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  1. tylercdurden2004
    But you are missing the point. If your life is dictated by destiny to the point that you would be able to know everything that was going to happen with 100% accuracy then your feeling would also be dictated by destiny. You would have no free will and thus no control over how you react, prepare, feel etc.
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    I originally read that as Axes!
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    Then life would be pretty boring and not worth living because you would know what was going to happen so you would just have to sit back. BLAH.
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    Reading lots, started swimming, took up guitar, taking french classes and now I am preparing to go abroad in a career move. The best thing you can do is learn as much as you can about what you did, what they did and the dynamics of the relationship so that next time you are a little bit wiser. This site if good for that.
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    Society has become more "me,me,me". Less social responsibility, everyone wants to do "their own thing." Immediate gratification no long term vision. Yeah even my siblings age group seemed to be having sex at a younger age than mine and its only 5 years apart.
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    I see a psychic in your near future.
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    Crickets might not be a bad idea! I mean they're probably good listeners (wont try to give you advice or "fix" your problems). They will never leave dirty dishes or clothes about. They can make you scream. They'll never bug (no pun inteded) for sex. You'll never have problems with them not liking their inlaws. Wont get jealous when you ignore them while talking to another. The list is endless look at all the potential benefits. A womans best friend.
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    I was actually going to suggest that. Seen it a few times and its the same behaviour.
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    This is important. the time apart was significant where the feelings would have subsided enough for them to move on in their lives, do their own things, and realize what they want. In these instances I would say the possibility is higher. But breaking up and getting back together after only a few months I think is not enough time to work out the issues that caused the breakup. I am sure it has happened but again statistically speaking its rare. The question you have to ask yourself is are prepared to put your life on hold for 6 years? Even thinking about getting back together creates impediments to atually doing it. I think if you are in a place where you are done a gone with the relationship and are doing things for yourself etc then your chances will be better. Bottom line dont worry about getting back together. Move on and if it happens it happens.
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    Not being ready to date is an excuse. They do not want to be with you simple as that. Maybe they are not over an ex maybe they arent attracted to you. It better to find this out early so you can move on instead of fooling yourself that "it might work out."
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    Yes it is that hard when you have expectations of them. What your talking about here is reversing the expectations. You are in effect saying "YOU cannot have expectations of ME, but it is ok for ME to have expectations of YOU." No one is really totally secure but people have differing opinions or preferences of what insecurities are "acceptable." Generally the less insecurities you have the more comfortable people will feel around you.
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    Attraction doesnt work this way. You are becoming his friend and thats it. You should be trying to make it clear you want something else, something more than friends if that is indeed what you want.
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    You just need to find someone who likes you for who you are. Finding someone who is OK with insecurities does make the job more difficult.
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    I certainly dont take issue with seduction gurus and the like or about being an alpha male. I think the whole point is to fake it until you make it which is true. Athletes use it all the time it is a type of self talk if you will. My point is merely that sleeping with a girl doenst help me get over an ex. This si different than goign on dates with other girls. I totally think you should get there and date as soon as the core emotions die down enough. Dating is nothing more than meeting and getting to knwo a person and I think too many people out too muchstock in dating. As in this has to be the one. Thats what one-itus is. Again for me having sex doesnt equate to love. These are two separate things so natually after a breakup is I am missing the love then sex will not replace it because these are two separate things.
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    The whole getting under another to get over your ex never worked for me. At least any lastig effects. I mean if you love the person its pretty irrelevant if you sleep with others on a pure physical level, that it will help you get over them. The only time I see this working is if you have low self esteem and need reaffirmation that you are good.
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    What about a flying pig?
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    When I want to have sex with her because there is no closer you can get.
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    I would be a little bit concerned that he likes to burn his bridges too easily. What happens when you get on his bad side? Families from time to time go through these things. Past hurts etc what people sometimes fail to realize is that life is limited and short and your family is all you got in the end. No matter what happens its amzing how some families pull together and forget all the past stuff but sometimes its too late. Other families dont ever get back on track. Ask him this question: How would he feel if one of his family members passed away tomorrow?
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    It is biology. And its what drives attraction at the base level. This is the crux of the "nice guy" issue. Essentially nice guys believe by acting soft and vague that they are acting like a woman and somehow this shows understanding. It doesnt. Men and women are different and thats what drives the attraction. Its also what drives the division of labour. The best thing men and women can do is pick up some reading material regarding the basic differences and why men and women generally do certain things. By no means does it mean that all men and all women are a certain way. But there is a majority. Communcation seems to be a big difference and hence is the root of almost all relationship problems.
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    Because its easy for her to find a man to take care of her. If its any consolation which I am sure its not you can be sure at some point in the future she will realize the pain she created and will be wracked with guilt. Most likley it will be at a point when its too late to atone for her misdeeds.
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    I agree.
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    From a biological and evolutionary stand point women need to be choosy. If a woman is "down and out" for 9 months of gestation and around 5 years until the young are capable of "fending" for themselves a woman better choose a "good" man, who is confident enough to take care of things outside of the house and will stick around. There is a game in the chase and its to filter out those who are worthy. Of course society has changes the rules and what is exceptable, evolution takes a little while longer. Of course the roles can reverse but from the women I have talked to pretty much all say the want the man to "pursue". By that they mean they want a man who will be confident enough to approach, ask and overcome any tests she throws his way to determine if he is in it for the long haul or just to get a quick lay. If the "rules" that society now deems acceptable were in actually fact the reality of the situation then it would be a 50-50% split of men and women "asking" each other out. Maybe men should start batting their eyeashes while looking seductively over their shoulders? Any women agree?
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    WOW.... I dont even know how to start. I guess I am curious as to what your logic is that you should be able to cheat yet she shouldnt?
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    From what I have seen and from what I have read regarding relationships. Women are the ones who make the intial "contact" whether it though subtle body language or simple saying hi. Generally it is the man who asks the woman out. Essentially both pursue each other but in different ways. True to our gender differences men generally take a more "logical/upfront" path of pursuit. That is approaching and asking a woman on a date. Most women I talk to prefer this. Women on the other hand generally take a more "emotional/subtle" path of pursuing men. Usually by making eye contact, smiling etc and opening up and sending signals for the man to approach her. Men and women are equal and have an equal part in a relationship they are however not IDENTICAL with few exceptions. This is the mistake often made in todays society which would like to be ignorant of the ingrained biological differences. Does this mean a girl cant go up to a man and ask him out on a date? NO of course a girl can. All it means if women and men generally have different ways of pursuing each other. I havent seen too many relationships start with a man batting his eyelashes playing with his hair while seductively looking over his shoulder and the woman approaching saying "me jane you mine." I have seen it the other way around though.
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