JonnyG

I seem to be in same boat. In the last 3 years I dont think i've pulled (well maybe 1 or 2) or gone out with any one younger than me. Between 22-24 i've seen a 31 year old (I also briefly saw her a year later when she was 32, and its now possible i might be meeting up with her again shortly and she will be 33), a 26 year old, a 34 year old, then a 32 year old. Also almost started a fling with another 34 year old during the last year but turned out she was married so that had to stop. Everytime i've tried to get any where with someone my age or younger things havent gone well. I have found them immature or weird, and i really am not being biased here. Im not saying that there is no one my age or younger i cant get on with, its just im struggling to find them. But, whereas i use to think I was lucky cause i prefer older women and in the last 3 years ive seem to have got on better with them, its now become a curse because i worry about the age difference and i dont think it will work unless they are closer to my age.

I basically cannot cum either when a girl gives me a handjob/blowjob. The blowjobs always get me really excited but im just on the verge and cant quite reach. I found the only way its possbile is to have sex til im literally about to cum and then she goes down on you and handjobs u as well forcefully. U could always let her watch u masterbate and then when u get near the point let her help u out.

When I was 21 I met up with a 30 year old. Called M (nearly 9 years) When I was 23 I met up M again, she was 32. When I was nearly 24 I met up with a 35 year old. Called G(over 10 years) Now I am 24 and I met a lady who is 34 years old. Called K (10 years) Now i am 24 I met a 32 yr old last week. Called M 2 (diffent girl) (8 years) Now M and G both had issues with my age and thereforeeee Im not with them anymore. K I discovered is involved with someone so this isnt good to pursue although we did keep in contact a while but it looked to have stopped 3 weeks ago when we argued. She has since tx me again asking how i am. And as for the most recent M2, well....I havent met up with her since but we have tx each other and are planning to meet up this week. Am already thinking negatively about the situation because of my previous experience. We shall see how it goes though. I've always preferred older women, and I luckily seem to do better with them. Unfortunately this preference is now becoming a nightmare. I find it difficult to find girls I like and when I do this whole age thing is becoming a real problem. At least for me. For you though, like Majord said, maybe hold off a little. See how the situation with the ex pans out. If all doesnt go to plan and you go your separate ways, pursue the older lady and see how things go. And hope u have better luck than im having with them.

Im not sure what it is, but i've also had it since being a kid. Like a stabbing pain in your chest. it doesnt last long, but hurts like hell, and use to make me very worried. But i have heard others say they get it so it doenst bother me now. Im still not sure what it is though.

Lol, u said u were making out with your last bf "the other day" and now he's your ex? The back must of been quite quite hairy Quote from your last thread on 24/04 "Ok...So I despreatly ned help!!! I've been talking to this guy online for like a month and we decided to meet yesterday, so we met and he was AWESOME!! the chemistry was amazing and he felt the same way!! problem is..he lives an hour and a half away, this has us both concerned because we are the type of people who need that physical closenness!! we live an hour and a half away from each other and moving for either one of us is not an option as of now. Anyways basically, I need any advice possible on how to make this work for two people like us. PLEASE HELP!" So AWESOME, but still, hairy back

Im on nutri sport 90+ protein chocolate flavour. With water its fine, with milk its slightly creamer. I tried strawberry nutri sport protein and carb drink omg!!! it was the foolest thing, tasted salty and was **** at mixing. Im also on a really nice shake, its a MRP (meal replacement powder) link removed got this in chocolate as well, its like drinking angel delight (but just not as thick, but almost).

Women ask this but they already know the answer. No one likes rejection. The real question should be "why are women so chicken?" because its the vast majority of guys that go up to girls. But im sure we'll here the good old "Its just the way things are, its tradition (where's a yawn smiley?), men should make the move". But luckily there are girls out there who do go up to guys, so 2 thumbs up to them.

