you need a man who loves going down on you. If that is a no go forget this type of orgasm it'is not for you. For the ladies still reading.. 1st. lay down on the bed and relax. 2nd. spread your legs and have your man get in position to lick you. 3rd. have your man take his best hand and insert two fingers into you. This needs to be done with some force. use the technique known as "the wave" (a back and forth motion always rubbing upward) to hit the G spot. DO NOT LET HIM STOP THAT MOTION. 4th. The man continues to do this and begins licking your clit. If he needs help in knowing what to do just tell him to let his tongue go wild. 5th. This continues until oragsm. He may need to switch hands several times BUT DONT LET HIM STOP LICKING. This is a mind blowing, body shivering experience. Just remember relax and enjoy. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Have fun with trying this out. Let me know if it was a success. Oh and I don't wish he does this ... Where do you think I learned it. Now I can't go without it.

Explain this a little more? I'm having a hard time understanding what you're trying to say.

If I missed your point, then you meant to say something other than what you said. You clearly indicated that your sugguestion was to not tell her. Period. Then you gave an example to the effect of, "it can open a can of worms".

this should be a simple solution.. you both love eachother and it will work out. However, it's not even close to being that simple. she loves you it sounds, but she also loves her parents. She's being pressured by both to do "what's best for her" meaning what that person thinks is right. You think she should stay close to you and the both of you can live happy ever after because that's whats best for her. Her father and mother feel that the navy is what she needs to do in order to have a secure future, and not be dependent on you. I wonder if she or her parents were the first ones to mention going into the navy? You should find out what her modivation was behind joining the navy. If it was what she really wants or what her father wants. Have her think about that carefully. If she truly wants to be in the navy then the options are simple... 1. you move to where she will be stationed and be a supportive husband. 2. wait this navy phase out and continue and long distance relationship. 3. end it. you need to allow her to go through with her dreams. if you convince her to quit the navy and she really doesn't want to... you will be responisble for her settling, and if you love her you want her to be the best she can be. ~opps that was the army...lol. OK but seriously you need to be supportive. If she joined because she didn't know what else to do with her life or her parents convinced her ... 1. Have her seriously think about what SHE wants to do and maybe do some research for her helping find some possible options. 2. tell her you love her and want to be there but you want her to do what makes HER happy and even if that means you'll have to continue with the long distance relationship for a LITTLE WHILE. (Maybe she can go to college.) 3. DO NOT LET HER DO SOMETHING ONLY BECAUSE OF YOU. If she does and the relationship god forbid ends she will be beside herself with frustration. So even though you feel marriage is near... until you have a date and she says I DO.. don't allow her to be dependent on you. Whatever happens you need to decide can I deal with whatever she decides and make it work, or do I have a problem continuing with long distance. Because there's nothing wrong with saying this is not what I want lets comprimise ... but to this is how its gonna be or your gone.. is wrong. Just be honest and open with her. Once you have your thoughts straight maybe you can do a surprise visit and have a long talk. C O M M U N I C A T I O N I S T H E K E Y

Let me translate for you: Don't tell her, JTS. If you really like yourself, then resolve to never, ever tell her, and never, ever get caught. You messed up once, better get your practice in. Don't tell her about it if you value only you and don't care how she is treated. i admit the exclusivity thing is important. if you're not exclusive, this shouldn't be an issue.

I have a problem with this reasoning. If my boyfriend thinks I'm cheating when call another guy for any reason, even work, am I cheating? If I think my boyfriend is cheating whenever he hugs another woman, is he cheating? Only very rarely can cheating be so subjective. Your reply smacks of relativism and although I know you were trying to be helpful, you're only leading her to more confusion. In fact, it's that confusion that got her here in the first place. Everyone has unique "that makes me jealous" buttons, however the "that's cheating" button is pretty easy to define without coloration.

you have a pedophile on your hands. He has problems. run as fast as you can before things get worse. much worse. have respect for yourself.

