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  1. tylercdurden2004
    What exactly does it need 2 to do?
  2. tylercdurden2004
    Nothing like putting the blame on someone else eh.
  3. tylercdurden2004
    Jazz, You are a very strong person who never gives up. You did everything you could to get yourself better. I wish all the best for you.
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    Yes and all too often peoples egos get the best of them and they avoid or are blinded to reality. The best way to get to the bottom of things I have found is to bottom line things. That is look at actions as opposed to words. People can say all sorts of great things but at the end of the day its the actions that matter.
  5. tylercdurden2004
    Give her one!
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    I dont think she actually thinks its harmless. That maybe her way of justifying it to herself. You guys need to read between the lines. If a guy she really loved did this to her do you honestly think she would see it as harmless. But when the shoes on the other foot. No sane person would think this is OK. They would however justify it like heck. Shes got all the power now.
  7. tylercdurden2004
    Seeing prostitutes? And hes married? Wow this guy is a real DB. I have to say he has zero repsect for you. You can never love more than you respect.
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    She wants you to come accross as a jealous beast? If this is the case I might read into that, that she wants you to show a little more attention towards her. Not in a jealous way but in a controled and confident way. Whens the last time you romanced her and took her out on a date like dancing or something she loves. Whens the last time you surprised her. Most women love to be romanced and surprised with nice things. not all the time but in a meaningful way that shows you are thoughtful and loving towards her.
  9. tylercdurden2004
    Keep cool. Thats it. Show her your have no insecurities that would make her feel she has control over you. Be in control of yourself. If she is more interested in attention and not able to draw clear boundaries then you may have to dump her. At the end of the day she will only be more attracted to you if she knows where the line in the sand is and knows you dont need her and you are who you are irrespective of how she acts.
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    You shouldnt have to ask what she needs. She shouldnt have to spell it out. This is the unfortunately the way things her are. Most likely in her mind she think "jeez do I really have to spell out everything for this numbskull". she doesnt want to go to a therapist and that should be saying a lot.
  11. tylercdurden2004
    That is the most important thing you could learn. Next time stand up for yourself that is why she left. You were a doormat.
  12. tylercdurden2004
    If I was in your shoes i would look at why she is feeling the need to look elsewhere for affection. Whats is it that you are doing to push her away. First I think you are giving her to much control and not taking control of the situation yourself. Shes tells you all sorts of crud and you back down. Ultimately you may need to take a hard look at dissolving this relationship.
  13. tylercdurden2004
    Shes your best friend. but guess what? your not hers otherwise she would be straight up with you and not do what she is doing.
  14. tylercdurden2004
    I realize that the suicide is not about the girl. It never really is. t may be that she was the straw that broke the camels back. She is bad for you and you need to get away.
  15. tylercdurden2004
    I'd rather meet up for a coffee and have a chat in person. Good. Thats teh way it should be. Talking on the phone, online is no basis for a strong relationship much less getting to "know" someone. It does happen at time but very very rarely that people sustain a relationship over the phone or internet. Its only really excuseable if distance is an issue and even then that cant continue indefinitely. If decided to marry this girl would the marriage be strictly over the phone? The sooner the better to see someone in person. To get to see the facial expressions when they are talking to you. To be able to read their body language.
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    That is not the word I would use to describe her behaviour. Its down right disrepectful and hurtful. Insensitive implies some sort of ignorance or innocence. I dont see this as being teh case here.
  17. tylercdurden2004
    I still havent received my bottle of single malt!
  18. tylercdurden2004
    Shes cheating. If not physically at least emotionally over the internet. Is this acceptable behaviour you expect and accept from you wife?
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    You need to get some confidence. What did she mean you didnt call enough? You shouldnt be basing any relationship with a girl on the phone or online. Some people do but very very few. Eventually the relationship needs to take that next step into the realm of reality. Her excuse for dumping you was just that. Dont you think if she really liked you she would have made an effort to make it work? I have never heard of a relationship ending because someone didnt talk on the phone enough. you need to read beyond the surface, beyond her words and look at her actions. Again if she really really liked you wouldnt she have moved closer to be with you, come to visit you? Its her polite way of dumping you because she wasnt really all that interested in you. face up to it.
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    Read the above bolded please. Does any of this add up? I didnt think so. I am going to be very blunt with you. You need help. Considering suicide because a girl dumped you is not healthy. You feel hurt naturally but most of it you are doing to yourself. First off girls who love you do not walk away from you. They do not risk losing you. Second love and relationships are 2 different things. Just because you love someone does not mean you should be together with that person. Love and relationships are not mutually exclusive. You could be in love with a heroin addict but it doesnt mean you should marry them. She is playing with you and getting what she wants. Someone who fawns over her and at the same time the freedom to choose someone "better". Take that power away from her and get your own power back. Again you are doing this to yourself. Stop it.
  21. tylercdurden2004
    It was tactless of him to say what he said the way he did however I dont think this is something to make a big deal out of. If anything tell him how much you would love to see your favorite celebrity in the buff. See what his reaction is.
  22. tylercdurden2004
    With Working Holiday Visas you apply for the visa first, well to be exact you dont need a job to get one of these visas. Then when you get the visa you can start looking for a job before you head over to your new home.
  23. tylercdurden2004
    I share you pain in terms of transitional period. I have been in constant state of transition over the last 5 years having moved around and lived in 7 different countries. Makes getting to know someone and establish long term relationships difficult when you cant get established yourself. However it shouldnt stop you from getting out there and meeting people. You just need to have a little of the "I dont care" attitude. Join a club of interest to you and start networking. Even if there is no girls in the club someone is bound to know someone.
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    Here:
  25. tylercdurden2004
    You should be thanking her for being so upfront about this. She cold just cut you off leave you in a fog for a year or two then just walk anyways leaving you scrtching your head wondering why and what and how. Its over. Girls who are attracted to there guys and love them dont lose interest in them sexually. No matter how long they have been together. Plain and simple.
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