No no no. Didnt mean to come accross as sarcastic. I mean it, I love girls approaching. Guys like girls approaching. I did a thread asking this and every guy said they liked girls coming upto them. Im shy, and i hate making all the effort. My mojo has completely disappeared lately after a crappy start to the year with a couple of girls that I had real feelings for and things went pear shaped with both of them. On saturday (like most times im out), I was there for hours and couldnt pluck the courage to chat to this one girl who was with some other girls. Seriously so frustrating. I didnt notice any hints though from her that she may of been interested, so i sat and waited, and waited, and waited, til home time. Another chance wasted. I find it next to impossible to make an effort with a girl unless she gives us a look or two, a smile is the key and ill go straight over. There was actually a second girl interested in me on the saturday who gave me a few looks and even grab my hand gently when I went past her once, but she was not me. Just gave her a smile and walked on. Usually I'll have a quick chat and just wish them a good night (hint that im not interested). Suppose after saturday my mojo has gone up a bit since a few girls showed some interest, but its still at a really low level at the mo, so right now i need as many girls as possible to build the courage to chat to me.

Unfortunately, in a typical situation, a more attractive girl, is harder to chat to, because they know they have more choice of guys. Of course the guys know this, so unless u have a lot of confidence, or a lot of alcohol, it can be very difficult to approach them. EDIT: To answer your question above, I would probably go to the attractive one. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder anyway, and I always find there is a limit to beauty before it suddenly doesnt become beautiful but the girl just looks fake. EDIT EDIT: On a side note, on saturday a fairly attractive girl came upto me to chat. Her opening line was "Hi, are u shy?" obviously cause i didnt go upto her, to chat her up, must of meant I was shy, not that i was simply not interested Bless her, at least she made the effort, its always great when girls make the effort.

*ahem* Thread I started a while back. Dont see many guys saying "no" to it.

Every girl basically loves dancing and wants their guy to dance and yet only 2 (3???) girls have answered the question but not really answered the question in much detail. *Small bump*

I have only done it once and it was totally clean. The girl may have used whats called an enema (basically its inserting water into...well u can guess, to clear it out). I would recommend doing this if u plan to have a anal sex as it really will help with hygiene and of course possiuble future embarrassments (this is what the pornstars will use before doing a scene involving anal). Anyone wanting to do anal should realise that it could become messy at times and if they cant handle it, they shouldnt do it. I know if the problem ever happened to me in the future I wouldnt want to mention it to the girl cause I wouldnt want to make her feel uncomfortable. This is why your bf probably didnt mention it, to be honest he would feel probably nearly as embarrassed as yourself. I honestly dont think u should worry, if he cares about u he will be cool with it.

Think its because women like having someone who they feel can protect them. So they want someone taller than them and physically stronger. I prefer shorter girls, although I do see some taller girls who are attractive, I guess in a way I would feel less manly if I was dwarfed by my gf. However at 5'5 you are taller than a lot of girls still so I cant see there being much of a problem, unless of course you like taller girls, in which case I feel my first sentence might be a reason for why the girls are not happy with your height. Its a possibility anyway.

Is this stereotype a man session? If a guy likes/loves his gf he has no reason to cheat on his partner. Likewise if a girl likes/loves her bf she has no reason to cheat on her partner. The way u phrase this topic sounds like it happens regular with most men . Have u got a partner u feel might do this?

Think Gilgamesh has made a good point. Beautiful women know they are beautiful, and some unfortunately abuse it. Not all nice looking girls are like this. Although I have found from my own experience that younger girls tend to be like this, whils't the older lady's are not. Thats probably why I prefer older women. Im not a bad looking guy, but I can get shot down time after time by younger girls even when they are not that hot, but an older girl who is quite literally stunning will give me the time of day. A recent lady I saw who was older was absolute stunning and the nicest girl I've ever met, she was so kind and thoughtful, I just wished there wasent such an age gap as we could still of been together. One thing I have always found amusing though, is that these same hot girls, can look rather quite plain without all their make up.

Would of written my own reply but ocrob did a good job of what i was going to say.

