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  1. Ugottabejokin
    UPDATE!!! Ok...so all the flirting was for real....she thought I told her to stop with the flirting...(I grabbed her hand, pulled her towards me and said.."You're pretty flirty these days") Whatever...we cleared it up... And now I have a 20 yr younger gf...well sorta...kinda on the downlow.. Trying to keep it all sensable...we both know there is no future...so don't rant on me. We're enjoying our time...enuff said.
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    So this friend starts flirting with me on IM. She's saying all sorts of stuff...you can touch me...we should kiss next time together...etc. Pretty much said "Lets Get It On!!" Moment of truth comes...I make a move...BAMMO! "Sorry...I didn't mean it that way" Squeeze me?? I made my intentions very clear...and I thought she did hers. Now it's all in that quazzi-friend uncomfortable stage. I'm 20 yrs older...not inexperienced at all...she's 21. I don't need any advice...just a note to the ladies. Being flirtatious and flirting is fine to a point. Don't make intentions you don't plan on following through with. All will be well in time.
  4. Ugottabejokin
    Dude thinks you are attractive, would like to score with you. He knows you know he is taken...but you still let the fondeling continue. He sees you as an no-commitment conquest. Kinda a hobby away from the real world. Say NO next time to his advances...his true self will be revealed. ...unless you want carefree noncommittal sex....which is what he is offering.
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    I see bad days ahead for our buddy Pysal131......
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    This has nothing to do with him. You wanna go out with him?? He will see this as a victory. You tell the chick it bothers you...from that you will see where you stand by her actions..not her words... The hardest part of this will be you accepting what you know is right.
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    Damn...this seems to be a common trend.. I talk to my buddies and even my own experience, and chicks just can't make the severance no matter how bad it went before. Here's the kicker..if you make some kind of stand..or ultimatium..she is gonna rush right to ex-dude and talk to him about it. Nothing YOU can do about it but tell her it bothers you (no need to explain...that just sounds needy). If she says "you can't keep me from my friends.." B.S. line, well Bud...time to start pulling away...BIG trouble around the turnpike. If she (and this a very small chance of happening) says..." I'll stop talking to him in private..if he's gonna be a friend, he's gonna be OUR friend. I'll only talk to or see him when you and me are together" ...then you have a KEEPER. Good luck...and you will know the right move...make it when it's time..
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    Ahh...been there...done that... When I was with my wife, we were down to twice a year...and here's why.. It was frickin' work!! not fun.. There was all the performance..the wining dineing...DARN that was alot of work to accomplish what 2 minutes of porn got done. Try this...just corner him...drop to your kness...and get it DONE!! (I don't think I need to elaborate). Then every once in a while..JUST DO HIM!! I am with a girl now that does this. I know that sex is going to be just GOOD...no garbage or headaches. And guess what? Now it's 4-6 times a week!! We've been at it for 10 years!! OR...the two of you are not compatable...sux but true somtimes...move on...
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    I'm guessing by your name that you are born in '87 thereforeeee you are 15-16. My guess is that your BF is around that age as well. If I remember correctly (and I do), being all clingy and trying to hard and stuff will DEFIANTLY scare him away. Just chill and find your own life without him (not necessarily with other dudes). He will come back , if he wants to. But he defiantly won't if you are all over him!! Good luck!
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    link removed Try this...let us know how it goes....
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    What you talking about?? STALKISH??? "Stalkish" would be if he tells you never to call again and you keep doing it. If it's in the phone book, it's public knowledge...phone away!!!
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    Doesn't sound like she broke up with BF for you...so don't assume you're a lock. However...she prob needs some male re-assurance right now, so the rebound route is prob available..if you want it. If you want more then "friends"...or even.."friends w/benifits"..then you have to give her space. Talk to her...no pressure...let her know that your there, just like you always were, to go hang some time. And let her call...or suggest it at work. AND DON"T TALK NON-STOP ABOUT THE EX!! Good luck.
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    so you dumped her for a month to get over POT and deal with other issues?? Methinks that we are not getting the whole story. Was there another women involved?? I've been on both sides of this fence. Getting dumped and getting the person back is never the same. You always have it in your mind that grief is just around the corner. AND getting back someone you dumped is never the same. They are always suspicious of your motives. Take these lessons to the next person you are with. It sounds like you were dealing from a position of strength when you dumped her. Next time you are in this position, appreciate it and don't abuse it.