Here's an Orgasm that you'll need your partner for... one hand maybe two and a tongue... his of course. You just relax. say that again...RELAX. ok now before you get too excited you need a man who loves going down on you. If that is a no go forget this type of orgasm is not for you and stick with the one already mentioned above. ok ladies here it is... 1st. lay down on the bed and relax. 2nd. spread your legs and have your man get in position. 3rd. have your man take his best hand and insert two fingers into you. This needs to be done with some force. use the technique desribed above "the wave" to hit the G spot. DO NOT LET HIM STOP THAT MOTION. 4th. The man continues to do this and begins licking your clit. If he needs help in knowing what to do just tell him to let his tongue go wild. 5th. This continues until oragsm. He may need to switch hands several times BUT DONT LET HIM STOP LICKING. This is a mind blowing, body shivering experience. Just remember relax and enjoy.

please don't respond with "I know"...what an insult unless you've been dating for years and have said I love you hundreds of times before. Respond with "I care for you too" that will leave her wondering but not upset. also, one great way to show her you care for her is by a gesture from the heart... a homemade card and a peom. A flower on her desk in the morning. Or have her locker decorated in balloons before she gets to school with a note from you inside. Be creative.

it's always nice to hear that someone likes you. Take it slow by asking her on a new date one day at a time you'll feeling will grow for her as a possible girlfriend or you will have made a wonderful friend. Either one is uplifting and not a regret. Have fun.

Annie24 said... If she suggest going to a nice restaurant, you can say nicely, 'you know - I don't work, I'm focusing solely on school, I'm pretty broke right now. How about if I cook dinner at my place this weekend?' or, 'let's grab some pizza.' Hopefully, if she likes you, she'll understand. If she doesn't, then good riddance! I agree completely. Also... You need to let her know you are old fashion and feel odd having to ask but this is my situation..... and I need some help. I had a similar experience with my boyfriend. I met him when he was a struggling student. I recognized that and overall split things. But he was still old fashion and insisted on paying for certain things (aka a nice dinner out). I'm a student as well. I understood I needed to help... a year and a half later we still split. If she cares about you then she will understand.

ok. don't get all bent out of shape. I realize you're scared of losing her but that's not going to get her back. Honestly I think she's scared about something. Has she had a long term relationship that broke her heart in the past? Has she been abused? or abandoned? Maybe she's just scared and needs you to talk to her. Be there for her. Try not to be needy. BUT be there. From how you describe your relationship you both care for one another so there's something deeper that needs to be addressed. Be patient with her. I had a experience that made me scared of being too close.. I could get hurt and that frightened me. The thing that made me overcome my fear was that my boyfriend reminded how much he cares for me and how he's NOT the person in my past. Also reminding her how special she is to you couldn't hurt the process. I don't mean telling her but my actions. You should leave her a little love note on her car.. or a flower by her front door. Little gestures saying you are amazing (in a more creative way). Good luck.

I'm wondering what makes you say this?

+1 Hope75 Focus on your new relationship, let this crap go.

Usedup: See. A. Counselor. NOW. As was previously posted, you've got some resentment happening. It happens to all of us at some point, but you see that rant you went on up there? That's years and years of anger and frusteration building up and turning into resentment. You need to be taught how to communicate with your husband. Right now, focus on you. Yes, this is about both you and your husband, and you have to be sensitive to that, but you fixing yourself with the help of a professional will do nothing but help your relationship. After some therapy, you two can go together. I'm sure there are hundreds of examples and things that were said and dirty looks and slammed doors that you could never completely tell us about even if you tried, that's why you gotta go see the doctor. Talking to us is a step in the right direction. Keep going that way!

+1 RayKay You need some counselling. Go by yourself first, then bring him along. You *must* make sure these aren't emotional issues that would have come out anyway.

Ultimately, if you were to drop this "survey" thing and ask a question, what would it be? Clearly you're intending to draw the survey data into your own situation and decide about.. something. The reason I ask this is that it's impossible to compare relationships like you're trying to do. If you're trying to ask if the way you feel is ok, or the way your partner feels is ok, or whatever, then just ask.

Yes, you do. Being bisexual, both guys and girls are potentials for you. That means any human is a potential partner for you. How would you feel if your boyfriend went to a party, made out with a girl, and told you she was no way close to a potential love interest. Did he cheat?

Be honest with youself, please. You don't want him to make the "right" decision. You want him to be with you. Whether that's right or wrong for him and his family and kids. You've already been told what you need to do. You need to stop seeing him. Tell him this. Tell him you would love to be with him -- when he's available. Then, stick to it. He will do one of 3 things: 1) He will not tell his wife, forget about you and find a new mistress. 2) He will fess up to his wife, who will kick his butt and he will forget about you. 3) He will tell his wife, they will get divorced, and 2 years later when it's final you can be with him. I have listed these options in the order of liklihood, from most to least.