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  1. D1886
    I want to text her so bad, please someone stop me. I just sent a really sweet text to my sister and want to send the same to the ex, but I'm so scared and rightfully so, she told me last night she doesn't want anything between us anymore, but I keep feeling that if I send this she will change her mind.........urgent, please
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    wow, that last post was amazing after reading the previous posts, im gonna read this over and over, but I hope I don't contact her and say something, because i am so tempted to contact her and say, so who are you thinking about or are you thinking about someone. It hurts me so much, because I know, I really know, that in like 10 years at the very latest, I'm gonna be laughing at this prolly or at least look at this as a stupid, yet very meaningful learning experience.
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    ^^^^That was great advice, thank you
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    did I say I am really sad, so much
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    this whole forum, enotalone, is crazy, because people give advice, you read it, think about following it, hope to follow it, and even if you don't, it still helps to come back too. I'm still really sad about a break up, very very sad, wow, I dreamt about her last night, anyways, I just hope I get past it, I don't know, I miss the days without knowing of love, but just like that clip from southpark.......ha there's nothing I can do now, I already fell in love, now i have to move on, very very sad though
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    I'm with you. I work at the mall, it's sad to see all the couple's walk by. I think you should keep going though just for yourself, go "coat shopping." I've been crying all night, I'm so sad.
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    wow, friscodj, have you considered doing actual work for marriage/relationships......don't wanna kiss your *** but good stuff
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    Helped me somewhat. Kind of dumb I know, but whatever, it helped reading about a celebrity couple I guess cause I watched the show.
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    link removed Will you guys take a look at this website and tell me what you all think? I was thinking about using it to get past the obsessing over the ex girlfriend.
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    The whole Nick Lachey CD, What's left of me
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    Hey, I've read this post last night and have been reading it, I'm feeling the same way. Looking at my cell phone, woundering if she'll call, woundering what she's doing. So much pain. it's horrible. I have no answers right now. We've been broken up 4 months. All I'm saying is that I'll be following this forum with you and we're not alone.
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    I'm with you revitalized.....everything you said apply's to me, I'll be reading this post often. Thanks for writing it, and I'll join be joining you and need2beme. Let's do this. These last two posts are very influential
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    I wish I would have followed the advice of friscodj about two months ago: "Hey bro, A lot of change happens in people during their teens and early/mid 20's. Sometimes they change together, other times they change in different directions. And there is nothing you can do about which direction that change takes... With that said, it sounds like she is headed in a different direction than you are. On top of that, she is being extremely selfish is her "requests" of you to be her "friend". Look, you made some mistakes, everyone makes mistakes and mistakes in and of themselves don't end relationships, people and their desires do. I bet if you were absolutely perfect in this relationship, you would still be in this situation. Believe that... Now, you want her back. Why do you want her back? The "her" you are talking about is gone my friend. What you really want is to go back to the time when the relationship was good. That time is gone. Believe that too... So what can you do now? You miss her, you miss having her there, you miss talking to her, miss being with her. Bro, I understand. This is the reality of relationship break-ups...you can't have it all What you can have is yourself back. You are so wrapped up and focused on her and this situation. Focus on yourself and your stuff and your feelings for her will fade...it takes time... As for your last paragraph, she;s had her fun alright, what makes you think she won't do it again? The precedent has been set, she can do whatever she wants and you will sit, wait, and preen for her to come back...sounds like a pretty good situation for her and a bad one for you...you deserve better than that dude...and better is out there..."
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    CO-SIGN.......especially about the subconscious.
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    Yeah, I understand what you mean.
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    I got very jealous all the time. She would wear skirts and I would say rude things to her if guys looked at her. I didn't want guys flirting with her. I needed control in every situation.....I'm afraid I'm gonna still feel that way too, to tell you the truth, but I know that's not how I can be with her or anyone else. I just don't really know what to do to change at the moment. I feel I'm not interesting and stuff like I felt before. Standoffish in a way, but not meaning to be, very passive. It's not just around her though that I feel this way, it's all the time, I just took it all out on her before.
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    Thank you both heloladies21 and friscodj. In response to the push/pull, you are right when I look at it. I did use limited contact and psychological game playing somewhat. I do have every intention on making things work this time around. I had a lot of insecurity, trust issues, and basically forced the breakup. How do I change these things is my big question now, could you elaborate a little more friscodj or anyone else.
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    ^^^Thank you I think SuperDave's article "The darkness comes to soon" is a very good read.
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    We were together for 2.5 years, broken up for 3.5 months. I stayed busy, hung out and talked to friends and family, and read a lot of posts on here. I got a lot of advice from reading posts. The only advice I can give is take advice that others give to situations similar to yours, and excercise. Also, try not to throw yourself at them.....Pull, push.
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    Breaking no contact is not good, it set me back though I was feeling pretty strong. It set me back on a scale of 1-10, from a 7 to a 3 or 4, ha. Not good in my situation.
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    I think that did make me feel a little better at the moment
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    Good bye my lover, good bye my friend.......I wanted to text her that all night, hoping to get a reply, just missing her. I treated you horribly, you're a great person and I'm an idiot.
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    mykeyg, I'm with you, and just now, after reading the replies to your post, I have realised that actions speak louder than words. Over the past two months, since me and my ex girlfriends break up, I have been really trying to better myself, I still realise though that after two months my actions are still the same somewhat. I still am not completely loving and confident to myself. I haven't smoked marijuanna, kind of like your alcohal, but there is more I need to complete. Your article reflected basically exactly our relationship and "healinghandswordheart" REALLY gave me insight to how she was feeling. Anyways, thank you for your post it showed me a lot of insight, not only that there was someone in the same position as me, but that my actions speak louder than words, though i heard this many times. Again, i really hope things work out good for you
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    Co-sign....... Also, I don't think you should worry to much if he's got a job like that right now, I'm sure he can do college whenever he wants to if he decides to and breeze through it.
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    you could move in with another relative, but still support your family by giving them some money to help with bills, food, etc.
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