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that post was great nice thoughts I meant soutpaw's it was just "real"

Does anyone know how to do-it-yourself when it comes to separating or divorcing? Is there a good website to order forms or something? I live in Michigan. Thanks.

if you can be walking behind her somehow somewhere just run up behind her and say "excuse me. you dropped this" then walk away the paper that she "dropped" says "would you like to go on a date with me this friday?" now by the time she reads it you are about 10 or 20 feet apart and she just looks at you and can tell by your face that youre serious then she says "sure" or she saughs and says "are you kidding? not a chance" just an idea

Man, when I was 14 the same damn thing happened to me! I'm 44 now. Each day sucked like maybe only you might know. There would be those times during the day when you're just in this trap and it gets worse. That was the most horrible time of my life. I just waited and waited and it didn't seem fair that this was happening to me. Why was this happening to me? I didn't do anything. I'm a F***ing kid for goodness sake. God it hurts just to write this. It's just that I waited and that feeling went away. I've had such cool experiences since leaving the place you're in right now. I will look back from time to time and think, "I made it through that . No one I know went through that, but I know what's important in life because of that." If you look in the yellow pages there might be a suicide hotline where they'll talk to you for as long as you want I think. Look...my email is -----. Email me and I'll give you my phone number. I'm not a psychologist, but I'm an alright person. Now I'm thinking, "14 year olds calling strangers on the internet?" Prob not a good idea. Look. Look in the yellow pages please. For me. I decided to delete my email after reading this post, but you just hang in there buddy. I feel like I'm writing this to myself when I was young.

..and I also am dedicated to being with the love of my life. There are benefits of a ldr. Once the LD part is gone I really believe you have really something special and will always appreciate the other like no one else can. I believe in just being there for the person. Don't give up. You'll soon be together, and you'll have formed the basis for a wonderful relation. This distance thing can help two people with the little things by helping you realise that the little things aren't that important. It also proves that the other person is really committed to you and want YOU. Alright that's enough.

Ok that makes sense. I just hope that she gets a really good sense of this guy's intentions. But, yeah, you're right.

yeah, annie mad a lot of sense i also agree with zimetra LDR's DO WORK That's crazy to say they don't. Of course sometimes they do and sometimes they don't. You are so young though. Can't you meet someone through a really good internet dating thing. Then you could write to someone, eventually talk on the phone. Then meet. You could maybe ask a guy out once in a while.

and yes I'll let you know how it goes.

Hey thanks you two. That's exactly what I'm going to do. I was just looking for some advice...from a woman...as to what they would just wish their boyfriend/husband would do without having to tell them. I know everyone is different and it depends on mood. But I thought I could take your advice and it would be really cool for my girlfriend. I just think that getting your advice, because you're female, is great. Thanks again.

This is really a neat idea for a forum because it's helpful and open. So... I'm writing to ask females what they wish their boyfriend/whatever would do and not do in love-making. That's it. I am writing because I wonder what would really make her happy. Is going slowly with things great? I guess I just want to ask what would be just the neatest thing for a guy to do? What do you wish he would do? btw this comes from someone who is totally in love with a girl who is in totally in love with me. So the intimacy thing is there. Thanks.

I'm sorry for not being so clear. After 20 years we met each other at the airport in Milwaikee on November 5th. Can't express what that was like. I fly to see her every six weeks or so. We saw each other in March. I'll drive out in June for as long as I con too. So why aren't you seeing your bf til the fall? You just hang in there. I'm really glad you mentioned the "you only live once" thing. It's true. You should not give up a chance to be with someone that you know you love and that loves you. You do only live once. My gf, in one of our first times talking last fall, said "Life is short". I always ignored that statement until she said it. THen I thought, "Oh my gosh. It's true." So if life is short then I'm going to wait for her, talk to her, write email and letters, send her stuff, but we're going to be together. You keep the faith with your bf amd make sure he loves you and thinks that you can build an appreciation for the two of you while you're apart. People who have it easy...and you and I don't...but people who have it easy lose out on gaining that appreciation for just having each other.

That was a good thought about "if I didn;t take the job I might regret it for the rest of my life". It would be nice if there way just some possibility for him to move here even if it was for a few years or whatever. I would give up anything to be with my sweetheart. She's not asking me to give up my job and house and all, but I told her I'd do it even though it would be a really bad financial decision for both of us. She won't have to work when she gets here if I keep my job here. Anyway, I hope he appreciates and "gets it" when it comes to YOU moving. But no matter what you'll end up happy.

Mail the $ and pic to the sub shop. Not her/him.

This was soooo nice to see your responses. Thanks. I saw her while I was sitting on a swingset when I was 10. We danced at the jr. high dance at 12 and so on and so on. But yeah we did leave each other at about 22. We were sweethearts. I got a letter a year later from her saying that she got married. Just awful. So heartbreaking. So one phone call 20 years later (5 hr call) and we knew we should be together. She had been divorced a year. Well, in 3 yrs she will move back to our hometown where I live. We'll see each other by me flying out to CO fr. MI. I have summer off so that REALLY helps plus long spring break and Christmas. Hey: Call a sub shop and order your honey a sub sandwhich to be delivered to their work. Mail them a picture and the money first. The picture will be of you eating a sub too. Write "I just wanted to have lunch with you today". Even the person who delivers the sub will think it's cool to be doing this. I called the manager first to see if they could do this. But at 44 yrs old we and telling each other stories of all of the thoughts that we've had for each other in the past 20 yrs we are pretty comfortable knowing that we are going to spend the rest of our lives together. I am lucky that her husband was very difficult. Otherwise... And I know how bad he was becaus eboth of her kids are happy for us and have told me he was quite bad. Anyway... We talk about what's important in life and that all of these people who have the "fabulous" lives and trips and houses would give it all up to have what we have. Just to walk thru the door and see that person and know that you love them and they make you smile and that you can know that you have chosen the one person that you truly love is all anyone can hope for. THANKS for listening. There is absolutely hope in a LDR if you both believe that being two of the lucky few to have a special relationship is worth waiting to be together.

you seem like a very nice person to me and i believe you are you may have found a very loving relationship and you two can make the best of it for everyone of course you have feelings about the marriage status that means youre a caring person so maybe it was wrong to do some of the things you did you cannot change those things if someone starts berating you for that there is no point to that you cant turn time back you can start from this day on to make decisions that are good for the kids and you two if you have found a very loving and caring relationship then you are very fortunate