I just think it's complete and total bs that no matter how hard I try, I always end up the one hurt.
My buddy and I had this discussion the other day and he was the same way I was but his ex pushed him over the edge and now he's an toward girls. I thought I should do the same thing, with the mentality of treating them how they want to be treated, but that's definitely IN NO WAY SHAPE OR FORM me. And that is IN NO WAY SHAPE OR FORM how all women act. I know that for a fact.
I know this is something that I have to cope with because it's reality. It just sucks hardcore that it has to be like that.
An example that I have, which this example is mostly my fault for being a retard, I want to descirbe the last six months of my life.
I was very interested in a girl I've known for a few years. I spilled my feelings to her and she said that she was flattered but wasn't ready to date anyone yet. I should have ended it right here, but I decided to wait for her. I wanted to see something happen between us so bad that I just felt compelled to wait. I had given up about a month in and then she goes and says all these sweet things to me about the concept of us. Again, me being stupid, I fell for it. A month later, she starts dating this kid who she talked to, for quite literally, three hours. I stopped talking to her for a very long time and then she had the nerve to come to me and ask me why I stopped talking to her. I never answered and just watched as their relationship fell apart slowly. A few weeks after they broke up, she came to me complaining about how bad her life is now and all this other bs. I started feeling sorry for her. I think she knew that because she started saying things about us again. Naturally, being a retard, I fell for it again. Well she did a nice job of leading me on for the next month or two and then I hear that she starts dating her ex from two years ago. All the while she was telling me she wanted a nice guy and all that other jazz. So she goes back to a guy who's just in it for a wham, bam, thank you maam.... and she knows it.
A lot of that was my fault for not listening to myself in the first place but it's a prime example of what I'm talking about. Most girls say one thing, go for the complete opposite, and don't care about what it does to the people they led on.
I know there's a girl out there looking for a guy like me. I know there is. I just wish it wasn't such an absolute pain in the to find her!!!