smackie9

You should trust what he says because it makes sense...people grow apart because people change as they get older. There are never any guarantees in life...always a gamble. Dating is a crapshoot. Just date him and see where it goes. The whole point of starting out is to enjoy one another's company and have fun. If things don't work out, so what. Life will go on.

There are no mixed signals. She sound like she's a busy lady and doesn't have time for calling/texting...but she can work her schedule to see you. You need to ask her out on dates, and base your assessment during the dates. So far so good, so just keep asking her out.

Honest communication with him is your answer. If he's just that, too busy, and doesn't really have the time, then you two have different expectations/ incompatible. Have to talk this out and discover if there can be changes and if not, then a decision has to be made.

Obviously you have it all wrong...he's insecure and jealous. Get out now.

Well if there ain't no ring on her finger, she's fair game. Ask her out. It's up to her after that, if she's willing or not. You are not forcing her into anything.

You have many options here. I'm sure you can decide which one would be suitable. It doesn't have to be this event, it can be anything like going to see a movie or whatever.

However you set this up, don't start makin the moves on her yet. It's a first date/hangout...doesn't mean it's for romantic reasons...you could be friends zoned and you don't even know it. So just enjoy the date/hangout, talk, maybe go out for a snack afterwards. Feel things out. Parents: Either explain to her it's a family thing and she's more than welcome to come along or like Wiseman stated get separate tickets if that is an option.

Depends on your future expectations....for example if you are thinking marriage with children it's a no brainer to sent this gentleman off. But if you are just looking for a companion, casual relationship then it shouldn't be an problem. Just take note, in your 50's you will be probably taking care of an elderly man.

What to do or your next step will be up to you. Maybe have some communication with her and time to think before you decide.

You loved him so much you knew this was best for him. His new sexual development needs exploration and the freedom to do it without guilt. You just freed yourself from the pain and anxiety. For sure you shouldn’t be someone you are not just to be in that relationship. This was a very mature decision. You may have feelings of guilt and uncertainty which is truly normal, but in a few months you will feel relief and look forward to your new future. You will adjust. Maybe you yourself should seek out a few counselling sessions to unload your grief. Must be hard to not be able to talk to your friends and family about it. Most schools to offer free counselling, maybe start there. Best of luck and take care.

In time the teasing will resolve itself and your feelings about it will disappear.

I think these men don’t want to have their time wasted so they get right to it. Since you find these questions intrusive and you are not interested in a committed relationship at this time you should come to the conclusion they are not looking for the same thing. Makes sense to just cut them off or maybe yourself be more proactive in expressing your expectations right out of the gate.

A sure confident man says what he says....that means they will tell you without hesitation what you mean to them, and how committed he is with his words and actions that match. He doesn't drag his feet for months. Me personally would never sit around and wait and ponder "what are we?" I would say to part ways because your expectations, and what you need isn't there. You have already spent enough of your time on this.

Many married people find solace in another's arms for many different reasons. Only she can answer your question. I feel the most common is a way to escape from the ordinary. The thrill, feeling alive, dopamine rush (which is addictive). Her head is stuffed far up her a$$ over it she's gonna deny/protect her addiction. I know you are trying to get your head around this, it's very destressing especially when you have your family to think about....the future is so unknown. Everyone is right. You need to seek out legal counsel, and separate. Make sure you communicate well and reassuringly to your children. Work on fair shared custody. I feel horrible for you...your everything that you have ever known is gone. That's so heartbreaking. I wish you well, and hope for the future.

You suffer from generalized anxiety disorder. Please seek out a therapist for proper diagnosis and treatment, instead of giving up on yourself. It’s treatable.

Ya been there...be pleasant if needed, hold head high, just walk on by.

Doesn't matter what it's called...it's not right. Bad enough that her friends noticed it too. It's like he's going around and telling coworkers/ friends that the OP is not his GF. I have been there myself...I dumped the guy after 3 weeks. My verdict is this guy don't give a real flim-flam about the OP.

Hun he's ghosted ya. It's over.

When the behavior is bad towards you, you don't try and fix it, you end the relationship because it's not right. You deserve better, so move on and find better.

What has happened two months ago? Just like any addiction, a porn addiction is a coping mechanism to deal with mental health issues, a tragedy, infidelity, grief, lost of a job, low self esteem, insecurity, avoidance because of a physical or health issue, involve the with someone on the internet or work, etc. The only thing that’s going to work is communication. Have to tell him how you feel, ask him why, what happened, what is his thinking of this, etc. Maybe he just wants out of the relationship. If he doesn’t cooperate, pack yer stuff up and leave. It ain’t worth it.

I am so sorry this happened to you. Your world must feel it’s been turned upside down. You must feel so conflicted…this person has been a part of your life for 6 years and yet it turns out they are not the person you thought they are. What a gut punch. You know what you need to do, yet it’s very hard to think a life without them. This person robbed you 6 years of your life. A life that could have been full of friends, dates, fun and activities that teenagers enjoy. But it’s not too late. You can rise above the anguish and really start building your own life. It will feel strange at first, maybe for a couple of months but you will adjust and feel so free. Please end this relationship.

You are just being thirsty...especially fresh out of an abusive relationship. Everything starts to look good on the menu, especially to someone who is being so nice to you....something you have been deprived of. You can easily get into a rebound situation. You are infatuated, not in love. Pull yourself together. Spend less time at home, get busy doing things with yer buddies so you can feel yourself again, and shake off the residual of your past relationship.

I would suggest her getting a full physical as you mentioned this is new behavior. There could be a medical issue like a brain tumor, allergy, a drop in hormones, chemical imbalance, early Alzheimers, unknown to you a drug issue, exposure to a chemical or mold, baby blues/depression. It's best to rule these things out before going forward with a phycologist.

He's unsure about your motives as many guys have found themselves in this situation...confused. He's being cautious. You will see if things are more than what they are at prom night.

It's kid's stuff. He mentioned it to some guys and got the s%^& teased out of him, so he publicly made sure everyone knew he didn't like doing it and deflected his involvement with the outburst. Make sense? He's going to be ignoring you to save his own reputation. So leave him be. Maybe after high school he will come around. Now fetishes are private and mostly harmless unless you lack control over it. Seek out some counselling in how to do so. You can enjoy it and later meet others who like the same experience, no harm done...just don't let it interfere with your social life or your relationships.