Kara

This isn't in regards to me, but to a friend. What are the chances of ex's getting back together after being split up for a over a year and the guy cheated on her? How often do ex's get back together and try again, and how often does it actually last the second time? I know everyone and every situation is different, but just in general and from experiences here, wondering how often ex's work out again... Thanks.

Two part, simple question really... Just wondering how many of you guys that have been involved in a casual relationship ended up developing more feelings for the girl and decided to date her exclusively? Part 2, And if so...how long did it take before you realized you cared for her more than just a casual fling? Just to be clear, in my case it's more than just a friends with benefits, but we are not exclusively dating each other. We hang out all the time, cuddle, he asks me to come watch his games, we talk every day and night, and get along fantastically. I sleep at his house once or twice a week..we do have sex but we cuddle and ACT like a couple but we're not. Basically, I brought it up far too soon into the start of it and he said "you're not wanting anything are you? Don't go falling in love with me ok? lol" and I backtracked and said "no ofcourse not, we're just having fun." So NOW, I find us getting closer...time has passed. And I don't know if maybe his feelings about us actually BEING together have changed. I'm too scared to ask and bring it up again. It FEELS like it from him..but I really don't know. Any advice would be great! Do guys just take longer to want something more?? Or does he just like having all the benefits of a relationship without the committment? I know he's not dating any other girls, so it's not that. Thanks!

Someone I work with told me (they don't know anything about us hooking up) And ex-fwb doesn't yet know that I know. I think silence is the best. Just cutting him out of my life. WHich is tough because we work together.

Thanks for the replies. They did spend the night together, and we are done. Story of my life.

Ok, so the guy I've been hooking up with for the last 3 months is confusing me big time. He SAYS he doesn't want a relationship, but his actions are otherwise when we're together. We're not "dating", (although I'd like to be)..we work together and hook up every weekend...I'll sleep there, he's very affectionate and cuddly, we talk everyday, yadda yadda. He sleeps with his arms around me, kisses me passionately, wants me to come out and watch him play hockey, all the good stuff that seems more than just a bootycall in my opinion. But anyway, I don't think he wants to be tied down. There lies the problem. Anytime I ask him if he's seeing or hooking up with anyone else, the answer is no. So I feel comfortable that way...I don't want to be on some bootycall rotation schedule with other girls and he knows this. However, this weekend he is going out with friends for a bday. His ex is going to be there (ex of a year, they were together over 2) and I'm worried. What are the chances that spark is going to still be there and they're going to hook up and/or get back together??? I'm not sure he's completely over her because he still talks about her from time to time, and I know they still talk online. He cheated on her though, which is why they broke up. Is it pretty likely, with the booze flowing and the fact they haven't seen each other in over a year, that they'll want to rekindle what they had?? I don't want to ask him and seem all insecure because truth is, it's not my business I guess since we're not "dating." So thought I'd ask you guys instead.

Well I'd like to take the new pill tonight and would like to get whatever info I can.

And when is the spotting? Right around the time you'd get your period?

Is the spotting bad enough where you had any embarrassing leaks? or just very light?

I was wondering if it's safe to stop your period from arriving by skipping placebo week and jumping right into a new pack of pills. Will there be spotting or cramping? Any long-term harm? And does it matter what brand of BC you're using? I'd like to do this on Ortho Tri-Cyclen Lo so if anyone has any experience with this, that'd be great!

