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As you get older and you find your mature mind, you do eventually learn for what it is and know how to dismiss it.
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Ya sure, no one can say how he feels BUT IMO actions speak louder than words. If it doesn't feel right then it's not.
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His having reservation, please advice
smackie9 replied to Halle Berry23's topic in Relationship Advice
I suspect he's gonna be giving you the shove off soon because you are getting to emotionally attached and he knows this. I could be wrong but that's my impression of the situation. The kids thing might be him using it as an excuse/out. You want to clear things up, you should have a real honest conversation with him on your feelings, what you want going forward, etc. If you fear he will run away...that's a good thing...you will find out quicker how he feels, and that's he never intended to stick around in the first place...you would have done yourself a favor by approaching him about it.- 17 replies
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Your friends and family are right... please accept their judgment. It's your feelings that are confusing you and making you blind to the obvious. When someone is really interested in you they don't ghost you for months. This guy is wasting your time. My advice, date those who treat you the way you expect to be treated.
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I’m not sure how this girl feels about me
smackie9 replied to Darrinmtec's topic in Relationship Advice
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Well you had it in your head that since he was staying there must be something still there that's fair enough. It's normal to feel jealous/upset because your life is forever changed. You just lost your security/family unit/familiarity so ya it would be a bit of a shock to the system. The reality is, you turned a blind eye to what would happen eventually. He's moved on, and you foolishly didn't prepare for it. IMO him saying it might have made a difference if you said something is horse manure. He's just pushing this back on you. He's the one that ended it, and he knew you wanted him back. So if indeed there was a change of heart he would have made that move. Life will be harder at first, feeling dejected, but you have a responsibility to yourself to make your life better for you and your son. You will eventually find much happiness down the road. Don't let this eat at you, you needed this kick to the pants to really start living/enjoying life.
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How to discuss drunken infidelity with my partner?
smackie9 replied to whoopsie's topic in Infidelity
I agree you don't make excuses. Take full responsibility for your actions and admit you made really bad choices. That you will accept all consequences of the outcome of this conversation. Make sure she knows that this had nothing to do with her or your relationship to cause your decisions that night....tell her in no way you could ever forgive yourself for what you have done to her. Apologize for it and then take your lumps. -
Your ex is a real peach. He blames you? Why didn't he step up and get you help? Instead his choice was to leave you, have unprotected sex with some floozy at a bar, get her pregnant and continue to see the both of you, filling the both of you with his BS. He doesn't want to make this work. He just wants to make sure he can see the kids, and not stir up a bees nest with the new GF. His behaviour is not what you would call a loving supportive husband. This is something you need to unpack with a therapist asap. Once you get you head more clearer, get a lawyer and finish this.
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He flipped a switch right before I moved and I'm hurt
smackie9 replied to sadgirl19's topic in Dating Advice
We can poke a stick at what is going through his mind all day....still won't get any real answers on that. Lets focus on you. You knew what this was going in. Unfortunately he's used to women falling for him. He knows what to do and say to have women swooning over him regardless of what he tells them of what truly is/how he feels about relationships. He just locked you in because you were a perfect set up for his use. Getting the GF experience without strings attached. But we are all human with feelings and emotions. Your emotions got the better of you. It's a natural progression. It happens to everyone but don't dwell on this too long. Grieve your loss, heal, and go forward. -
Best friend behaving weird, saying my gf's name, more to it?
smackie9 replied to widdL97's topic in Relationship Advice
Breakup with your friend. If you have out grown his shenanigans, then you have out grown the friendship. I myself have walked away from friends, or social groups when I felt I had out grown them/no longer fit in my life. There is nothing written anywhere you have to keep your friendships forever. -
What's stopping you from facetiming with them every night? or visit once a month? If you can work remotely, why not spend a week with them?
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A man knows what he wants and goes after it. He would make it known to you he is interested, be flirtatious, confess etc. I think you are chasing the ghost of crushes past.
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How I Truly Feel About My Husband: A Rough Assessment Journal
smackie9 replied to Tjay Stewie's topic in Relationship Advice
That's what a therapist would have recommended, because not everyone communicates in the same manner. Peoples perspectives/ POV is so varied it's easy to get the wrong impression/message that's coming to them. Now that she sees where things need to change, she should receive some counseling on how to approach her husband when bringing up concerns/issues. -
I (32F) cannot move past partner's (33M) lies. What would you do?
smackie9 replied to Bolosk's topic in Relationship Advice
He lies because he's has low self worth/ is very insecure. The lying is a way he copes with anxiety. Make note, not everyone who suffers from anxiety outwardly expresses the behavior. I feel he has never been able to normally deal with these feelings as a kid. Could also be associated with a type of OCD. He just can't help himself. -
Are women typically insecure about talking a lot?
smackie9 replied to MrNobody1111's topic in Dating Advice
Maybe these women haven't had much luck and wonder if it's because of they are talking too much, making it a big turn off. -
tell her what you want and demand it.
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You are not listening to her...she wants a man to be a man...confident, strong, expressive. She wants you to take a hard lead on this. She's done enough nursing you along. If your are not assertive in you actions, she's going to keep waffling. Grow a set, tell her what you want and demand it. if it doesn't pan out kick her to the curb because you ain't gettin what you want just hanging around.
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IMO she's not being very straight forward. Time to have that heart wrenching conversation, that you know she's not on board with having a child with you and you have made the decision to move on.
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Weird stage of my relationship that I’m scared of
smackie9 replied to Advice4888's topic in Relationship Advice
I get it he wants space, but to cut you off and leaving you wondering what's going is not right. The issue is communication, so why not keep communicating even tho he's somewhere else? Nothing wrong with creating a life outside the relationship if that's what he is suggesting. He has to realize that you still need support, encouragement, to lift you up instead of leaving you in the dust. -
Sorry but you need to send your fiancé to the curb. Marriage is a serious step and parents are part of the package deal right? So if she can't cherish your parents like you do, and accept your relationship with them, then it's been over since the summer. It's been 8 months now of this fighting?? this relationship is done.
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He is totally isolating her...at this point she's probably living in fear of him. I have a feeling she tried to dump him, and he's pinned her down hard. Threats, threat of killing himself, threat of hurting her or her family or even you. She's in danger. I agree you should give the heads up with her family.
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Why argue about it. You both expect different things...cut her loose. When you make such arrangements, there should be a getting out rule, that if someone doesn't want to follow the rules anymore, then it's over. Time to move on.
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Weird stage of my relationship that I’m scared of
smackie9 replied to Advice4888's topic in Relationship Advice
Time to himself, is unacceptable. Any relationship that needs work should be quality time together, getting counseling, communicating with small breaks in between to do things on your own time like going to the gym, hang out with friends, stay home and binge watch movies etc. But going on for days without a peep with you sitting there wondering....no, that won't work.