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  1. Why not? You're dating 2 mos. and sleeping together. Why pretend to be coy if you're having sex and dating exclusively? Certainly a simple communication is not that big a deal. Try not to play games under the false pretense of "self-respect", as far as delaying replies, not texting first, etc. These games are for teens not a mature man with a life of his own.
  2. Ok. Hopefully this gives you the closure you need so you can move forward. It sounds like he found someone else to have sex with. Sadly you should have moved on when he broke up. Don't just try "NC" in the vain hope that you can "love again in the future". Delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. Stop worshipping men who toss you out like trash.
  3. He needs a life outside of dating, especially if he has adult kids and grand kids. It sounds like this is more casual for him. Is he widowed/recently divorced? He left the ball in your court, so if you are interested just text him. Not some joke, meme or other nonsense...but actual communication.
  4. Invite him over for coffee/out to dinner/over for dinner/out to lunch. Maybe it's your turn to initiate and invite him or reach out to him. Maybe he's tired of doing all the work? What do you mean by "elderly"? A few years older than you or a 70 y/o grandpa?
  5. That's fine. It doesn't sound like a rescue team needs to talk you off the ledge about some butterflies about a new women. Take your time. Relax, do stuff, plan for when she gets back. Not every uncomfortable sensation is a reason to run to a therapist. If you want that fine. However, everyone feels nervous now and then, the trick is discerning what it paralyzing/pathological from what it simply the body's warning system or a heightened awareness of new/uneasy feelings given the novelty of this situation. It's also important not to make your nerves her issue. Just take some breaths and make an appointment for down the road if this is a recurrent theme.
  6. Focus on being respected. It's less fickle. Focus on being smart. That's in your power. Allowing an unstable person to influence financial decisions is not "love". Perhaps it's time to see a physician for an evaluation of depression, anxiety, etc. because obviously therapy alone is only making you worse.
  7. Letting someone with undertreated severe bipolar disorder with psychotic episodes advise you on finances, assets etc. is like hopping on a plane with a pilot who's drunk. Every time she starts going on about how you should run your life, close your eyes and picture those planes flying into the WTC. Work on your excessive dependence and excessive submissiveness.
  8. Ok. Keep in mind that you may be overwhelming people with racing thoughts, tangential thinking, etc. Also manic episodes can be like a run-away train of me me me me thinking, feeling and expressing too much of that.
  9. Does this make sense to you? Hanging out with this guy is making your mental health much worse.
  10. It would be best to discuss your finances with your bank, financial advisor and account. Someone who has psychotic episodes is not the best confidant or financial advisor. Take this opportunity to free yourself from the bipolar roller coaster you have subjected yourself to. Why go from an abusive marriage to an abusive relationship? Don't you want peace and happiness in your life?
  11. I think you know using someone as a receptacle to lose your virginity is a bad idea in general and especially a coworker and particularly someone with a BF.
  12. Agree. You're not a storage facility or delivery service. It's her stuff so the onus is in her to collect her belongings. Communicate that she has x time to collect her belongings before they are donated to charity. Alternatively she can send you the funds to send it. She may not even be interested in it, but legally you'll have to check and offer an opportunity for her to collect it. Let her friends/family (who you were a secret from) drive her.
  13. Address your mental health with a physician and therapist. Are you out? Are your friends and family supportive? Why are you hiding behind a screen? Yes that is a major contribution to your unhappiness. Get involved in your real life with real people.
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