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The problem is that she's not on the same year as me, that was a special lecture by an outside professor for all interested. And judging by her account, she either doesn't have a boyfriend, or she's hiding him really well (she has a lot of posts and stories).

The thing is that this was an out of the ordinary lecture and she's not on the same year as me. So if I leave it up to luck, I may not have this opportunity again.

Didn't mention that this was a special lecture by an outside professor, and we aren't on the same year. So it's up to luck if I meet her again...

A girl sat next to me at a lecture this morning. Before it started, she asked me how I like college since she remembers me from a presentation for prospective students from last year. We talked a bit, she then told me she saw me at a concert two months ago and we talked about that and then the lecture started. She left in a hurry at the end, so we didn't talk more. Is that a sign of interest or just a random unimportant exchange? Should I message her on ig since we follow each other?

Well not really, we started talking a lot more only last week. But I agree with the rest. Thanks

There's this girl in college with whom I hung out a couple of times (since October) with our friend group and since the last few days I think I'm starting to like her. We had some great conversations last week when we saw each other and I would like to see her again one on one. The thing is that I'm going away on Friday to visit family and I'll be gone for a week, which I'm afraid could make me lose my momentum with her. Should I ask her out in the next two days or is that too abrupt?

Thanks for being confused as well, felt like I was going crazy for a moment lol. Turns out she has a boyfriend (she told me that after I was direct and told her that her comments are confusing since I felt very special vibes the night before)... she told me she finds me cool and she'd like to continue hanging out. If I see her again, I do hope she tones down the flirty stuff, because I wouldn't be too comfortable if I was in her boyfriend's shoes. Definitely think her behavior was crossing some kind of boundary for someone in a relationship. But oh well, I do feel good about being honest from the start and clearing this situation quickly and painlessly.

This turned out to be the case. I directly told her that I didn't expect that she would be trying to play the matchmaker for me since I had a lot of fun with her, so she told me that flirting and stuff was only for fun since she has a boyfriend, but she thinks I'm cool and she would like to hang out. I stopped messaging her after acknowledging that.

It's weird because I don't remember the last time a girl seemed this interested in me... she may know that her friend is interested in me (she always initiated our hangouts) and may feel weird about getting in between us, especially since we met thanks to her. But I never showed any romantic interest to the other girl, my stance was always clearly amicable.

True, thanks. I replied to her "umm ok... didn't really look at it that way tbh", which I suppose is clear enough about my intetions

Well if SHE's the one I asked out, then I think it's pretty clear it's not her friend that I like in that way.

Asked her, she asked if our mutual friend could come, I said sure, she then said "you two would make a great couple hahahah"... this is beyond confusing

I don't know what she's trying to do, but our friend is exactly that to me, a friend. I went out with her a couple of times and I'm really not interested romantically.

She doesn't have a boyfriend. I've never seen clearer signals than these. This is very confusing.

Asked her out, she asked if our mutual friend can come too, I said yeah, then she said that we would make a great couple... nothing makes sense any more, I think I'm gonna give up on dating for some time