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Maybe not? I have seen some of the most shy introverted men become DOGS to! Well I think he may see that the relationship with you was the one that made him the most happy. He may want to see if things can ever get back to where they use to be. Is he still friends with his other girlfriends? He may have not wanted to tell you about this other girl because he did not want to mess things up with you. The only dated for 4 months, so there really is not that much to tell you.

He may just be using you to get over this other break up? I know that men do that sometimes which is really sneaky. It sounds really strange to me, I think he has some type of hidden agenda on his hands. I think that : 1. He wants to get back together with you. (or) 2. He wants to make his current ex jealous- to get her back. (or) 3.He is using you as a rebound: He wants companionship, comfort, to ease the pain of the last break up. I read somewhere that men do not take breakups well, and do not like being alone. That is why they always have a backup plan before they leave a relationship. So do not be surprised if you hear about a man dating someone new after a breakup right away. Men need to have attention I guess they are more insecure than they appear to be. Why would someone who has not talked to you in 2 years just pop up out of the blue for no reason at all? I broke up with an ex 4 years ago and we write by e-mail once or twice a year. So I am thinking if he really wanted to be your friend then why has he made no effort to get in touch sooner by email? Maybe he really misses your friendship and is trying to make it up to you by taking you out to dinner. Maybe he wants to rekindle the romance, and feels he must be your friend first in order to see if this can happen again. I would be careful too because he may also just be using you as a rebound or a pawn to make his other ex-girl jealous to get her back! I do not know, you never know what a person is thinking every one is not the same. do not rush things with him wait until you know where he stands with you. You do not want to get your feelings hurt.

1. What do you think will happen to those who choose to practice a alternative religions ? I have seen many people who believe that they will have a blessed after life by worshiping things other than God. Never mind this question has nothing to do with being a Catholic. Sorry!

O- Please! You sound like a really nice, sweet, and totally Naive guy. This "girl" is using you! She wants her cake and she is eating it too! 3 months SORRY is not that much time for someone to fall in love. You may be in lust with each other but love I do not think so. This girl has boundary issues and she has no respect for you or her boyfriend. She is dating you because she is bored with her boyfriend, and you are just like a little extra on the side to take up her time. If she really did not want to be with her BF she would have dumped him by now. Are you really falling for the oldest trick in the book? ALL CHEATERS SAY THAT THEIR RELATIONSHIP IS BAD! I bet if you ask her BF he may say other wise! She sure does take the time to maintain this "BAD" relationship with him. Normal people who are in bad relationships get out of them! They do not wait around unless they are having doubts, which means that she still must have feelings for her boyfriend. I think you should get out before YOU get hurt. If this girl really "loves" You , she will break up so she can be with you. Why would you want some girl who cheats in the first place? If they will do it with you they will do it to you! Cheat.

The saga continues....... My guy and I broke up about 7 months ago and we have been dating now for about 3 months. 3 months no contact....Then he calls me out of the blue, to try to give things another chance. We dated for 4 years, but feel into a rut due to distance. I do not know what will happen in the future, but for right now we are happy! I know so many people who get into a rut around the ages of 21-27, they do not know where their life is going, or what they want out of life in general. My guy needed time to figure things out too, and so did I(He is 25, and I am 23). I feel as if I am a stronger person than I was before, and if things were to not work out again I know that I will be ok! Your ex needs time to herself, she may realize what she lost when she gave up you! She just needs time to think things out and soul search. I think the best thing to do is to give her space and to try to find happiness being a single man. You can learn so much about yourself when you are single. You are in a better place than most people once they have lost a loved one, so you are one step ahead of the rest! You sound like a great guy and someone else will see those good qualities in you even if she can not right now. Good Luck and God Bless!

