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Good post. However once you get yourself back on your feet, you will realize that you dont even want to get back with the ex Im serious.

Breaking up is pretty bad. If you have feelings for the other person, it can be hell. But you must go through with it. Youve broken up for a reason. The way you will NEVER get the girl back is to crawl on your knees, begging her to take you back. Also, you can never truly be "friends" with someone you dated, you guys are ought to fall for eachother again to repeat the process. The BEST thing to do after a breakup, is to get on with your life. Make the best of it; you are single again. You are free to do as you please. The best thing you can do is learn your lesson out of the breakup and move on with your life, meet other girls, ect.

Ive been the nice guy. Ive been shy as hell before. Rather than accepting it, I changed. Why? Because I was pretty damn unhappy being the "nice guy". Ive done the things you say, Ive committed selfless acts for others just because. Sure it felt good, but at the end it didnt help me one bit. Insead of embracing myself, Ive changed. Ive also been the jerk. Without even noticing it, my arrogance took over and I havent even seen it coming. Ive been in both the extremes, and I say where I am right now, in between the nice guy and jerk, is the best Ive felt. And guess what... im not a phony. I STILL have the same core values that Ive had before. I am not a jerk, oh no. I am nice and sincere to everyone as long as they respect me back, if not, I dont associate witht hem. I was never saying in any of my posts to embrace what society tells you. Its all about self respect. I tell people to change into what they want to be. I am not making people worse about themselves. The point of that is to make people realize their flaws, get people off their butts and go do something about them. I never said skinny was unattractive. I am 6'0 and weigh 140 which is pretty damn skinny, and I consider myself attractive. Its a huge change since Ive started lifting, when I was at 125. You are contradicting yourself when you say you are an antisocial geek but you are funny and people tend to like you. You say you follow your own interests/personality. Thats what Im saying in my post man. It is great that you are happy with yourself and all, you do have a point there. But my point still stands that you should never settle with yourself, you can be the guy you are but simply improve everything about you and become better.

I say stop planning, go and see what happens.

You are 24. If they give you crap for moving out, so be it. It's your life not theirs. Maybe move into college dorms or find a room mate.

What kind of grades are you getting? Youre 24 dude.. if your grades are good, talk to your parents reasonably about it. Be cool and calm. Explain to them that youre a grown man, and you want to have a social life.

Shysoul... what you are saying is that everyone should stay the way they are, never changing. You, in another post, said you were extremely shy. You should always accept yourself.. yes. But why settle down if you can have more? Why settle down being who you are instead of becoming who you want to be? You can keep the character traits you have and still become alot better. You will have much more fun at life, you will have more success, life will generally be way better. Being nice will only get you to a certain point. Just niceness alone is never going to cut it. This goes deeper then just women. It goes for success in life. Answer this for me, why do you settle if you can have more? You seem happy with yourself, thats good. But why do you not want to be even happier? To easyguy: What is attractive? It is whatever you see as attractive. As you said about the nice guy and the beautiful woman... It goes deeper then just niceness like I said before. Niceness is a good trait to have, but, again, it alone wont cut it. There is nothing wrong with being arrogant as long as it's justified. There is a difference between c0cky and arrogant. The girl might go for the nice guy, but then she will get bored with him and start going for the jerks again. Ive seen it happen. Everything I wrote came out of my head. Being 16 has nothing to do with it. Ive met the right people in life, and I always reflect on myself.

Dude Take her out on a date, and KISS HER ALREADY Forget the whole friend thing.. if you and your friend are competing for her, dont let him win. It looks like she likes you.. all you gotta do is make the move already. Dont tell her anything... just kiss her.

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What's this... All the cheesy romantic stuff wont get him the girl. Theyre only 15/16, trust me on this. Just ask her on a date dude.

Go a bit easy on her, if you are so much better then her. Just dont make it seem like youre going easy on her. Anyways beat her and make fun of her jokingly for it later. Just have fun.

