Hey everyone,
I'm hoping someone can offer some advice on this feeling that's been bothering me lately. I've been on a few dates and hung out with a few women, but no matter how hard I try, I always end up feeling like I'm wasting their time.
It's like I'm stuck in this cycle of self-doubt and inadequacy. I'll meet someone, we'll hit it off initially, and I'll think to myself, "Okay, this could be something." But as we spend more time together, I start to feel like I'm just taking up space in their lives. Like I'm not good enough, interesting enough, or attractive enough to hold their attention.
It's not just about the dates themselves - it's the feeling that I'm somehow less worthy than they are. That no matter how hard I try, I'll never be good enough to truly connect with someone. It's a constant, nagging voice in the back of my mind, telling me that I'm just not cut out for this dating thing.
I've tried to shake it off, to focus on the positive and just enjoy the experience. But it's hard when it feels like the women I'm interested in are just going through the motions with me. They are polite, friendly, and courteous, but there's no spark, no excitement, no sense that they're truly invested in getting to know me.
I've started to wonder if it's just better for everyone involved if I just stick to being alone. At least that way, I'm not wasting anyone's time or leading them on. It's a sad thought, but it feels like the most honest one.
Has anyone else struggled with these feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt in dating? Am I just being too hard on myself, or is this a sign that I'm not cut out for the dating scene?
Thanks for listening, and I look forward to any advice or words of encouragement.