I do not know you never know these days. I know of people who dates others ex's and do not think that much about it. How long have you known this guy? I think he did not tell you because you have not been dating that long. 3 months is the trail period for most relationships so, a whole lot of information may not be given out at this point. He may have something going with her and he may not. He may did not want to tell you because maybe he will be moving to his own place in a while, or maybe he is hiding something? He may wanted to wait to tell you because the whole thing sounds strange and wanted to find the right time to tell, you so you would not get upset about it. I would not be really comfortable with that living arrangement but I guess you really have no choice but to accept it.

STOP WORRYING. She is the classic case of once she got what she wanted now she does not seem to be interested anymore. If she really is telling you the truth then she will get back with you, when she has some more time on her hands. school can be very stressful and time consuming. I would think long and hard about this girl, she may just like playing games with you. You said "now I see her for who she really is", if she is a bad person then you do not need her anyway. I am sure their are plenty of other girls you can date once this relationship is over. Talk to her and set up times to talk with each other to maintain your relationship. If she can not maintain the relationship then I would break up with her. It seems like she had plenty of time for you before, while she was chasing you. And you know there are plenty of other girls in the ATL! Break up with her first before you start dating someone new.

Sorry, If you did not realize how good of a guy he was you then would not have to ask for advice!

Excusing my blunt humor, I feel as if: Well it does not sound like she appreciates him, so if it is not me asking about him it will be somebody else! Sorry but that is life! If she can not see what she has someone else will. I do not want your boyfriend sweetheart I was just kidding ( I am sorry for hurting your feelings), but I do know of many woman who are extremely attracted to men of this type, and would be happy to see your relationship end so they can have a shot at him. Sorry but I know! When my pastors wife died there were so many women who wanted to date him! I have been in long term relationships also and sometimes you have to work to keep them going. I know that many women only WISH this were the problem they were having with their man! So If I were you I would give your relationship another shot.

You do not know how good you got it Honey, I think you should do what your heart tells you to do. I am saved also and I know that a person who is not saved can have a negative effect on a saved persons live. The bible tells Christians to not be "yoked" with those who are not saved. The Bible says what do good and evil have in common with one another? Your wild ways or lack of spirtuality are just holding him back, and he needs someone like him. Your boyfriend sounds like a good catch to me! I have plenty of girlfriends who would be interested in a guy like this! If you want to give me his e-mail address, I can hook him up with plenty of saved holly christian women! Girl, you do not know how good you got it. Most men out there these days want to run the streets at bars, play games, lie and cheat. Why trade that for prime choice "husband material". If you no longer love him then I can understand why you are letting him go. I say give going to church with him a try for at least two months. If I were you , I would hold on to him! Do not worry about him, there will be plenty of women willing to take your place! Finding a good christian man is a gem that should be treasured! I was told that a man who loves God is a man to keep. A man of God will most likely be a faithful man to his wife and children. He will be a more focused man, who will not run off and cheat with the first girl who tries to flatter him. Some men can be so weak and fall into temptation, a man of God will most likely not be tricked by the wiles of other women so easily. I think you have a great catch. He will want to work hard to provide for his family, and the family will be stronger in general. A family that prays together stays together, and has less problems or an outlet to express troubles. I would love to chat with him- feel free to give me his e-mail address if it is over between you two!

I do not think this girl is respecting you at all. Did she also expose you to an STD? I think I remember you saying that in one of your post before, or maybe I have the wrong person. Any way she is up to her old tricks again. If I were you I would lay off the I love yous and let this girl prove herself to you. She sounds like a slacker, who just wants to party and you sound like a guy who is looking for something more serious. If I were you I would watch her very close. Give it another couple of months, and if she has not changed I would break up with her!

I do not think he was being mean , he is just telling you this so you will not get hurt again. If this guy really loved you, he would not want to hurt you by just sleeping with you, and not giving you a relationship. He really knows what he is talking about, you should try to overcome the sting of his comment and really think about it. Some people only care about what is good for them and not others. this guy is not respecting you, he is just using you. Until you show that you have respect for yourself , your ex will never respect you.

