nycdoctor Posted August 26, 2019 Share Posted August 26, 2019 It been 8 years since I got divorced. I haven't been in serious relationship until the last year and a half.. I had 4-5 short term relationship that last about 3-4 months. I am 52 years old and I will be 53 soon. In one hand, I am tired of being alone, and in the other, I want to be relationship. So here is the problem. I been going out with this Chinese woman who is 20 years younger than me. I have been going with her for over 1.5 years. I have to decide soon to either marry her or let her go. She is beautiful, skinny, educated, no debt, and wants to get married as well. I do love her, she tell me she love me, but I am not sure. I do have a trust issue with her. The first few month were tough. She has lied to me, slept with other men, kept secrets from me. I feel more like her parent than a partner. Just recently we are having great sex and she starting to cook and do other stuff for me. We were suppose to get married last Sept, but then one of her secrets came out again. She went back to China and then came back in April. We been seeing each other again since then. She told me she changed. My mom told me not to see her again, but I didn't listen. I know she feel that she isn't the one for me. We already have a pre nup. I feel like I am not ready, but then again...since I have been alone for so long, maybe I am afraid to commit and get married again. My biggest fear -she might leave like my ex wife did -I will be more like her parent -someone better might might come around -she will be unfaithful -she will drain my money Her visa will expire in October. I have to decide by the end of this month if I want to marry her or let forget this. I don't know what to do. Every woman I have been with, I had problems with. No one is perfect. I haven't been getting a lot of responds in the dating app. So the choice is either I marry her and take a chance or take a chance in the hopes that in a few years I will meet someone again who wants to get married but at that time again. I will be even be more older. I am so confused. Link to comment
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