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    Ugottabejokin replied to Caldus's topic in Dating Advice

    Hold on.... 6 years??? Is that it?? 18 and 24??? Big deal...go for it!!!
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    Had a buddy that sounded just like you are... Comunication is a two way street. If you want to stop communicating.. ...STOP COMMUNICATING!!
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    Welcome to "Rebound Guy" syndrom. I am the patrion saint. Sux. Someone help this guy that isn't me...I'm just bitter.
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    Yeppers!! I was seeing a co-worker for 6 years before anyone knew. ....and we are still together today! Bottom line is that your time alone is strong. Hang on to that. The rest is just superficial.
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    well...you're at the right place.... Keep reading...u r not alone.. Good Luck
  19. Ugottabejokin
    Sounds like a good friendship awkwardly morphing into a strong romance. Enjoy the feeling of the two of you "discovering" what works and what doesn't. Nothing worse then first being with someone and the feeling of "been there , done that" Enjoy this time and remember it when rough roads arrive. It will strengthen you.
  20. Ugottabejokin
    Say "NO" just once to his physical advances...you will find out in a hurry what he wants from you. If you are just a "friend w/benifits" then he will run. If he wants to be with you, he will change his ways.
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    WOW...counting condoms?? Do people really do this?? I guess so... If dude knows you are counting condoms and still uses one of the "inventory" for his filandering, he wants to get caught. All this "looking for signs" is usally a symptom of larger problems. I've been there, and it's the worst place to be. Once I removed myself from this suspicion trap, and found a trusted partner, it was like a new life was granted. I hope you find the same.
  22. Ugottabejokin
    Ummm..well...yes...I do deserve the flames.... There are details left out and my short-hand makes me sound a bit calous, but you all got the jist of things. Best advice seems to be to explore around a bit. Girl A is too good to be "used". And , no, I'm not young...just seem to get played alot. Thanks for the responses.
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    Ok...here's the short story...I hope... I'm with girl A already...girl B comes to me for boyfriend advice. No problem. She's a friend and I always have time for a friend. She returns to me 2 months later...and throws herself at me!! I AM WEAK! I accept her advances to a point (first base). I really like girl A, but girl B is intriging (I have a weakness for tall blondes). She continues to persue. 6 weeks of this, and I give in. Tell girl A I need a break and go to girl B's house with the news. OFF COME THE CLOTHES!!! YEEE HAAA!! AWAY WE GO!! To be honest, I was a bit down cuz of the break-up with girl A, but I figured in time, I'd be ok with my decission. Well...girl B disapears...don't hear from her for a week...I'm a bit peaved. She shows up a week later with.."I really always thought we wern't good together, and I don't wanna get too involved at this point...can we be friends??" WTF??? She "jumps" me asking for a break-up with girl A and then gets "scared"?? Hard to say if the sex was bad...she was tottally into it..mabye she's a good actress?? I dunno....been with enuff to know what works and what doesn't. I did the "proud man" thing and gave her the "yeah, I knew we were a bit off as well" speach and promptly went back with girl A (thank goodness she took me back...I was happy with her before all this) Truth is (as you have figured out) I kinda was lookin forward to exploring with girl B. I'm not unhappy with Girl A, but I am a bit confused. Talk to me...any thoughts???
  24. Ugottabejokin
    DUDE!!...I just got the same line!! This is the new line of dumping me-thinks. But I think I have your problem solved. There's your (and my) problem. Face it ladies, you all want a guy with a wild side that you can tame. You want a solid, together guy and take the credit. You want his friends to say "he was wild until he met you!!" Truth is, I was with a lady before "I"M SCARED" chick. She was totaly together and strong. We did TONS of things together...never fought...never was mean...and TONS of great nookie!! So hang in there bud, they are out there. Ladies that don't need to tame the lion because they are strong themselves and arn;'t intimidated. OH YEAH... I got the strong girl back and feel like an ASS letting her go. I know I suffer from the "gotta save them first " syndrom. Won't happen again.
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