Maybe you are putting too much pressure on this girl. Just calm down, there is really nothing you can do. She may just feel smoothered by you. Also if this girl gave you an STD why would you go back for more unprotected sex with her. I say stick with the condoms for at least 6 months until you both are tested for HIV.

LOL... I guess you still cannot read ... o-well too bad for you. All the advice any one gives still may not help you. I guess all the articles and research has not help yet either. Good Luck with those dating skills.

LOL..... Ha, please like I said before you must really having some type of reading problem. The only person who can solve your problem is YOU..Duh. All the advice in the world is not going to get you a date if you can not improve your dating skills yourself . If you have female friends and they can not help you get a date or AT LEAST give you any advice, then you are just hopeless for now. If they were your REAL friends they would know about your DRY SPELL and try to hook you up with someone! I bet you can also see why my boyfriend came crawling back, to me. We have been dating again now for the past two months, so I guess you have not read any of my more recent posts(Getting Back Together ect..), about "If I should take him back or not?" I am hoping that our relationship will grow stronger( best wishes to me ). So maybe if your lucky, you will find someone too, and stop having to worry about dates all the time. You are the only person who can implement your plan. So all the advice in the world is not going to help you if don't turn it into action.

What ever You seem to like to post back too... So what does that say about you hmm..... If you continue to bad mouth me, I will continue to talk about you. I guess you have problems reading, or you would know that I have not told you anything that is a lie...unlike ALL the lies YOU tell. No, I do not want to know you, and what I do know about you is pretty sad enough.LOL.... Do not flatter yourself sweetheart, If other women do not like you why would I?

Ck , Telling you that I have a nice life, has nothing to do with you. You seem to be jealous of other peoples happiness. The only person here that is a LIAR is you. If you have not read any of my posts then you do not know anything about me. If you have never had a date before, and no woman has yet to find you interesting, that is not generalizing, that is the TRUTH. You on the other hand just sputter out sterotypes of what you think I am or what you think Alabama is like, but your wrong, b/c you do not know anything about me or Alabama. I have the right to response to your crude posts anytime I want, if you want me to stop writing you then you just need to stop too.

It all depends. I do not think having an STD is something that should keep you guys together. Well it is to late now, go get tested for HIV ect. I do not know what to tell you, she dumped you for a guy who was a cheat that slept with nasty sluts with STD's. I remember you from before and you seemed like a good guy, I still do not understand why she would want to leave you. Well she made her bed now she has to sleep in it. I think things may work out, but if she did this to you once she may do it again.

Ck I have written many post here, so I guess it took you a while to read all about me, so I guess you see that I have no reason to lie to you about my life. I was a member before you, so I doubt I would lie to create some character to appease you or anyone else. I write back to many people here who PM me to talk or just to asks me for advice, or just to respond back to posts that I like. The point of this forum is to share experiences, I can not help it if for some reason you can not stand people who date. Everything about me is in my profile and posts. I have nothing to hide. I do not have your problem, so I would not know how you truly feel, sorry. Even though you will not admit it , I really do think that you are upset because of your problem. I did read your posts and they did make me feel kind of bad for talking about you, because you really seem to be at your wits end and do not know what to do.

I think he has done all that already. I guess you will have to let her go. She does not want to talk to you and is making no effort to do anything. I say do no call her for a least a week or two. It is up to you, no one can tell you how to live your life, it just seems from being on the outside looking in, that she does not want this marriage at all. She says she does not want to talk you but then calls and emails all the time. I do not know. I say keep in touch but to not press the issues.

You only posted in TWO topics in the entire forum, so there really does not take a lot of research to know much about you, other than you can not get a get date and woman do not find you attractive. In each post to you talked about your problem of not getting date- and the reasons no one wants to date you, which is the reason you wrote. Sorry kid maybe you should do more research. I hope that someone will want to date you some day. Good Luck with developing dating skills.

