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Call your friends and talk to as many close people that you know you can always "bug" about. Seriously, if you know they know that it will help you and don't mind, talk to them for hours, I was able to do that. Great friends (especially one) and family (sister in this case)

I don't know how to deal with them now that it is true.

My girlfriend and I went out for 2.5 years. During the last year I was very untrusting of her and had insecurity issues, this eventually led to us breaking up. We broke up all summer, and she has slept with other guys. My question is if I can overcome knowing this if I get back together with her, which is definitely a possibility now. She is a very trusting girl and I had no reason not to trust her before when we were going out, but I'm concerned I will not be able to look past this fact, when that was my whole problem before and now it's true. Are there any ways of looking at it differently or what can I tell myself or anything, how can I or if I can get over this very very painful reality?

Anyone have any more advice, thanks caine.

If you need more information or anything else that would make things clear, ask. I tried to put down everything, but I'm sure there's something more. Thank you

I have been with my ex-girlfriend for 2 and 1/2 years. We started dating my senior year of H.S, stayed together the past 2 years I was in college, long distance. She graduated this year we were planning on going to the same school and still are in 2 weeks. When I came home I was an , had insecurity issues and pushed her to the point of breaking it off on the 4th of July. We have spent the whole summer apart. The first month, I begged, cried, pleaded and everything, but nothing worked, I know now (after this website) that pushed her away. The last 3 weeks I went NC, she called me 5 days ago, I didn't call her back, she called 2 days later 3 times and I talked to her about the relationship (don't know if this was a bad idea) and we ended up going to dinner a couple nights ago. I really want her back and she knows this. She said she wants to go to school and do everything for herself. She said you won't be my friend? I told her I could not be her friend and mentioned "a friend would be happy for you if you found someone else" (don't know good or bad?). She said so you won't talk to me? I said no. She then said well what if I want to go on a date with you? I said yes (don't know good or bad?). She also said later she missed me, I said I miss you too, but that was it. I tried to be strong throughout dinner, but I would mess up (I think) when she would say like "I did nothing to end this, you did it all," and I said, "I know, I tell myself that everyday," looking not strong. I did tell her that I had been working out and other good stuff, I quit smoking weed, been eating healthy, working on myself, but I don't know if that mattered, because she's still in control of the situation, ya know? I'm planning on not calling her and letting her call, but I don't know how to approach anything else in the future, like when I talk to her, to try to get her back. I don't want to be her backup plan when we get to school, but I miss her and she was such a great person. One other issue I am having a tough time with is the thought of being back with her after she has had sex with other people, whether this summer or the first few weeks of school. It just bothers me that she would come back to me after "she has had her fun" I guess, should it? I don't know what to think.