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Just wondering if you folks have any preferences when it comes to the hair down there. I'm a trimmer myself, and find trimming my preference for my man too. I'm scared to wax myself (ouch!) and would find it an odd thing for a guy to do; maybe I'm missing out though ;P. Anyway, I'm curious what works for other people, so what are your preferences and why?

awww, Tigris you're so sweet and supportive! Thanks for the ideas, but there is something I forgot to mention in my original post. I'm a virgin, and while I feel ready to have sex (mentally, emotionally, etc) I don't think I feel comfortable taking the lead. He is quite sexually experienced, and I had hoped that would make things go smoother before this whole "awkwardness" thing came up. As I write this, I'm realizing I should just go have an honest and open talk with him about it though. So I guess maybe I just had to write it out to get some perspective. but Thanks for your help!

Hello all! I started a relationship with a close male friend of mine recently, and everything is emotionally fantastic. The only thing is we haven't slept together yet (which I'm cool with, it's only been a month), and he has said twice now that he feels sexually awkward around me. He says it has to do with how we were friends for so long, and now he sees me in such a different way. I don't feel unattractive or insecure because I can tell that sexual attraction is not the issue, and I'm fine with giving him time; but I was wondering if anybody has some suggestions of how I could help him feel more comfortable?

Oh, not sure if everyone was clear on this, but on both of these occasions he was drunk and I was at least tipsy, and probably more. Perhaps that changes your replies (or not). He says he cares for her a lot, and their relationship has had some issues with him being jealous of this guyfriend of hers, so seems like he does care quite a bit. They've been together about 2-3 months, and they are breaking up in a week or two because she's leaving the continent. Thanks Jenifer, I just had my brake lines checked I pretty much already know that he is a treasure, like I said, we are really close friends. In a way I'm wondering just how far his judgement was distorted by him being drunk. Was I just a cute chick that was handy when he felt amourous? Or was it that he has more-than-friends feelings for me and the boundaries we normally observe because we're friends dissappeared? I know I should probably just confront him about it, but I guess I'm scared.

Hi everyone, I need your help. Basically, I have a male friend who I have pretty much had feelings for since I first met him a year ago. We are really quite close in that we talk about fairly personal stuff any time one of us needs to, esspecially concerning relationships. I've waivered back and forth over whether or not I really wanted to be in a relationship with him, due to some of the issues we've discussed about ourselves. Since he's a people person, and kind of a flirt, I have never really been sure whether he has feelings for me despite seeing typical "signs" to that effect. Anyhow, 2 or 3 weeks ago we went out to this party and both got drunk. We were both being sort of 'affectionate' with each other (my hand on his knee, his arm around my back/waist, etc) when we were standing around and talking. Then we danced for a bit and his hands slipped down to my ass, but I sort of 'smoothly' removed them because he has a girlfriend, and I thought that was too far. After that we were pretty much holding hands, hugging, holding each other with our temples pressed together for the rest of the night until we went home. The next day or so afterward, I spiraled completely into that really pathetic obsessive-chick mode, where all you can think about is "oh my god, what does this mean, what did I do, what is he thinking" and so on. But I came to the reasoning that we were drunk, he doesn't necessarily remember what happened, we are still just friends, and that since he has a girlfriend there was no point in pushing the issue. So we continued on being friends as before; but then, last week we were hanging out in a group of people, and then went for dinner and drinks. During dinner he arranged to meet his girlfriend later that night, and then after dinner we walked around for a bit with drinks, and eventually found our way to a bus stop. He wasn't getting on the bus with the rest of us, so he went to hug me goodbye, but then decided to wait with us for the bus. During the wait he kept his arm around me, pulled me closer, rested his head against mine, and again his hand grazed my ass. When the bus came, he hugged me and we kissed each others cheeks (like friends), then he pulled me in again, hugged me and kissed my neck (might've just missed my cheek 2 days later he sends me text messages to essentailly ask if I got home okay, and to tell me that he was really out of it by the time we were waiting for the bus. I originally gave him the benifit of the doubt that he didn't remember what had happened, but I talked to him recently and he sort of slipped-up and started talking about something else that happened at the party, and that means he remembers. My intuition is telling me that he has feelings for me and my friends say the same. I'm not the type of person that would EVER make a move on a guy with a girlfriend, but we are really close and I want to put an end to this weird "does he like me?" game, that's been going on for a year. I guess I'm asking for any opinions you guys might have on the situation. and if you think I should I ask him if he has feelings for me.