jgo1978

Well, boobs are boobs. You have to love them if you are a male. Seriously. As far as size, I prefer a C or D cup, depending on proportions. I guess I mean I like women I date to have large breasts. In fact, thinking back, of the last 10 or so women I have dated, only 2 have had smaller than a C cup.. Wow, I never really though I was into boobs that much, but, damn, now you have gotten me thinking.

CHarmed, you were nice enough to respond to my problem, so now I will respond to yours, and share the knowledge I have learned since, well, yesterday. Women play games. Whether they realize it or not, they do. I personally have decided to let the woman, my ex, chase me, and fall for me. I realize I may have feelings still for her, but I also realized she hurt me, and is out for herself. This may seem like a mean thing to do, but if you don;t put yourself first, you are only going to get burned. There are millions of women in the world, why just concern yourself with one woman, and beat yourself up as to why she likes you or deosnt like you and so on. Another word of advice, PLAY THE GAME! The "game" may suck, but it is the ONLY way men can even get close to gaining the upper hand. As I stated earlier in my response, I am letting her chase me. I am acting as a "man", being more confident and concerned with how I will move ahead in the world, and better myself as a human. To restate my comment, play the damn game. It may seem like it sucks, and no one likes to hurt people, but you can't win the game unless you play. WOman are always playing the game, and they look for competitors, and do not expect to find someone who can beat them at their own game. Be that person, I am on my way down that path right now.

so, ok, you never made out b4. ok. interesting. remember when you do, you will be more popular, and people will like you more. ok seriously, it is easy, remember, use your tongue a lot, move it around, and breathe.

If Andy truly felt strong feelings, or wanted to work towards strong feelings with you, he would not judge you for past relationships. I have a feeling you are leaving out some critical information, which makes this hard to give advice on. If you were up front with Andy, and he understood all what happened, and still does not call you, you are too good for him. If you didn't tell him something, and maybe left that out of your post, then maybe you should consider if you are good enough for Andy. Harsh, but truth.

Ok, so any help I could get would be beneficial in this situation. This is long, but it is entertaining and I could use some advice from unbiased parties. This is a semi-complicated story, so, I was just curious what people's thoughts were on this topic. I dated this young lady, I shall call her Beth from here on out, earlier this year, February through March, for about 2 months. She dumped me for the fact that I was "too nice" and "too good for her", as she put it, while crying her eyes out. I thought, ok, so this is over. It took me some time to get over her, but I eventually did. About 1 or 2 weeks after I was dumped however, and she would call me 3 to 4 times a week either just wanting to talk or asking advice. I felt a little weird talking to her, as I still had some feelings toward her. THen the 2nd Gulf War began. She was calling me every day, as she was scared of the war and what may happen. Beth claimed I was the only one who could calm her down. So, we talked on the phone quite a bit. In April, she went to a Carribbean spot for a week-long vacation with her female friends. They had fun, blah blah. WHen she came back, she said we should hang out. However, she did not call me as much, and I thought, "ok, so its over now, cool." She then called me in the middle of May, and wanted to talk. We talked, and she wanted my advice on why the guy she was seeing was treating her so crappy. I gave her my 2 cents, and so on. She eventually dumped this young man, and continued to call me more and more. Throughout the end of May and most of June she would call me about 4 times a week to talk. No big deal, I was over her and thought "Hey cool, we can be good friends." The end of June hits, and she is calling me even more, and we start hanging out quite a bit. By quite a bit, I mean we are hanging out 4 to 5 times a week. There seems to be nothing romantic involved, but just friends hanging out. I think nothing of it. She then tells me an intresting query, her friend John who she had dated 2 years ago, asks her if she would be willing to sleep with him one last time, because she was that good. John uses drugs and once in a while she uses drugs with him. I say, wow, ok bad idea, as she had told me he took a long time to get over her, and he had a girlfriend. She thought the idea was a tad odd, but intruguing. I told her this was a bad idea because she told me John admitted to her it took him about 1 year to get over her and this showed me he could easily develop feelings for her again. The beginning of July, she asks me to be her roommate. We both live with our parents right now, and were planning on moving out in October or November to single-bedroom apartments by ourselves. I contemplate the idea, and still am, as I feel we are just friends. She has said a couple times before that we "work better as friends", and I agree. On the 4th of July weekend, I attend a local baseball game with Beth, and one of her friends. After that we go to her house for an after-game party. Everyone is drinking and having a good time, no big deal. Me, Beth, and her friend who visited take a walk. While walking back to the house, she says, "you know, my friends think we make a cute couple." I did not know how to react, but, was taken aback. I basically blew it off at the time as I was a tad tipsy. She also mentioned to her friend not 10 minutes after she told me her friends though we made a cute couple that her ex from 2 years ago John wanted to sleep with her one last time. Later in the night, I was not able to fall asleep on the couch. Beth wakes up, and sees me not sleeping, so she invites me to sleep in her bed with her. We only sleep, but she was almost spooning with me. Who knows, maybe she was just dreaming or whatever. Well, Sunday comes, and we hang out again. Monday we dont hang out. Tuesday we dont hang out, but she calls me and asks what I am doing, and I had plans so I decide not to hang out. Wednesday she calls and wonders what I am doing after dinner and if I want to play tennis with her and her friends Greg and Amanda, who are dating. Well, we play tennis, and when it begins to get dark, we all are hanging out in the parking lot and what not, talking. She says of how she was drunk last night, and called her friend John who has a girlfriend, and had sex with him. We all look at her and think and say, "Wow, he has a grilfriend, that is kind of crappy you did that." Well, she did say she would like to have sex with him one last time, because he was really good. She is single, so she can make her own choices. Now, that is the back story, and a long one at that. She does act very flirty towards me, and not even my other closest friends call me every or almost every day. She gives me these little signals, and almost seems as if she wants me to make a move on her. She is always talking about how she met this one guy or that guy who she wants to jump on or date, but never acts on it, and is usually hanging out with me. My friends think it is a bad idea to move in with her and I should just drop her from my life, or maybe I should start playing her little game and try to win, you know, make myself the one who is hard to get. One friend says she thinks Beth is trying to make me jealous of her being with other guys so I make a move on Beth because I am jealous. WHen I say I am going on a date, Beth says, "Well, she doesnt seem to be good for you." I know I am dragging this out, but, what do I do? Does Beth like me? Does she only wish to be friends? How do I tell what is truly going on? I currently really have no strong romantic feelings for Beth, but I want to know if I should make myself vulnerable to having feelings for her. The her having sex with John does not bother me, what does bother me is she helped him cheat on his girlfriend. I am not even 100% sure she is telling the truth about that though. In any case, let me know. Thanks.