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Yes, of course... that wasn't even the question.

There's a girl who I haven't seen for a year who went to music school with me, she sent me a song she likes a lot today and we started chatting. I then sent a baroque piece I like and she said that she was never a big baroque fan, but she would like to change her mind. I told her I'd like that as well, to which she replied "then make me". I said great, there's an amazing concert coming in two weeks. She then asked if I was going to go, and I said yes, and she asked if I already got the tickets. However, the main thing that's a bit of a bummer, is that my parents are coming with me too since they also enjoy this music. So I don't know how I could invite her and balance that with my parents or just let her get her own ticket and try some other time. This seems like the perfect thing to get closer to each other since we are both musicians and I felt interest over her texts. What do I do? Tl,DR: girl I haven't seen for a long time is interested in going to a concert with me, but my parents are coming too because we already decided to go together. Do I let her buy her own ticket and miss out on this opportunity or somehow invite her too?

The problem is that she's not on the same year as me, that was a special lecture by an outside professor for all interested. And judging by her account, she either doesn't have a boyfriend, or she's hiding him really well (she has a lot of posts and stories).

The thing is that this was an out of the ordinary lecture and she's not on the same year as me. So if I leave it up to luck, I may not have this opportunity again.

Didn't mention that this was a special lecture by an outside professor, and we aren't on the same year. So it's up to luck if I meet her again...

A girl sat next to me at a lecture this morning. Before it started, she asked me how I like college since she remembers me from a presentation for prospective students from last year. We talked a bit, she then told me she saw me at a concert two months ago and we talked about that and then the lecture started. She left in a hurry at the end, so we didn't talk more. Is that a sign of interest or just a random unimportant exchange? Should I message her on ig since we follow each other?

Well not really, we started talking a lot more only last week. But I agree with the rest. Thanks

There's this girl in college with whom I hung out a couple of times (since October) with our friend group and since the last few days I think I'm starting to like her. We had some great conversations last week when we saw each other and I would like to see her again one on one. The thing is that I'm going away on Friday to visit family and I'll be gone for a week, which I'm afraid could make me lose my momentum with her. Should I ask her out in the next two days or is that too abrupt?

Thanks for being confused as well, felt like I was going crazy for a moment lol. Turns out she has a boyfriend (she told me that after I was direct and told her that her comments are confusing since I felt very special vibes the night before)... she told me she finds me cool and she'd like to continue hanging out. If I see her again, I do hope she tones down the flirty stuff, because I wouldn't be too comfortable if I was in her boyfriend's shoes. Definitely think her behavior was crossing some kind of boundary for someone in a relationship. But oh well, I do feel good about being honest from the start and clearing this situation quickly and painlessly.

This turned out to be the case. I directly told her that I didn't expect that she would be trying to play the matchmaker for me since I had a lot of fun with her, so she told me that flirting and stuff was only for fun since she has a boyfriend, but she thinks I'm cool and she would like to hang out. I stopped messaging her after acknowledging that.

It's weird because I don't remember the last time a girl seemed this interested in me... she may know that her friend is interested in me (she always initiated our hangouts) and may feel weird about getting in between us, especially since we met thanks to her. But I never showed any romantic interest to the other girl, my stance was always clearly amicable.

True, thanks. I replied to her "umm ok... didn't really look at it that way tbh", which I suppose is clear enough about my intetions

Well if SHE's the one I asked out, then I think it's pretty clear it's not her friend that I like in that way.

Asked her, she asked if our mutual friend could come, I said sure, she then said "you two would make a great couple hahahah"... this is beyond confusing

I don't know what she's trying to do, but our friend is exactly that to me, a friend. I went out with her a couple of times and I'm really not interested romantically.

She doesn't have a boyfriend. I've never seen clearer signals than these. This is very confusing.

Asked her out, she asked if our mutual friend can come too, I said yeah, then she said that we would make a great couple... nothing makes sense any more, I think I'm gonna give up on dating for some time

Thanks, I just did now, we'll see how she responds!

Thank you. Due to past experiences, I often get into that mindset of hoping not to ruin something with a girl that's going well, either by not waiting enough or waiting for too long. I'll keep it chill and ask her out soon 🙂

Just got home from a birthday party where I met a girl with whom I almost spent the entire evening with. We really had a great time. She was constantly smiling, invited me to sit next to her on the sofa, laughed at all the things I said (even when they weren't the funniest), and we exchanged instagrams. She then texted me the moment she got home about noticing that we have a common acquaintance on ig, so we chatted for 10 minutes and said good night. I feel like I'm at an optimal position right now and I don't want to blow it. What's my next move? Talk a bit tomorrow then send a text on monday to ask if she wants to go out next week?

Thank you for your feedback! It really helped me clear my mind. I wrote this post after an evening out with my friends and being the only single one there, so it inevitably stung a little when they started discussing couple stuff, especially since they all got way farther in their relationships than me haha... but now my head is clearer

There's a little problem here: I'm a classical guitarist and as you might expect, classical music doesn't have that kind of draw power that rock or pop has lol... so yeah, playing at gigs is a bit limited

Thanks for the feedback. Yeah, my situation is kind of particular since I study music which IS my passion, and everything in my life is centered around it. So my college feels like the best (only) place to meet people who understand me.

I'm 20 and go to college. I've had 3 relationships over the past 3 years which didn't last longer than 5 months and weren't that great. Now that I'm older and most of my friends are in very healthy serious relationships, I decided that I really have to look for quality partners and that I mustn't make the same mistakes as before. However, I really don't know how to go about it without using apps... 2 of my relationships started from me sliding into dms on instagram, and one was in-person, but it was a girl who I wasn't actually attracted to and more of a rebound. About a month ago I decided to take my chance with a girl who obviously liked me, but failed since by the time I made up my mind she already got into a relationship. Last week I invited another girl with whom I was good friends since october out for coffee, but she declined. It feels like there really isn't much I can do except wait... because I really don't think dating apps are worth it, and I want a natural connection that will last. I also don't enjoy going to clubs, and I rarely go to parties. And I wouldn't want to start a hobby or activity with my goal being finding someone, because that would feel disingenuous.

I asked a girl I go to college with "coffee this week?" to which she responded with "sorry, unfortunately I have other lectures after our lecture :/" (we're not on the same year). I didn't say it had to be after our lecture, so is she simply declining?