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austingunner, It sounds like she's scared of love and that's because of what she's been through. I know it'll be difficult for you but it's best to simply give her the space and time she needs. Don't initiate any contact. Let her do it. Then see what happens.

Hi All, What do you believe in more? Do opposites attract more? Or do birds of a feather flock together more? Studies have shown that most relationships based on opposites don't last that long. The majority of long-term relationships are based on similarities. Here's a scenario i thought of. What if there is a relationship where both people are opposites and one of them is very demanding? Would it work out? Anyways, i believe in "likes attracts" simply because you have more things in common and are logically more compatible.

Hi, The last post was in May and so, I don't know if there's any point in putting in this reply. Anyways, here are my thoughts. She initially wanted to take a break so that she could concentrate on her studies. I implied that she still wanted you two to be together. That's fine then. On the other hand if she said she wanted to take a break by breaking up, then you should worry. You then implied she felt she needed to experience life or learn more about herself. That now meant she originally wanted to end it but didn't have the heart to tell you. Did u ever ask her if she knew you were the right one for her or not?

To all you heartbroken guys out there, I have some observations I'd like to share here. I noticed some typical things girls say when they end relationships: They need time and space. They need to find themselves and what they really want. They need to take a break. We should see other people. It's not you, it's me. They sound like excuses or polite ways of saying they're not interested in the guy anymore and want to end the relationship. Is that right? Any others excuses out there? One other typical line they use afterwards is the "let's be friends" one. It may be genuine. On the other hand, they may be "using" the guy as back-up in case a new relationship fails. They then move on just like that as if nothing had happened. It seems as if they turned the off switch. It seems how quickly they can forget. It seems very inconsiderate. They then may jump into another relationship quickly. How can they turn off whatever feelings they had just like that? They can be so two-sided at times. There was one case where the girl left the guy. He was devastated. She wanted to remain friends and so they did. She said she still cared about him. He sent her an email but she didn't even reply. If she truly cared about him, she should have replied to him. Any thoughts?