It pains me on nights out that I do sometimes listen to music and think "hhmm, I wouldnt mind getting on the dancefloor and trying to make more moves than michael jackson", but then I realise, thats just crazy thinking. I am no John Travolta. To be honest, I don't think many guys are. The majority of the guys on the dance floor cant really dance, but I guess, respect to them, they are trying. The problem is, for every guy that can dance, there's probably 5 guys who are trying their best and are ok, and 5 who are just awful, and embarrassing themselves. Now, most women can dance. I think being more flexibile helps, and wearing revealing clothing can also help, and dancing allows them to draw the attention of males. Now because of this I guess I can understand why women like to dance. Also, and im not joking here, but its a well known fact that dancing is great for burning calories, so im sure some girls love it for this reason to . There's the saying that a great dancer is good in bed. I just think thats **** but thats my opinion. Maybe somewhere there has been an indepth study to show this but who knows. Fact is, dancing to me is just one of those things that can literally be a total offput. I cant think of another sport/activity which a gf could be bad at and it would be a turn off, with the exception of perhaps karaoke. I think if anything I would just laugh with her at it. But then there's dancing. If she was really bad I would just be plain embarrassed to be around her. This is the same for me. I wouldnt mind trying any sport and even if im bad I could laugh at myself and i wouldnt be embarrassed. I happily can sit with a girl and take the **** out of myself for many things and not be embarrassed but just have a good giggle with the girl. But I wont dance with them because I know i cant dance and I know that if I did try with them its not a simple case of a giggle, it could be humilation to myself and the girl. This is why I basically wont do it. Since 18 I stopped trying to dance. I've danced about twice with 2 separate girls in last 6 years or so and both was when they were holding my hands or my arms around them or something, and both were for very short period of time. The problem is that I know that girls love a guy to dance. I also know that past gfs have wanted me to go to the dance floor with them but im not up for this and it causes me to feel uncomfortable and a party pooper. Hell, I think one ex even thought I was a bit serious and boring simply cause I wouldnt dance and she loved it. I think this isnt fair. Im up for doing anything with a girl basically but I dont like dancing and I want this to be accepted. I wouldnt want to make a girl do anything that they strongly dont want to do, I would respect their feelings. Heh, I love womans backsides, have done anal once and loved it, but do I expect every girl to want to do it??? Of course not, hence i've only done it once and thats because the girl asked to do it. Not only that but I've not ever really felt i've gone out long enough with a girl to ask them to try this but if i did I wouldnt expect them to say "yes". I'd personally rather take it up the backside from a girl than dance, could even be nice, never tried it. Is it just because if a guy can dance well its impressive to u? Is it because if a guy trys u think "I love the fact he has the confidence to try"? What is the obessession? What happens if they are really bad at it? Does it embarrass u? I know that a mate or two of mine have been laughed at by a girl who wanted them to dance and as soon as they did and werent upto that girls expectations they laughed and left them. hhmmm...great. Explain please???? In all honesty, I would love to be an awesome dancer. I think it would be great as I dont think there's many great guy dancers so im sure the girls would love it. I also think some girls can look great dancing. Maybe one day ill start paying for lessons. EDIT: Not sure if its really the right section, but its an act that allows flirting so thought it would do ok here.

That cant of been nice especially if u still have feelings for them. I havent had that exact same thing happen but a quick story for u of that sort of same feeling of pain: Some ex who I saw 2 years ago, and then again last summer, although both times was only for a short period of time (both times she decided to end it. 1st time cause she got back with an ex as they were on a temp break as he wanted time out to think about their relationship as it was getting serious, and while on the break not knowing if they would get back together she decided to see me. 2nd time due to our age difference as shes 8 1/2 years older and she thinks she needs someone older and more fiancial secure (she has a child as well u see)). However, after the 2nd time, we had remained in contact by tx and she admitted to missing me several times. Also several times during nights out she tx me to say she really missed me and wished i was with her, but unfortunately I could only meet her once during these times due to other things, and these were my chances to show her what she was missing (Yes, typically enough she had had a few to drink but theres an element of truth still when your drunk). For 6 months I alway felt that there was a chance we would get back together. Then at the end of february, she and I were txing while on a night out and she told me where she was. I thought here's my chance, go for it.... Turned up, started chatting, things seemed to be going well. Unfortunately I had already had a few to drink so my memory isnt at its best. What I do know is that I obviously hinted about me and her going out again. Like i said my memory was not the best but at some stage she told me she had a new bf who she started seeing a few weeks ago. I was gutted, left the club as I couldnt stand to be there longer, went home txing to say im cool with it but it was obvious i was jealous. Feel i made a bit of an *** out of myself. I cried myself to sleep. O well, could of been worse, could of bumped into him, but I have a feeling she wanted have told me where she was if he was out with her at the time.

