tylercdurden2004

What? Do you live in a fantasy world or what. I am sorry but your BF obviously has issues but then maybe you do to. Aftyer 3 days you are in love with this french guy. Let me put it to you straight and sorry for being harsh but you will get the boot once the next lovely lady comes along. Love after 3 days and he loves you hmmmmm. As for whos fault this is doesnt really matter you still made the chioce. So good luck with the frenchman cause it sounds like this is something you and your BF are going to have problems with.

Yeah buddy, give her the space she needs to sort herself. Just tell her you are needing space and giving her her space. If she sees that its space given to her she should see the ball in her court. Remember men keep women on the backburner, generally for sex, till they find the next one, better one etc. Women keep men on the backburner more for emotional needs and thats where the "friends" part comes in. Ever wonder why its always women who say "we can still be friends" or that friendship is more of a concern. If you were friends before maybe it will work. I think though she wants you around until she is sure of some other guy. Then where will she be? You have ask if she would really be there for you. I know of my ex girlfriends that wouldnt and the ones that would. The ones that would always broke up with me or at least initiated through behavior. I think you should give her the boot and move on dont talk to her it only makes it harder. If she wants to be with you its as simple as that. There is nothing you can do to make her Love you other than be yourself.

He he he he, Kipsters right its when you least expect it! I got a call last year while living in Edinburgh Scotland (I am from Vancouver) from the girl I loved when I left. We promised to keep it up but a month away she found someone else. The 1 1/2 years no contact, (I send occasional mass emaisl about my travels, she never did) she calls me with the excuse that she has books of mine she wants to return and needed my home address. Man I just about burst out laughing I still laugh to this day. I guess too bad for her I had moved on and and our conversation was cordial but trite. HAvent talked to her since and guess what my books arent back either. I dont remember her having my books but I was unsure, but it just proves it was an excuse to talk to me. I cant repect that, be the big one and admit when you miss someone. Today I got an email from an ex from 5 years ago that broke up with me. She is now married and knows I am now back home. SHe sent me an email saying that its her and that she thought I might be throwing out her emails because of her name change, asking me to email her and that she was waiting for my response! MAybe its nothing, but I think it smacks of a little twinge of guilt maybe. Do your own thing move on as much as possible and he might come to you. Remember men love the chase and generally dont like to be clung to. Trust me if he wants you you will know when he calls, you will hear it in his voice and he wont make excuses to call you. Men do suck we are assholes but dont dwell on it it wont help with your attractiveness to other better (?) men. Good luck.

Its funny something like 40-60% of realtionships start in the work place (so I read) but I have to say its gotta be a carefully treaded razorblade. I have had my experiences dating girls at work although the relationships were only a few months not years like you guys. All the same its painful even more if you had marriage and years together. THing is and I agree dont let the women know you want them. I just broke up with my girlfriend of one year. No problems throughout we were very open with each other and we could spend time alone doing nothing and love every minute. Distance and my desire to travel and got in the way and now she is unsure (maybe sure) of her feelings for another guy that lives in the the same town as her. I know what it feels like, but I am lucky to be half a world away now and with big travels plans in the coming week to take my mind of it. I dont know what your jobs are but a change maybe good before it gets worth, career permitting of course. I think time heals all as we have all heard this BS so many times but it is true. Remember the psycology of women. remember how it all started between you in the first place. You chased her (maybe thats what she loved more than you) she ran you chased etc. Then it became comfortable and she felt safe, then someone came along and she felt the excitment of the chase again. I dont know how old these women are, but if they are young or should I say inexperienced (ie dont take much from experiences they had) they really dont know what they want and work strictly on feelings. I dont know what you guys are like but you seem pretty normal. Women and I dont care what the feminists may say are socialized (maybe biological) differently from men. Read the books on relationships. Women use the right side feeling side of their brains more, men use the left side logical side more. Women feel something they like they may feel attached to it even though logically it may not be the best. If you want to get them back (after a lot of serious thought) be a mystery to them. Dont let them see you contact you know what you are doing. Trust me they will still be thinking of you in some manner, and if you are the one it will be a lot and it will drive them nuts. I just got an email from an Ex from 5 years ago she is married and asked me why I dont email her (even though I send mass emails so she knows how I am time to time. I think it was a twinge of doubt, I must say I am a good catch and all my exs know it which is nice but I have had a few exs phone me out of the blue (1 1/2 years no contact) with some excuse to talk to me and Ive had some appoologize for things going wrong. Take the high road forget about them and they will want you even more. No girl really deep down in her heart wants a complete dick even though they may seem attracted to it. FOrget 'em maybe move work and someone comes along, that is how I am going to look at my situation. It might be fun to let them know how good you are doing and how successful you are becoming etc. through mutual friends ex work mates. Let them enjoy the "self inflicted emotional trauma" for while.

I just broke up with my girlfriend of one year a few days ago. First off to explain a little background. I have been travelling for the 2 1/2 years and I met my girlfriend in SCotland. She is from Germany and I am Canadian. We lived (not together) in Edinburgh for two months before she went back to Germany. I stay in SCotland and she came to visit after one month. I then went to see her a month and a half later and continued to travel for 2 months. I then wnet back and we spent 2 weeks together before I went away for a week and came back to spend 2 weeks over Christmas with her and her family. I then came back to Canada and 2 months later she came to stay for one month. Its been a month later and we broke up. The reason she gave me is that she is unsure about her feelings about a friend who goes to the same university as her and who told her he likes her more than a friend. He has been going through a tough time with a serious family illness. A week ago (after he told her his feelings)she phoned me and was upset because she didnt feel the same as him but then the other day when we talked I asked what was going on because I noticed we werent communicating like we normally do this week. She told me she was unsure of her feelings for him because she hasnt seen him this week and noticed she was missing him. I was planning on goign toher in 3 weeks time for a 21/2 week visit before heading off to Australia and to travel Asia for a year. I had hoped we would be able to continue our visits as we have. But she doesnt feel that we will be able to as was one of her other reasons. We communicate very well with each other and are totally comfortable being with each other no matter what we do, even if we are doing nothing it still fun for us to be around each other. She has just started university in October 2003 and she is 21 year old I am 27 years old and already finished university. I love her so much more than anything and cant stand to lose her. Its come as some surprise because there have been no problems to this point and we have sent each other letters, emails, phone calls 3 times a week telling each other how much we love and care for each other. But I know the distance is hard. What do you think and what should I do from this point. I have found the last few days I went from thinking "oh my god what am I going to do we had planned stuff for the future" to missing specific moments. Now for the pst day I find I am not really thinking about specific moments we shared but thinking about her all the time, in a more general way. I find I am missing her not really the moments we shared. Is this normal what does this mean? Another thing I am unsure of is the no contact deal. We havent communicated in the last 5 days and I know we need time apart to heal and to understand how we truly feel but I am not too sure if I should make the first move, give her space etc. I wrote her a long email the day after and just told her my thoughts and basically said no matter what I will still be cheering her on etc. It was a nice email and I closed it by saying that I had no expectations of her to write me back etc. I really feel empty without her in my life and I have been through breakups before and realized in the end that all along there were issues. With us ther wasnt any so it makes closure that much harder.