So here's the situation...I'm hoping to get some opinions from the men here, but women too if you have any advice. I've been having a summer "fling" with a guy I work with. We've known each other a year and half, always flirted and got along great. Attraction has always been there and we finally hooked up a couple months ago, (yes..sex) and pretty much have been every time we go out. (We hang out with a lot of people from work and we all get together several times a week..all good friends.) I usually stay the night at his place every weekend. So here are the problems: - I originally thought (like we often do) "ah a summer fling, this is fun and doesn't have to go anywhere..." But ofcourse, I have developed feelings and now would like to be more than his "booty call." I have no idea what he would think of this idea...but based on everything I have observed, I don't think he is interested in more simply because...duh duh duh: I was too easy. I slept with him too soon, the chase is gone, blah blah blah... And he has said before (before me and him hooked up) that he would never have a relationship or respect a girl who slept with him on the first date. Now granted, we never went on a "date" and I knew him and we flirted a long time so I consider it different. I'm not the type to sleep around like that and I THINK he knows this. But I'm pretty sure his view on me has changed since we have just been having a physical relationship and nothing else. I fear that I am out of the "relationship potential" category now. However, when we do get together...all signs point to he likes me. He is very affectionate... arms around me, holds my hand, cuddles in bed with me, has me sleep over just to sleep over (not necessarily always sex), and we talk every single day. I'm not the booty call that just gets a call at 3am when he's drunk. We hang out, he ACTS like he cares...doesn't go distant the day after or anything. Anyway, now that you know the situation...I need to change this before it's too late. I want more with him, and I want him to consider me that "great girl I can't stop thinking about." Not "that cool chic that I get to have no-strings attached sex with..." How can I do this??? I know the obvious answer is "tell him!" But I sort of did already in the earlier stages of this. Probably too soon actually. I was teasing him saying "is that why you consider me nothing more than a booty call? Because I'm 4 years older than you..?" And he said "I don't consider you a booty call..we are having fun. Right? You're not wanting anything, are you?" I laughed and said no...and he said "ok, don't go falling in love with me ok? Lol..." And that was that. So I won't bring it up again...but want him to think of me as more than just sex. Any help??!

I'm hoping someone else has this problem so I can calm my fears. I went for a pap test today for the first time...and I am 26. (I know I know, should have gone a long time ago...I was always scared) The problem is that my Dr. had a hard time finding my cervix and when she finally did, she explained that it is turned to the side. I asked her if this would cause any problems and she said "not at all" but I don't think she knew I was referring to having children. Can anyone here calm my fears and tell me that I will indeed still be able to concieve??? Thanks, Kara

I don't think my previous posts are relevent here. That's not why I ask. I am no longer seeing him but still think of him and wonder if he'll be able to remain faithful in a marriage...that's the reason I ask. I feel bad for her and sometimes wonder if I should have told her. That's all. Thanks for the responses.

Straight to the point... If a man cheats on his gf/fiancee for 2 years (continuous affair) prior to their wedding (and she has no idea) ...is it possible for him to change once he's married? Can he suddenly think that this is it, the real deal, and put his cheating ways aside forever??

Guys, question for you. I had anal sex with my bf tonight (yes, let's get right to the point.) We've done it a few times before, with no problems. Takes some getting used to and especially tonight since it had been awhile since we tried it. Well, after it was done he went to the washroom to clean up and I heard him running the sink water for a bit. Didn't think anything of it...thought maybe he was washing off the lube. He came back and asked if I was ok since he could tell it hurt me at first. I said yes and asked "why, am I bleeding?" He said "no..I was just washing the lube off my hands." Alright fine. After he left for the night I went to use the washroom. In the wastecan I noticed some kleenex with...uh...some #2 wiped on it. It had come from me, off of his you-know-what. How embarrassing!!! I've never had this happen before when we've done it and I had just showered up all good an hour before he came over. I'm mortified! He never mentioned it and never acted put off or anything. But my question to the guys who have had experience with anal sex...has this happened to you and did it completely gross you out? Or is it expected when engaging in that act and you just don't think anything of it?? Same Q for guys who HAVEN'T experienced a mess after anal...would this gross you out if it did happen?? I just don't know how I can face him again.

Hey, just a quick question...I started taking BC pills 3 weeks ago. Tomorrow I start the 4th week of pills (non-active sugar pills) and I'm wondering if this means my period should start tomorrow as well? I know eventually it is suppose to start during the sugar pills...but since I just started taking them and this is the first month, will my period be off for the first few month then eventually regulate? Thanks!