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ok few months ago.. and I'll explain why it only recently bothered me right... my girlfriend went clubbing.. me being paranoid and all didn't help but... after it all that same night she told me she was dancing with some bloke... and he forced her to kiss him.. tongues yeah... now I turned round and said who is he I am going to knock him senseless... she didn't know him.. don't remember what he looks like and such... so I said he must be an idiot type thing without using too many nasty words on here. everytime she wants to go clubbing I always get so moody and paranoid the thought of other blokes putting their hands all over my girlfriend then trying to kiss her does my head in. anyhow recently.. she brought her diary round and let me read bits about me... for a laugh... so anyway I get to THAT night and it says oh yeah I kissed this bloke for 5 seconds and I just couldn't do it. right.. she is in a night club dancing with someone... she turns round... they grab her and start kissing her... wait a minute... she didn't push them away straight away she went on kissing them for 5 seconds... if it was so forceful.. she wouldn't have even connected tongues with this geezer. everytime we talk about her going clubbing it's all good til I say about the bloke who forced himself on her kissing-wise yeah... and she goes all the other way like oh let's not even talk about it blahblahblah. I aint mentioned the 5 seconds thing and questioned as to whether or not she actually wanted to to her face coz I don't want to accuse her and have problems in our relationship but what works me up is she was like oh yeah he forced himself on me blahblahblah but hang on... you didn't push him away? not for a good 5 seconds? 5 seconds is a while... coz not even I have kissed her for more than that long in general recently... ok I do but not everytime we do kiss... if you get what I mean. maybe I'm too obsessive just get the feeling she is tryna cover up the fact that she got on another bloke and then thought oh no what will my boyfriend who I supposedly love so much say about it. please tell me what you lot think or am I just turning mad coz I can't even be bothered to talk to her about it I don't want all the hassle she will turn it into a big row I can already tell it's a VERY touchy subject. should I leave it? approach her about it? bring it up? I can't talk about it without getting worked up even if I don't show it I will be worked up inside. makes me feel sick.

she wouldnt masturbate infront of me... or play with herself.... best she has done is guide my hand... and it still doesnt work but i can just tell she wouldnt coz she likely believes its my job to give her pleasure.. not in a selfish or bad way.. but if ya get what i mean... she prolly wont wanna rub herself off shes the type that thinks kind of like self pleasure is a bit dodgey she prefers it if i did it type thing.

she wouldnt ever do that tho... i just wish i could do it for her. all my friends and their girlfriends have no problem with orgasms.. just me.. feel so pathetic sometimes.

i dont get mad at her and i have mentioned that im sorry.. i always apologise after we have sex.. and i always say sorry im no good at it. normally... to try and give ya the picture... we start by kissing... and then i slowly work my hand down and start to touch her intimately and rub and caress her sensitive areas... ive tried gently rubbing her clib in circular motions... coz believe me i looked this up so many times lol... just seems to do nout.. she only twitches when i flick my tongue against the clit area for a long time over and over quite quickly but gently. she has mentioned that me licking her can get boring coz i do really love to give her pleasure i like it as much if not more than receiving pleasure.. i really REALLY like it. she said the way she masturbates is to put lots of pressure on just where the clit is... and less but still pressure right at the top... then sort of up/down/left/right circles but pressing really hardly downwards when you get to the bottom of the clit... i cant do it tho... ive really tried so many times. just think that i must be frustrating her so much and really winding her up by not doing a good enough pleasure giving experience or whatever you wanna call it.. makes me angry with myself... especially not her.. i dont tell her how angry i am with myself coz the last thing i want is for her to say fine dont bother then if its just gonna wind you up and feel awkward about it.. i love how open our sexual experiences can be and are the majority of the time. when we FIRST started sexual experimentation stuff she was very very nervous about talking to me.. but she does now... not entirely and i can tell sometimes she holds alot back... but she is getting much better at talking about it. i was inexperienced before i met her and i have never ever given a girl an orgasm.. but i really love her and i am so interested in giving her orgasms to make her experience as good if not better than mine coz itd make mine extremely better too. i dont wanna sound selfish.. coz honestly i know its not about me... its about her and i understand how fragile and sensitive she is and stuff.. i just really really try to make her feel good but i cant make her feel as good as i should be able to.

ok basically from the beginning... been with my girlfriend for months now... we lost our virginity to eachother... and we enjoy sexual play alot. i love rubbing her clit and putting my fingers inside her.. recently we discovered the "g spot" i believe.. makes her unable to move or breath properly if i proper push hard against regular motions... but she cannot orgasm that way it seems... at least not before my hand nearly falls off of exhaustion.. which can be at least upto 10 mins and still no orgasm. i can rub her for half hour and nothing. ive licked her orally for a good 45 mins before trying all different things.. no orgasm.. only noticed that in one motion her legs twitch a bit but she says its annoying and asks if i wont do it please coz it just feels "weird" and she doesnt know if its "good" or "bad". i know i prolly seem im in a bad mood writing this. just recently i feel so guilty coz she always gets me off and i never return the favour coz no matter what i do i cant do it. when we start having sex normally its with no condom... i know its risky and all but forget all that... anyway when i go fast and hard she says if i kept doing that for 5 minutes she could probably orgasm.. but i cant physically do that.. i have to stop once every now and then for breath and so i do not end it all and become labelled a 1 minute man... so i pause for 1 or 2 seconds maybe not even that and she says any build up has gone straight away. she can give herself orgasms and she has showed me how to do it and she has simulated it by rubbing off on my leg before but not to the point of orgasm ive never seen her orgasm she wont show me that. its really making me feel like a silly lil boy.. no good at anything sexual... sex is crap with me... i cant lick her properly... i cant rub her properly or play with her properly.. best thing i can do that seems to affect her directly physically is the g spot thingy... like a come here sign with 1 or 2 fingers inside the vagina... if i do it really hard and fast she struggles to breath but it makes her extremely wet and she does want more. i love giving her pleasure and we dont have bad sex or anything, i just really wish i was good enough to give her an orgasm. we laugh and joke about things and its not an awkward or horrible sexual relationship.. we love eachother and trust eachother and all... i just wondered if anyone here has any input towards this lil problem i seem to be having.. aka not being good enough to give her any pleasure. all this and yet she still says she very much enjoys everything we do.. especially being licked... but it doesnt give her an orgasm. wish it did. thanks for any advice you give me. help is greatly appreciated.