Liar. Why else would you want to get her attracted? You DO want to have sex with her and if she is attracted to you, she does too. Theres nothing wrong with that bro. Playful touching is good, but not too much. Talk about sexual things, but not too much or you appear really desparate. Also try dates with action, that seems to work like a charm.

For the attention you give her. If she is not planning to dump her bf, she is simply using you for attention. If she talks badly about her bf and saying she is gonna break up, go for it. Even if she doesent say that... you should still go for it, unless your morals say otherwise.

Well, this might sound harsh. If she wants to separate, she doesent love you anymore. At least not in the way you want her to. Keep your dignity man. Stop begging her. It will make things worse. Dont move out of your own home to give her space. If she's already chatting to other guys, she might as well be screwing them. She can screw you over big time in divorce court because it is majorly in favor of women now. This is beyond my area of expertice, but I think you should move on with your life.

You know if a friend is indeed a friend only by test of character. Cancelling on you for the approporiate reason does not apply.

You must change. Life is what you make of it. You are 32, it is not too late to turn things around. Research weight loss and start losing the weight. What is your job? Hobbies? If no hobbies, get some. If youre not happy with your job, go back to college and get the profession of your dreams. Write down the qualities you have now, physical and personality-wise. Write down what you want to be. I wish you luck man. You can turn your life around.

You have nothing to lose.

Ask her on a date and go for the kiss (on the date). YES she does like you. Now go ask her out As for the video games issue... if its your hobby, tell her so. Dont supplicate and try to agree with her. "Just cause youre not skilled enough" with a grin on your face or something along these likes.

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Life wasnt ment to be easy. A successful one, at least. I truly agree, life is ultimately what you make of it. Life is cruel as hell, if you are beaten down with no strength left to fight, it will beat you even further. In those situations, you must adapt and roll with the punches.

Women want you because you got a gf? That is because they see that youre in demand to a certain level. I think that men dont necessarily give off an "odor", but a vibe based on how you look and how you carry yourself.

