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  1. herewegoagain
    Yes, i believe them. It just seems very common for hook ups. I was just curious because I never tried an online dating site.
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    My friends always tell me how they meet women on link removed, etc. It seems like all of my buddies who use that site always hook up (sex) within 1-2 dates? Is this the norm? Is it just a sex hook up website? Just curiious. Thanks
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    I know exactly what you are saying. My gut tells me that there is something my girlfriend is hiding about her past or something of that nature. I love her, but that voice is telling me these things, so I don't know what to do. Yes, I totally understand where you are coming from. Don't know what to do.
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    Welcome to Enotalone. Well, if she ended it, then just leave her be. Do strict NC. There is nothing you can say or do that will change her mind - it is up to her. Move on, and maybe she will come back, maybe she won't. But don't wait on her; move on with your life. Take care of YOU right now.
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    Yes, I hear ya. I am 39 now, and I thought I would be alone. But as you probably know, it comes in streaks - When my ex dumped me in 2004, I was on a cold streak for about 2 years. Then, this past summer, I had women talking to me/hitting on me a lot. It will happen, just don't be desperate. Woman will be attracted to confident men. Also, I hit the gym - which improved my looks, and CONFIDENCE!! You will be fine. Give it time.
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    Well, if you can deal with his attitude of just hanging out, then keep on seeing him. But if you don't want that, then you should look for someone else who wants a real realtionship with you. A woman friend of mine was in the same situation as you. She hung around and hung out with him for a couple of months after he told her that he just wants to hang out (have fun, sex, etc) but not be a bf/gf. Eventually, she got sick of it, and told him to take a hike. She wants to find someone who wants a "real" relationship.
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    Well, I know it hurts. I (and many others) have been there before. How old are you? Are you afraid of being alone? I was 36 when my ex dumped me back in 2004. I thought I would always be alone. But I have met someone back in July, and we will see how it goes. My point is, ask yourself as to why you are feeling this way, especially after only 1 month.
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    First of all, welcomwe to Enotalone. Wow, that is quite a story. I know it's easier said than done, but you have to start thinking of yourself - your safety, happiness, and your life in general. She treats you terribly. So why do you stay with her? You are still young, and have plenty of time to find someone else. Do it now - quit dragging this miserable situation out day after day. As for the baby, that's a tough one. Can you take care of the baby on your own? She doesn't seem stable enough to even care for a child. So again, why are you still with this woman?
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    Well I know it's hard, but do not mention to her at all again how you want her back, etc. Do not call and beg and plead ever again - all that will do is make you feel worse. Please, Please - do not bring up the realtionship with her ever again. Give her the space she wants, and someday, she may want to reconcile. But for now, leave her be.
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    In the long run, it is a good idea what you are doing. The way I would look at it is this way: If it is meant to be, then a month away from each other is no big deal. Also, I'm sure you two will keep in touch, so you can still stay "close" to each other. Good Luck.
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    Yes - she definitley cared when I brought things up with her.
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    Meow18 - I think you are right. thing is, I just talked with her about my concerns a week ago. So I guess I should give it some more time. What bothers me is that I wish I didn't have to mention my concerns to her. I wish things would have happened naturally. But I had to let it out - I couldn't hold it in any longer - I had to tell her.
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    Maladjusted - thanks so much for your input. Sounds very similar to my situation. But AFTER I told her all those things that were bothering me,she admitted how she needed to change on some of my concerns. Then a week later, she made a very special weekend for us - very special!!! BUT, is she doing this just because of our talk? And how long will this last? I just don't know. I also feel like I have ruined things because now I will always wonder wether or not she really wants to do things with/for me, or is she just doing them because I mentioned my concernns in the first place? For example - I wish she would have did the special weekend BEFORE I mentioned my concerns.
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    Momene - thanks for your reply - I always appreciate your replies to my posts. I think you may be right, I may have to move on. Or, maybe I can just start a new attitude - more of just have fun, fool around with her, etc.. But easier said than done, I'm sure.
