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    cccube, I totally agree with you. You don't sound arrogant at all because You indeed don't deserve her at all. What she did disgusts me and most likely some others as well. She was obviously cheating on you. She has no values or morals as you noted. She's helping that married guy cheat on his wife plus she was helping him commit adultery. She's not setting a very positive future for herself by doing these kinds of things. Her true colors came through as you said. Good thing you didn't stay with her then. Just move on and forget her if you can. If she wants you back, you shouldn't even consider it since you now know what kind of person she really is. Hope that helps you out a little.
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    kittykat, I feel your frustration too. If I had a similar situation, that would totally destroy me as well. I guess some people are just like that. They were born like that or it was the way they grew up. There's absolutely no place for people who are heartless and have no conscience. With regards to your ex, that's most likely the way he really is unfortunately. This may have all been a blessing in disguise for you.
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    kittykat, The only ones that can do that weren't very good people to begin with. They show their true selves. They're really inconsiderate, uncaring, selfish, etc. These kinds of people are able to forget the past as if nothing really happened. They can turn it off just like that. It's actually good that things didn't work out with them.
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    SilenThunder, Hopefully, she's simply friends with the both of them. It's her choice and her life anyways. I hope she's not being selfish and is really considering your feelings in this matter. There has to be some give and take here. However, something still doesn't feel right about her hanging out with her 2 ex's all the time. I don't know if it's a red flag I'm seeing. Perhaps, a yellow flag. Just please becareful.
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    You have to tell him up front what do you have to do to prove to him that you're dedicated to him. If he can never trust you, things won't work out. Look at the big picture, the relationship is one-sided right now. What can you do to balance it back to what it should be?
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    Max1, I'd like to share with you a couple of possibilities. Is it possible that your inner feelings are telling you your bf isn't the right one for you? Maybe all his problems are starting to take its toll on you? Maybe it was time for you to move on? That's why you were starting to develop feelings for this friend? Let's look at the other side. If you feel that things are still okay in your relationship, then you need to be strong. You have a bf and so, how can you let your mind start to wander and develop feelings for someone else? Bluntly said, this shows weakness. Dedicate yourself towards your bf and be loyal. Ask yourself why you chose to be with him in the first place. Aren't both people in a relationship supposed to help and stick by each other no matter what?
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    nectarine712, It's good to see that you two are remaining friends and are able to go out and do stuff together. The key thing here for you is just to convert yourself from bf to friend and stay that way. Hopefully, some lingering feelings in her will surface. She may start to notice that things you did together when you were a couple aren't happening right now. She may miss it. She may notice how really different things are now that you're just friends. Do you see what I'm getting at? I'm just trying to give you more hope.
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    nectarine712, Sorry to hear that things didn't work out for you. What problems did she have? Relationship ones or similar ones to you? Anyways, this is how I see things. She said you weren't making her happy. She wants to find herself and make herself happy. She fell out of love for you. It seems she doesn't know what she wants but she still left you which most likely means she indeed does. The other possibility is that she still needs to look for the right one for her. In either case, she simply lost interest in you and the relationship. Remaining friends with her will be very difficult for you and most likely for her as well. If you feel it's something you need to do, then go for it.
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    clyde411, I think the truth is that she considers her work more important than a relationship and she found it to be expendable. I, myself, would be able to juggle work and a relationship but everyone's different. Furthermore, if she said there was noone else, then there isn't. That's the good news. However, her reply of "do what makes you happy" doesn't sound very caring or sincere. Those words express indifference on her part. But then she says she still really likes you and enjoys your time together with her. Aren't you getting mixed signals?
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    Genoh555, I feel frustrated for you. First she says she wants to spend the rest of her life with you and then the next thing you hear is that she's leaving you. How can she break her commitment like that? I don't get it. Obviously, something drastic must have happened for her to change her mind like that. I guess you must have wondered if it was you? One question you must have asked yourself also was how well did you really know her. I keep thinking about the worst case scenario in that she was already seeing someone behind your back. If so, that'll tell you what kind of person she really is. You haven't heard from her in 6 months. I bet she's moving on as if nothing ever happened. Yeah, very frustrating.
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    greenie, I didn't like the sound of it at all when he gave you the "i need space" routine. If is really is true love, you two should still be together (enough said). I totally agree with what you questioned. You said why doesn't he want you if he thinks you're such a wonderful person. You also said you've broken up a couple of times. Is he confused and doesn't know what he really wants? I don't think so. Since he ended it, he knew what he was doing. If he's confused and doesn't know what he really wants, you don't go and end a relationship based on that reasoning. I get the sense he feels there's someone out there that's more right for him. Sorry, I didn't mean to sound too negative but that's one possibility. Since he didn't want to continue it, maybe there's something that's missing or something that went away. Aside from the exceptions, IMHO the "i need space" line is usually an euphemism in that the person saying it has lost interest and doesn't want to continue the relationship. If this really is the end, then you can't wait for him. If he truly loves you, you two should still be together. I can see how frustrated and confused you must be.
