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  1. Excellent . She's much too flaky. Just delete and block someone like this, who is nothing but headaches and heartaches. She was not GF material, just put her in the "good for sex" pile.
  2. Have you set up a household budget? Who pays for what, etc.?
  3. Excellent. The assault was a game changer, it's good you left. Talk to your orthopedist about better options than becoming dependent on opioids. You're simply replacing one problem with a worse one.
  4. End it with the GF . You're resentful and feel she's raining on your parade with all your fun friends/lovers.
  5. Who? A GF? How much time do you need? Are you dating? Have you met in person? How old is she? Does she work, go to school? Start getting busy with friends, family, school, work, sports,etc. And don't smother her this much.
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    You need to end it and cut your losses. Once you start playing phone police, it's over. Not sure which is worse. Playing psychiatrist or prison guard, what do you think? At any rate this is built on damage and creating even more damage. Take a break from dating altogether until you figure some things out.
  7. Where do you live now? Did he ask you to leave? Have you been treated for the pain pill dependence? Stay away from them. Find better options for your medical problems and get more support for that.
  8. Was it a three-way or after your father and she ended things? Are you, your father or she sure it's your "baby brother" and not your son? Get a paternity test.
  9. The first place you could start is with a physician for an evaluation of the moods, anger, anxiety and impulse control. Then get a referral to a therapist for ongoing support. Consult an attorney to discuss your options in divorce. Do not threaten divorce or mention you are seeking advice from an attorney. If substance use is an issue behind the impulse control and moods, anger and anxiety, get support for that as well.
  10. Some distance, de-escalating like this, space, time out,etc., are all good things you should be doing as well. Develop better boundaries, focus more on friends, other family, your work, etc. If a discussion isn't going well, do what she does and terminate the conversation, then take some space to relax, reflect and regroup.
  11. Excellent. This also gives you an opportunity to take your time planning a fun (and safe) trip with friends, family, etc. You can also research travel tips for safely in the particular country/area you hope to vacation. For example covid restrictions, etc.
  12. Sorry this happened. He seems overwhelmed so all you can do is step back and take care of yourself. Get to a physician. That is the best place to start for an evaluation, especially the degree of mood and anxiety issues you describe. Ask for a referral to a qualified licensed therapist for ongoing support. Reach out more to your own family and trusted friends. Develop much more interest outside of him. Sports, groups, clubs, academics, volunteering, etc. Maintain a healthy lifestyle with exercise, eating and sleeping well. Make sure you don't use drugs or alcohol. . Try n
  13. How do you all know each other? Are they dating? Did you ever date him? It would be best to date other boys. It doesn't matter if your friend likes him, if he's not asking you out, he's not worth worrying over. Have you read the book 📚 "He's Just Not Into You"? It may help you sort out the time wasters from the the interested ones worth your time and energy.
  14. Are you exclusive? It seems he is hesitant. 8 dates in 'a few months' doesn't seem as though he is all that interested. Since there has been no relationship or excusive talk or sex, just date others and put him on the back burner or end it.
  15. Normally the spouse inherits everything, if there is no will. However ask to see a copy of your mother's will and life insurance policies.. Is this money in a trust? How can it specify "to buy a house"? Your father is grieving and making some poor choices, but there's not much you can do about that. You are both going through the "angry stage" of grieving. What you can do is talk to trusted relatives and friends and most of all look up some grief support groups and therapy to unpack and sort all that out.
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