I don’t know what to do. I have had issues with my boyfriend in the beginning of our relationship about using porn too much and even receiving and sending out nudes to online girls. It took everything in me to get past that with him, but maybe that was my first mistake.
A couple years later, I found videos of him using a d*ldo for back action and even performing oral on it. I was shocked. I approached him about it and he said that he is not interested in guys AT ALL but was curious about the back action thing. I was suspicious about the not being into guys thing but I wanted to give him space to figure out his curiosity. We have done some experimenting back there but nothing full on as I don’t know if I’m comfortable with performing that. He swore that he was just curious about the feeling of it and said it wouldn’t be anything more than that. He has not tried to get me involved with any of his experimentation, and I was under the influence that it had ended.
However, BIG SURPRISE, I went through his phone again tonight (yes I have trust issues) and found more videos of him using a d*ldo. After more digging, I found a secret email linked to a gay hookup site. It’s specifically for finding local people and video chats. From what I saw he has not chatted with anyone or put out any videos so far.
I'm heart broken. I can accept him being bi and experimenting with him but I feel like my trust is broken beyond repair. I am so in love with this man and he is my best friend. I know I need to break up with him but I just don’t feel like I can live without him. The selfish part of me wants to ignore it and stay with him. We have made plans to travel the world, get married, and grow old together.
Someone please help. What do I do?