I have gone very far in one year. It has been the biggest breakthrough in my entire life. Usually my posts are about improvement in life. This time, I am going to post on my wisdom with women. Many people, as it seems, are very confused by them, and I am going to clear some of it up. First off, here are a basic set of, lets not call them rules, but TRUTHS. You might disagree, but as with everything else in my posts, I swear by. [b]1) LOOKS DONT MEAN QUALITY PERSON.[/b] Good looking people are just lucky to be good looking. They are blessed with good genes, nothing else. Many hot girls (and guys) are some of the most weak-minded and insecure people ever. Trust me on this. Looks mean nothing. Character is what's important. 2) ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THEN WORDS. This is the most important thing to know when it comes to dating. Trust me when I tell you. What a girl says should not matter to you, at all. From now on, stop paying attention to what a girl says. It is what she DOES that's important. For example: a girl tells you she likes you, yet she NEVER has time to see you or talk to you. This means she doesent like you, simple as that. Another example: You are out with a girl, and she keeps changing the subject and telling you that one day she was out with a guy and he kissed her. most guys will think she is telling them about some other guy and brush it off, but in reality she is telling you to kiss her NOW. This does not only go for girls. Look at what people DO, not at what they say. 3) GIRLS ARE VERY HORNY AND LIKE SEX AS MUCH, EVEN IF NOT MORE, THEN GUYS. Delete all the things you have ever heard about how being horny and liking sex is bad out of your mind. Sex is good. If not for sex, none of us would be here. Undestand that the need to reproduce is in our genes, in both males and females. Alot of girls are simply afraid of being called promisquous. I hear my friends (I used to be one of these guys too) say how they call a girl promisquous cause she messed around with some guy and the word got out. This is wrong. Anyways, always remember that girls love sex and that they are VERY horny. Use that to your advantage. I will get back to this later. 4) WOMEN WANT WHAT THEY CANT HAVE Its true. It is true for people in general too. The more you give something to someone, the more they will get used to it and it will become of less value. Its true with everything. Dont give women 100% of what they want to hear. Dont tell everything there is to know about you on the first date. 5) WOMEN ARE AS INSECURE, IF NOT MORE, THEN GUYS Why do you think women hardly approach guys? They are even more scared of rejection then we are. Men generally are more confident then women. Look at your moms/sisters for examples. Why do you think a woman spends 2 hours preparing herself for a date? You can see it on this forum too. Women freak out if a guy they like hasnt called them, ect. PS: I am not saying women are weaker or inferior then men. I know women will flame me for writing this, but it IS true: In general, women are more insecure then men are. Now on with the post: Stop depending on women for happiness. I constantly see the message that you can only be happy by getting a girlfriend or getting married in the media. This is nothing but a brainwashing load of doo-doo. Happiness comes from YOU. It boggles my mind to see how many guys are unhappy because, as they say, they are single. This is false. You are not unhappy because you have no woman, you are unhappy because your life is not set right. If your life was truly good and full of happiness and accomplishments, you wouldn't depend happiness on a woman. With that said, getting a girlfriend will not make you happier. Quite the contrary, before getting a girlfriend, you should focus on making your life better (self-improvement). Let me tell you, being single is awesome. You can do whatever and whoever you want, and you dont have to spend extra time and money on a girl. As said before, your happiness depends on you and you only. What women are attracted to. Sorry to break it to you guys, but women are not attracted to wimps who do what women tell them to do and shower them with gifts. Women are attracted to guys who have strength (not necessairly physical), confidence, and who are dominant. They say they want a nice guy, (weakness, bend at their every word), but they date and fvck the jerks (guys who display masculinity and strength in certain areas and who dont care what women think of them). This leads us to the next thing. Women go crazy for guys who do not want them. They love a guy that's hard to get. They go crazy for guys who are willing to drop them at any moment and never look back. And, they like guys who all the other women like. Appearance You need to look attractive if you want to attract. If youre overweight, research weightloss and hit the gym. Skinny? Research body building and gain muscle mass. Maintain a good posture. Walk with head up, chest a bit out, and shoulders back. Look straight ahead, not on the ground. It is good to see where youre going, plus you appear friendlier and more confident. Get a suntan. Dont overdo it and get burned, however. This shows that you like to go out and dont stay home all the time. Clothes. Mix and match and find your own style that looks good. PS: You dont need to wear all abrecrombie to look good. There is no need to spend 170 dollars on pants. Face: If you have acne, buy the necessary products to remove it. Dont know what? Research. Washing face with rubbing alchohol helps, but I dont advice everyone to do this. Nowadays, most girls like a clean-shaved guy. I leave some facial hair because it looks good on me. I really have nothing more to say on shaving, other than if you are going to grow a beard, ghote or anything else, take care of it and keep it neat. Hair plays a huge role. Ive noticed that gay guys are much better stylists and cut hair much better then women do. Get a stylist thats a guy, and he'll make your hair look attractive. Building confidence Ok, if you are an antisocial computer geek, I am not going to tell you to approach that sexy blonde girl. You most likely wont do it. If you do, then that's great. But you most likely wont, because it scares you to death. You need to start small; when girls look at you, look back at them. Dont stare, but just look. Dont break eye contact by looking down. Practice this; go out and hold eye contact with people. Start talking to strangers. Start saying hello to strangers. It helps ALOT when you also smile. Do all the other things in this post, such as get a life (in the end) and make yourself more attractive. This will give you a huge confidence boost. Getting the number and dates. For this to be effective, looking attractive helps. If you fancy a girl, always go after her. Assuming you've eliminated all your fear of apporaching strangers, you can approach women on the streets. Women that are by themselves and are not obviously doing anything are the best thing. Dont automatically ask for her number. Introduce yourself, make smalltalk and then go in. The more you approach, the better you will get. For first dates, I reccomend action stuff. Dinner and movie dates are not good first dates. Go bowling, lazer tagging, whatever. Signs of attraction If girls are attracted to you, they will do certain things to give you clues for you to make a move on them. These are signs that a girl is attracted to you -she keeps looking at you and once you look back, she looks away. -plays with hair when around you -naturally becomes more cheerful and energetic when around you -starts touching you -instead of calling your name, she taps you -her tone of voice and touch become much softer; they have "that look" in their eyes (meaning she wants you) -keeps talking about kissing, dating, ect. (she wants you to ask her out/kiss her/whatever) -has her body facing you and looking the other way Signs that a girl is NOT attracted -crosses her arms (she's bored) -keeps looking around -makes no effort to contribute to the conversation -rolls eyes randomly -looks at her feet -starts fiddling with her hands -is looking the other way Desparate guys do not get girls. This, once again, goes against everything the media tells us and against everything we have been made to believe. We have been made to think that girls like nice, sensitive guys who do what they're told. I want you to drop this brainwashing and look at the facts. Now that that's been said, if you are an antisocial unattractive computer geek, doing that will not get you girls. That is where you need to have a drastic change, in other words, self-improvement. Now I am not saying that guys should all be jerks and abuse women. That is not right. What I AM saying is that alot of guys need to grow a pair, and put their life before girls. When a girl asks you to throw away your paper or hang you something that she herself can get up and get, do not mindlessly do it. Tell her to get it herself. Getting a life This is the most important factor of this whole thing. If you have no life, then you will be fake. If you have nothing to do, telling a girl you are out with your friends playing football will only work for so long. If you dont have a life, a girl WILL find out and she will stop being attracted to you. If you have a life, everything will fall into place. Instead of thinking about a girl all day and getting a crush on her, you are writing a song, playing a sport, being productive. Find out what your hobbies and talents are. Try new things. I found out just recently how much I love to rock climb. I would have never felt this unless I tried it firsthand. Literally make a list of your personality, physical traits and hobbies. Do this honestly. If you lie, the only person you are deceiving is yourself. Now, make another list of all the things you WANT to be and to do. Then, go out and DO everything to become the kind of person you want to be. This isnt "not being yourself." This is called becoming your best self. Dont be afraid of change, change is what makes this world work. What does this have to do with attracting women? If you have a life, it will give you all the things women are attracted to: You will have confidence, you will be fun, you will know your worth and not be a wuss. You will naturally appear attractive to women. This concludes it. Happy hunting.

