blue_night

Yes, it is true. I have been thinking about our incompatibilities for a while already, and this made everything 10 times worse...I should probably just set him free as I feel I'm developing resentment and it is not okay at all, especially considering we've been together for only 10 months and this should be the honeymoon phase of the relationship...

I am considering this yes, even though it is not easy at all. There are also good things about our relationship. I still love him for many other things but I'm realizing love is not enough. We are very different and it's starting to feel like a forced relationship... I think it is better if we part ways and don't waste each other's time. I really want him to be happy and wish him the absolute best in life, he would be the greatest friend but as a couple we are definitely not compatible. :( I feel like there are more reasons to end it than reasons to stay. How should I go about this and cause him the least pain in the process?

Thanks for the reply! I understand media is escapism. And I get that violence can be funny sometimes. But this wasn't in the context of a humorous or satirical scene. It was just an animal being dismembered and the scene was serious and just too violent. Finding this funny and amusing is strange as hell. I personally don't think it is the same as playing call of duty. There may be a lot of people out there who would find this funny, or even most, but I think, just because something is normal/common it doesn't mean it is also right? And also yes, the fact he fell nothing while witnessing a suicide is also strange as hell

Thanks for the reply! He gets angry at things when he really shouldn't. For example, the other day while I was at his house, he went to take out the garbage. I heard him saying "I'm bringing the keys with me". So I knew he had the keys with him and followed him outside the house. Then, the door closed behind my back because of the wind. He turned around and looked at me saying "And now? How are we supposed to enter the house?" So I told him that before exiting I heard him say he had the keys with him, I wouldn't risk going out without making sure the keys are with us. And he got so irritated because "And what if I didn't have them with me?" But you have them with you! It's not like we're stuck outside, we have the solution to this problem!! So what's the point in getting angry at this, really? I don't understand. I feel like a normal reaction would have been "It's fine, don't worry, I have the keys with me" and just laugh it off. To me his anger seemed very unnecessary. And when I told him what I thought, he said to me "It is normal that things like that piss me off, others would be screaming at this instead". Nice...

Yes this is a question that I have asked myself... Thanks for the input

If I ask myself "is he the kind of person I want to spend my life with?" The answer is probably no.. I have noticed in the past few months many things about him that made me think. And I'm also starting to feel that we're actually two completely different people. He is a surface-level thinker with little capacity for introspection. I am the opposite of that. And I feel like I need more depth from my relationship. He is a great boyfriend in many ways and we have a lot of fun together, I love spending time with him, but I struggle to feel connected to people who are not inclined to deeper ways of thinking

Thank you for the reply! Yes, you are right about that. I know he wouldn't ever hurt an animal But I wonder how he would have reacted if that same scene happened in real life. In the past he has sent me a video of a a lil parrot in which the cage door dropped on its neck. The birb looked very in pain and watching that made me really sad. But again, he thought it was amusing. And that time it wasn't just animated, it was a real even caught on camera. What's funny about an animal suffering? I just refuse to understand. He has told me that he just enjoys looking at animal's fails, which is something that can be amusing indeed! But I find absolutely nothing funny in an innocent life hurting.. He has shown me in different instances that he is quite an apathetic person. Another example, he has once witnessed someone jumping from a bridge to his death a few years back. When I asked him "how did that make you feel?" He told me "I felt nothing, just kept walking". The fact he wasn't moved by the situation at all, not even a little bit, really impacted me. And I have many more examples in my mind of him not feeling emphaty towards situations involving people closer to him

Thank you for the advice!🙏 he was actually laughing at the scene, which I found very disturbing. He then got angry at me because to him it was nothing serious, he told me that he didn't want to watch anything with me ever again and went to sleep because all of that made his head hurt.. He definitely gets upset too easily, and I know it's not going to get any better in the future. I have started noticing different incompatibilities between me and him in the past 2 months

Hello everyone, I apologize in advance for any language mistake. Me and my boyfriend of 10 months were watching an animated tv series today. It is quite a violent anime with a lot of graphic violence and gory scenes. I am someone who is VERY easily triggered by that kind of content. He was the one to suggest watching it and I have enjoyed the story a lot so far. As I said we were watching one of the episodes earlier today and it had a scene in which a cat was brutally killed and his body parts started flying around... It sent shivers down my spine. I am sick to my stomach whenever I see animals getting hurt, I am a very emotional and empathetic person so scenes like that just make me suffer tremendously. On the other hand, he just..laughed?? He was so amused by that. I looked at him in complete horror. And he was like "what's up? It's fake, it's just a cartoon". So an animal being brutally killed is funny just because it's animated? ..ok? What am I missing here? He then told me that it is normal to laugh at that sort of things and even his cousin laughed at that exact scene. And I was made to feel like I was the odd one for not finding it funny. He then proceeded to get angry and told me "I should just stop watching anything with you" He is a very loving sweet and caring boyfriend otherwise, we love each other a lot but this confused me A LOT. Should I worry about this or just pretend it never happened? Does this mean he could potentially become an abusive partner in the future? Do other people really find that kind of stuff amusing and I'm the odd duck here? For more context, I am 22 and he's 27. I have also noticed he has a tendency to get angry easily