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    I've been posting off and on about my concerns of my gf of six months. We are both in our mid-upper thirties. Anyway, I've been concerned with some things, and I finally told her everything that was bothering me in our relationship: not spending time together, i feel she doesn't care as much about us as I do, is indifferent, never talks about "us", etc..... I just want to go with the flow, but it is hard for me to do so. But my question is, how can I just stop caring and worrying so much about our relationship? I really do wish I didn't care as much as I do. Is that bad to want to NOT care as much as I do? There is always something in my gut that bothers me about our relationship, whether big or small, and i'm getting sick of it - emotionally and physically drained - which I know is not healthy. Any ideas would be appreciated. Thanks.
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    If my gf wanted to do what your bf wants to do, then I would leave her in an instant. I would leave her as soon as she suggested doing something like that. It is disrespectful to you for your bf to even mention that he wants to do so. I think it is totally inappropriate to hang out with an ex, especially if they have slept with each other. NO WAY - do not put up with that. Walk away.
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    momene - I did voice my doubts to her 4-5 days ago. I told her everythinig that was on my mind - that basically I feel like I'm not even in a relationship sometimes, that I might as well be single if she doesn't want to be with me, etc... she said she wants to get serious with me, is falling in love, etc.. What bothers me is the fact that now if we spend more time together, i will always be wondering if she really wants to, or is just doing it because I brought it up in the first place. Thanks for your input, much appreciated.
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    Thanks Beec - I will take your advice and let you all know how it goes after this weekend. I really love her, but eventually I will get sick and tired of putting in all the emotion, and not receiving any in return. Being aloof should help, but if things don't change, I will be mentally worn out from this relationship, and may have to walk away. But I hope things work out - day by day I guess.
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    Thanks Beec - but how can I be more aloof during the date with out being a jerk? We will probably go out to eat and then go home and watch a movie, and maybe get intimate (should I say I'm too tired to get intimate?). Your specific ideas would be greatly appreciated.
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    Thanks a million - that is what I was trying to say - I just didn't word it correctly. YES - if she really wanted to be with me - we could do our errands together - in fact - we discussed it, but never have done that yet. It just doesn't seem like we are bf/gf sometimes, but SHE insists we are!! In fact I've told her, if you don't want to be a couple, then that is fine - we could just casually date again - she said no - she wants to get serious with me, etc... blah, blah, blah You are right - I will back off a bit.
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    Hosswhispra - I just edited my post in front of your last one - Should I maybe break the date for tomorrow?
  22. herewegoagain
    Well, I thibnk you all are right. I want to be more aloof, but isn't that playing games? I sure don't want to play games. But is it for the best? But then again, as I am thinking about it, how can I be more aloof? We only see each other on Friday and Saturday? Just to clarify - SHE mentioned a couple of months ago how SHE wants to spend more time eith each other, but it hasn't changed - that's why I'm concerned...actions speak louder.... So should I break the date for tomorrow? I think she would know something is strange if I did. Don't know what to do.
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    Yep, I think I will be more aloof. She will probably ask me to do something this Saturday afternoon, but I will say no. (Becuase I think she will just ask as a reaction to what we talked about a few days ago.) Hosswhispa - she works from 8:00 a.m til 6.pm everyday.
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    I agree, but that is the only time we see each other. We hardly see each other during the week. It just doesn't seem like we are a real gf/bf. It just seems like we are still casually dating.
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    Beec- Thanks for your input, you always have good insight into situations. It is just her personality the way she is - independent. In fact, she mentioned to me about a month ago how she is sorry how she has been too busy sometimes to see me on saturdays, etc. An she said how she wants to spend more time with me, etc. But nothing has changed yet. Ladybugg - i think you are right - it is her personality. And I'm like you - I'm not sure if I can be with her because she is so indifferent. BUT - she did mention that she acts that way because she is afraid of being hurt, especially at her age - 37. Is this just BS???? Should I be more aloof?
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