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    Lyntexx - you are right - He is a low achiever - her new boyfriend lives with two other guys, one I know personally who doesn't even have a real job at age 25. They are still kind of living like college people, even though they don't go to college. And not to sound too strange, but I saw her new b/f out with her the other night, and he is a very goofy looking person. All my friends were saying - "What the heck is she doing with him?" Well I know why she is with him - because my ex's sister dates his roomate, and that's how my ex started to get tight with this guy.
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    RayKay - good points. YOu say it's been 3.5 months. Have you had any contact? Rebounding is a funny thing - some last forever, some 2-3 years, some 2-3 months. Who knows - like Rich said, hopefully only about 5% of me will want her back when I reach the 6 month time period of my breakup.
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    I've been thinking lately how i still hope that my ex gf might want to reconcile someday. What am I thinking? She broke up with me about 4-5 weeks ago, and went directly to another man. She has not even shown a bit of remorse, and she only contacted me just to get some of her things out of my house. So basically, she has moved on so why the heck do I have hope? Has anyone else been in a situation where your ex doesn't want anything to do with you(and was seeing someone else), and out of the blue they call you back maybe 3-4 months down the road? I doubt it. But if so, please share (See, I still have a slight hope - what an idiot i am)
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    thanks david, but I've already told her a couple of weeks ago that i miss her, love her, etc. I probably shouldn't have told her all that, but i did.
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    Anon - at least she keeps in contact with you by email. Mine is so wrapped up in her new guy, that I think she doesn't give a crap about me anymore. I wonder if she even thinks about me anymore. And speaking with her friends, last week, they told me that she has been acting weird lately. So i think she has kind of gone crazy.
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    evepm and anon - you both made good points. You both are right that I shouldn't give a crap about them, but it is hard. Anon - you're right - once the honeymoon phase is over, then his/her true colors will show. Will she come back to me? I don't know, but I sure would like the option. Maybe I'll be strong enough to tell her to hit the road. We'll see.
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    Anon - I wish she would come back to me (which is probably stupid on my part) but I have had basically no contact with her for 4-5 weeks. The only contact I've had was emails to make arrangements for her to get her things out of my house. To answer your question, I haven't pursued her at all. I even saw them out together a couple of times, but I didn't say anything to her or him. I am still thinking on writing a letter to her to get some things of my chest - nothing mean, just some honest thoughts. But I am not sure if it is such a good idea. I agree with you to a certain extent - Like you said - just leave them have their time together, and see what happens. The only problem with my ex is - I think that she thinks that I would never take her back because of the way she went to this other guy. So I want to let her know somehow that I would (which again, is probably dumb on my part). I just want the option someday- if she ever comes back, then I can decide on things, and make a decision. So I hope that I will have that option someday, but I doubt it. But who knows.
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    My ex gf dumped me because she started seeing some other guy before we were even broke up. Anyway, the guy was fully aware of me and my ex's situation, and I'm sure she was telling him many reasons why she needs to break up with me, and I'm sure he put his own two cents in. My question is, what kind of guy would want to go out with a woman who did this? Is it just for sex? Fun? They are already getting serious(she spent the weekend with him only a few days after we broke up) and I'm thinking - "What's he thinking?" "He actually doesn't care that she's the type of person to do this kind of thing - to jump to him while she was still with me?" Any thoughts?
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    good point, anon. Is your ex with someone else, too? Or does she just need time away?
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    yeah, i know what you mean. It's more personal. As long as i keep my cool, which I know I can, it will be fine.
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    thanks hockeyboy - will an email be a little easier for the both of us? Or do you think a call would be better?
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    It's been over a month of NC with my ex g/f. Except a couple of weeks ago, we emailed each other to make arrangements for her to pick up some of her things from my house (I made sure I wasn't there when she came over). Anyway, she broke up with me and is now seeing someone else. I've actually seen them out a couple of times, but didn't say a word and just kept cool. I still care for her, and I know she is going through a "weird" time in her life. Her sister told me the other day that she is acting very strange lately. It's almost as if she is going through a mid-life crisis at the age of 28! My question is, how can I let her know that I still care for her without being pushy? I know most of you will say to leave her alone, but i just want her to know that I have no hard feelings, and I am here for her if she needs me. I also want her to know that I would be willing to try to work things out with her someday if she wants to. I think that she may feel like I would never take her back because she moved on so quick, etc, but I would. I know that's stupid, but I still WOULD. i know that goes against all the "strategies" of NC, and it will make me seem weak, needy, etc. But I just want her to know how i feel. After I let her know how I feel, then I will be able to move on with my life whether she decides to come back or not. I've read a lot of posts that say how one's ex is still in contact (email, phone, etc) but I'm not so lucky - I've had basically no contact. Any suggestions?
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    I'm just wondering if any of you dumpees had your dumper wanting to get back with you, even if they already tried do date someone else, which didn't work out. Were you ever able to trust them again? Did you feel like you were just a safety net, etc?
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    Same way with my ex - she has turned cold and heartless. I wonder why people act so mean when they are your ex? It's just not right.
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    Just leave her be. You've already made an effort to tell her how you feel. Now it's up to her. I'm in the same situation as you. My ex has been dating a new guy immediately after she broke up with me. It hurts, but you just have to let her figure things out on her own. At first, I called her and cried to her, etc. But that didn't help one bit. I haven't talked to her in a few weeks, and I do not plan on calling her. I f she calls me, then fine.
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    Rich - good point. That really puts it in perspective. Thanks.
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    yes, tht does help. I know i shouldn't worry about her anymore, but I wish that she realized that what she did was totally wrong. It seems that she has no remorse and seems like she simply hates me. honestly, that kind of hurts still. It's just baffling to me how someone can say that I'm the one for her and then a few days later, turn off her feelings for me. It just doesn't seem possible. Of course with her new man waitng in the wings, I guess it made it easier for her. The thing is, I know she would not have broken up with me if she didn't have someone else waiting. I just know it. It's all a big shame that it had to end the way it did. Oh well, there's nothing else I can do.
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    PAdreamer - that is a good idea - if i were to write a letter, I should be nice. But i still agree with the others that I shouldn't write anything. I just want to get things off my chest and kind of say - Goodbye for good and good luck with your life.
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    I should have seen the writing on the wall, but my ex gf called me on a tuesday to end things, and I saw her out holding hands with another guy on a thursday. I even found out that she spent the weekend with him that same weekend!!!! Obviously, she already had him waitng for her. Anyway, it's been about four weeks, and i've seen them out a few times since then. But I didn't say a word to either of them, and i was very nice to my mutual friends of my ex when i saw them out the same night. In other words, i was acting very cool, and i noticed how her new man was always looking over at me - I could tell he was not comfortable. Anyway, I've been doing NC, and have been doing good, but I feel like writing her a letter to tell her how awful she was to do this, etc. and just tell her how i feel. Is this a bad idea?
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