I believe that truly everything is in your head. Life is what you make of it in the most true sense. Everyone sees things differently. To some, approaching a girl is like having your intestines carved out. To others, its a breeze. People waste ALOT of time. Why do you watch reality TV shows with no purpose but brainwashing you and rotting your mind? Many people do things not because they want to, but for approoval. This is also a waste of time because in the end youre not happy. This, in my opinion, is the worst thing you can ever do to yourself; allow yourself to rot away in procastination and others' opinions. I try to learn something new everyday. That's the way it should be. Every day should be spent in improvement. I like that alot. Good post

It is good that you have the desire to improve. The next step is actually doing it. 1. Figure out what you want to change about yourself 2. Research and learn HOW to change it 3. Do it If you need help, feel free to PM

What does age matter? Ive learned from my mistakes and had a few people in life to help me change. I dont have a girlfriend. Nor do I want one right now. Explain to me how exactly this article is supposed to soothe the egos of those who cant get women. Youre a woman.. would you really want to date guys who fit the description in the article? Shysoul: You said the point of being nice is what others get out of it, not you. Think about it.. you do everything to feel good about yourself. You are nice to someone because it makes them feel good, thus you feel good because you've done a good deed. You have friends not because you care for them (im not saying you dont), but ultimately to fell good about YOURSELF. Everything you do is selfish.