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    Scott_ML It's good to hear that she still wants to be with you and wants you to wait for her. I'm implying that she wants the relationship to still keep going but at the same time, she needs to sort out some things on her own. Am i correct to assume then you're still her bf and she's still your gf? Maybe consider checking in on her every so often to let her know that you're thinking about her and will be there to help her. That's what a bf if for. Right? I hope she gets things sorted out real soon and you two will be back together in no time.
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    Ineedhim, Since he hasn't gotten back to you in two weeks, I think you know what that means. Unfortunately, he's not interested. However, it seems that it'll make things worse for you if you don't know it for sure or not. If you really need to know, then give him a call then. The way to help you deal with the call is to prepare for the worst.
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    Genoh555, Why did she exactly leave you suddenly like that? Was she already doing something behind your back (referring to her new bf after she left you)? Did she not know if you were the right one for her or not?
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    clyde411, She's not making much sense. She says she still cares for you but wants to end it because of the two jobs? If she really still wants you, you two should still be together while she finds a way to deal with her work. She should have been able to put the relationship aside and concentrate on her work. Do you see what I'm getting at?
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    LonelyGirl, It really angered me as I read your message about your cheating boyfriend especially when he got upset about you talking about it. How dare he do that when he was the guilty one! Simply put, he cheated on you and you should definitely dump him. You should also consider dropping your (now so-called) close friend as well. He broke the most sacred and valued thing in a relationship: trust. If you stay with him, who knows what else he'll do behind your back. I remember seeing this saying somewhere among the postings at enotalone.com: once a cheater, always a cheater. Please save yourself and leave him.
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    cccube, You're topic is similar to one I posted just recently. You may want to check out "For all you heartbroken guys out there...typical excuses". It's in the breaking up section. It may help you out a little.
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    jgo1978, What does she exactly mean by you being "too nice" or "too good for her"? Is she implying that she's a bad person? Well, it seems like she is since she helped her ex cheat on his current girlfriend. The big factor here to look at are her morals now.
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    ajay, I agree with afterd. I assume you're saying you and her had a relationship. She was seeing you behind her boyfriend's back. Can you really trust her if she became your girlfriend? It may hurt you too much to stay. Best to go.
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    Loco*, You have an opportunity before you. Don't let it pass you by. Otherwise, you may regret it. You have to go for it and make the first move. It'll hurt you more if you keep your true feelings bottled up like that.
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    Hi, I'm sure many of you go through this problem. Why do people give up on a good thing?!? They didn't realize how lucky they were to have you. They don't make any sense. They threw away an opportunity. You had good qualifications, good looks, good living, good personality, and good background; there was nothing really wrong with you at all. Are these people looking for the perfect partner who has no flaws. If so, why can't they realize how unrealistic they are? Are they also naive? Immature? I wonder if they end up regretting their decision? Your thoughts would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
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    kittykat, It looks like he was starting to show his true colors after leaving you and not looking back. Then he finds someone right away. He's one of those people you thought you really knew but didn't. Like CoolGuy said, he was using you. You don't deserve to have someone like that. You can do better.
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    Scott_ML, So she said she wanted to take a break so that she could sort out her personal life but did she say she wanted to end the relationship? If so, there must be more going on than she's saying. Think about it.
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    twentyOnE, It looks likes she's giving you mixed signals. She says she still loves you but is happy not being in the relationship anymore. You said the relationship ended because she had personal issues she had to deal with and didn't want to deal with relationship ones. Relationship issues means the relationship has also been giving her stress. Did you talk to her about it? In the end, you two broke up. It seems she felt the relationship was expendable which meant it wasn't really important to her. If she truly loves you, you two should still be together whatever relationship issues there may or may not be. You should be by her side as she tries to sort out her personal problems. I'm sure you've also been second guessing her if she's been telling you the truth. Maybe this is all just a smokescreen. There's the possibility that she lost interest in you. You need answers now and can't let her leave you hanging like this.
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    Ecko, She's saying she's not sure if you're the right one or not. The positive thing is that she didn't say she wanted to end it and that you two are still together. Give her some space so that she can do some thinking on her own to figure out what she wants. Don't contact her. If you do, that'll just put too much pressure on her.
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