Like others have said, the first break sounded like she already had changed her thoughts on you. She tried time without u to see how things went and by the looks of it unfortunately she seemed ok without u. Now the break ups happened. The best thing u can do is NC right now. Obviously contacting her isnt working and she is now sounding dam right rude/insulting to u when u tried to talk to her. Give it some NC, a couple of months, see if things change. She cant miss u if your always there, and unfortunately she is obviously not wanting u right now. Each time u try to contact her and u have these fights she is probably adding it to a list of reasons of "Why it was a good idea to break up with him". Dont let her add anymore reasons. Leave her be for a couple of months and see what happens. Hopefully she will start thinking about yourself and the good times u had together. Then who knows, she may contact u back because she does miss u. GL.

Thx for the responses Huli. To answer your question, yes, girls are important to me. At your age I didn't really think about girls all too much, barely been out with anyone and certainly spent no time with someone I really cared about. Im sure you have spent more time with bfs than I had with gfs. Now at 24, days, weeks, months are racing by. Its crazy how fast life goes as u get older. And one thing u find as u get older, well I do anyway, is the need for someone in your life. U can tell me your thoughts when your 24 Now I have met with girls who I REALLY did enjoy spending time with and had REAL feelings for. Suddenly the world that seems a bit repetitive gets all the more exciting and enjoyable and I feel on a high. I like someone, they like me back, it feels great. And your right, I don't think I could treat girls bad, its not in me. I dont see the point of treating som1 bad if u like them.

My nose is still a bit sore but thankyou for asking (bruising happening around the inner eye sockets, makes me look like i havent sleep for a week). Thx for being honest antilove. I guess if u had 3 ppl+ on the go u would feel great. I know I feel on top of the world when Im seeing someone I like, your right, its like a drug. Like u said, on the down side, I don't want to waste my time playing around with girls I dont want to be with. Its selfish and a waste of mine and their time. But heh, this is my opinion. P.S. I am really getting tempted though with this "dont care about anyone attitude".

And girls are meant to be the mature ones. As I said in a previous post, I agree, heard this comment before from guys+girls, its stupid. They could easily just try to change "Mr nice but boring guy" in to "Mr nice but exciting guy" instead.

Cry myself to sleep occasionally. Mainly when I've had a few drinks. Cause im depressed of been so lonely. Im half ashamed about it, and half think I dont care. Hell, lifes tough, mum and dad were right telling me that when I was younger.

The only time I think a man will run to the hills is like Covirdae said, when they werent interested in the first place. Or they do what my flatm8 does, which is to go out with girls he really doesnt care about and just wants them for sex. As soon as they show interest, like u said, they then run to the hills. I know that when i find a girl I want to see them cause i really want to see them. And that by telling me they like me just as much back as I like them would send me over the moon. As for the chase part. Well. I guess some guys like the challenge, but for me personally playing these little games are a bit immature. Then again, I am quite mature when it comes to women and I do admit to taking things a bit seriously unfortunately so I maybe one of the few guys who doesnt like the chase. Dont get me wrong, when im with a girl I can act immature (in a fun way) with them to, but I cant be bothered with playing mind games. I find women hard enough to understand sometimes, I dont need more things to figure out