Lonely & dateless in NY, Alabama is a lovely state. I was just telling you that many people from New York are moving to Alabama and other southern states. Many people are leaving New York, to move to a more peaceful place, so the south is not as bad as you may think. The south has gained electoral votes while NY lost them. Many of the New Yorkers I talked to said they were tired of the noise the smell of garbage, prostitutes, and homeless people. In Alabama we have the lowest property taxes so my family , can afford to have two houses one Alabama and one in Georgia, and not have to pay a large amount of taxes. So you can get more for your money here. That is why New Yorkers are moving south they can build huge houses for less than in NY with out paying high taxes. The south is a great place to live!!! It's warm, you can go hiking and swiming most of the year, I love it CK! Sorry, but the city I live in is known for Space Research and Missile Command Systems not farms. Thats ok I already have a job as a market researcher and I am a graduate student, so I am already busy. Anyway.... Ck you must care about being dateless or I would not see you online so much how to flirt and attract woman, most men already know how to do this and do not need tips. That fact that you have never had a girl to take interest in you must really bother you. Yes you are soft skined b/c a real man would be able to accept someones preference in who they date. You got mad b/c I said I would not want to date a man who is soft skinned, sensitive and take offense to any thing said , so what that is my opinion why does it bother you, it has nothing to do with you. As I said before, why don't you try to worry about improving your dating skills. If you ever decided to act like a man maybe you would see that , some of things I told you are things that may be holding you back from finding a date. I have been in two long term relationships which lasted 4 years each, so I do have some experiences in relationships. Many people do not find thier soul mate with the first person they date. So even thought I have been out on many dates since my breakups, I can count to number of men I have slept with on one hand with a couple of fingers to spare. Right now I am back together with my ex boyfriend. No ones life is always a bed of roses( not even mine), but for the most part I am happy. I am sorry you feel that life cannot be happy b/c it can be. My mother is dead honey, so I am quite sure you did not see her on the street. Life is what you make of it CK, if you chose to be pessimistic then that is on you. I feel that my comments towards you are more personal so they may really hurt you b/c it is something that you are truly experiencing( I do see you searching alot on this website, trying to get tips on how to get dates). I know that you may be jealous of others who actually go out on dates. You seem to bring that up alot. Why do you care if , others have been happy and in love.

Who knows she may feel guilty for what she did to you. I still think she may be having problems with this other guy. She said he is not her BF so that just means , he does not care about her enough to make her his GF and they are just F#$% buddies. I think she needs you in her life as a friend or support and that is what she wants to try to get. She wants to get her emotional needs meet by you and her sexual physical needs meet by this other guy.

I don't know...... Maybe I am wrong but something does sound strange about this man. I think he is pulling away, for what ever reason I do not know. Maybe he is having a stressful time at work, or has meet someone else, or maybe he thinks you are moving too fast for him. Maybe something tramatic happened to him on his birthday, that is why he does not want to go out? I have a friend who's mother died on her birthday, so that day brings sad memories. You have to talk to him, about setting up another date. If he does not want to go out on with you then, I think he is sending you break up signals. Having a kid one weekend of the month does not make a guy a worn out father. Try to be patient with him, and see what he says. Maybe you can ask your roommate about his behaviors( since she did date him). Maybe he is going back out with her, he did seem to give her more presents than you which makes me think maybe he cared about her more? Maybe you are just jumping the gun, He may have a huge plans for your birthdays ,but has not told you yet. He even may get you a very nice present. He may be one of those guys who likes to chase and pursue and once the challege is over he loses interest. Does he consider himself your boyfriend? Maybe you think there is a relationship when there is not one at all in his mind. I know plenty of men who have a line of women thinking they are their BF, when they really just are friends with benefits. I do not think this man sees you as his girlfriend, so why get you a present. Their could be a million reasons for his actions. The best thing to do is just to talk to him. Good Luck

no. If one of you is lying about your past then yes maybe, do you really know if she/he does not have an STD's. You can get warts herpes and many other STD's pactice safe sex next time.