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The problem is so obvious I don't know why you haven't noticed it before. Your not treating her like she's your partner but rather your treating her like she's your mistress. Women do not want a man who will worship the ground they walk on. They want a man who stands up for himself even if it's his wife who he's standing up against. My advice to you is to give her some room, and focus on yourself for a while. The more you cling to her, the further she will drift from you. And from now on don't treat her like a queen all the time. Just treat her like a normal person. When she does or says something which is wrong then call her on it. Don't be afraid to speak up. Just treat her like you would any other person.
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I didn't say most, I said "a lot". I don't experience much if any racism when I"m walking by myself or with Black, Asian, Latino, women. It's only when I'm with White women that I get racist comments.
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Thanks I agree.
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Growing up in the U.S., I've grown to accept that many White people are racist. It's just a fact of life, just like the sky is blue. Thats not to say that I hate White people. I've just developed a tougher skin when dealing with them. If a White man makes a racist remark, most of the time I will just ignore them. I learned early that I can't fight with every White man who calls me the N word because theres just too many, and I'll probably end up in prison. However, I'm not used to racist remarks from Black women. And most of those remarks are not directed towards me but towards the white women I date. And this only happens when I date White women. I never received any negative attention from Black women for dating latino or asian women. Exactly! I don't get along with "ghetto" white women either. They have very unfeminine characteristics as well. I'm still young and am not ready to settle down yet. If I have kids with a white woman then I will take responsibility for them. Actually I have never split up with a white woman because of racism. Most of the time they are the ones who can't handle all of the negative attention.
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What do I have to do? feedback from woman
Jax replied to GottaLetItBurn's topic in Breaking Up Advice
Why would you even talk to someone who did that to you? She's calling you a loser because your not standing up for yourself. She cheats on you, then comes back and you act like nothing ever happened. The first time she messaged you, you should have told her to F*** off. -
1) I run about 5 miles 4 times a week. Takes me about an hour or so. Start off at a slow jogging speed. Don't try to run fast because you'll tire yourself out and do less work in the end. It is recommended that you don't do cardio and heavy weight training on the same day, because cardio takes so much energy from your body and you need that to grow muscles. I would suggest doing cardio one day and weights the next. Make a schedule each month and write on it what you will do every day of the week. like for instance: Monday: Cardio(running/swimming), situps or pushups Tuesday: Chest(Bench press),Biceps(dumbells) Wednesday: Cardio(running/swimming), situps or pushups Thursday: Workout legs, back(dead lifts), pullups Friday: Cardio, situps or pushups Saturday: Forearms, shoulders, triceps Sunday: Rest Ofcourse you can make your schedule fit to your workout program, just giving you an example. 2) You shouldn't do a really heavy amount of weight. You should be able to lift the weights atleast 10 reps three or four times. It does no good to carry a heavy weight for about 1 or 2 times because you won't gain anything from it. A good thing to do is start off on a weight that only allows you to do 10 or so reps at max. Then when your body gets too tired to lift that weight anymore, then take some weight off and keep doing that until you've basically taken off all the weight. That method works the best for weight lifting, and it also helps to define your muscles. Because lifting heavy weights helps your body grow muscle mass while lifting smaller weights builds definition.
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I'm str8 but in love with my best friend...
Jax replied to wastone's topic in Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender
Then your not straight. Maybe you should stop spending so much time with him. -
Here's a good article about the benefits of fasting for the body: link removed Here's an excerpt: "it seems that there are many reasons to consider fasting as a benefit to one's health. The body rids itself of the toxins that have built up in our fat stores throughout the years. The body heals itself, repairs all the damaged organs during a fast. And finally there is good evidence to show that regulated fasting contributes to longer life. However, many doctors warn against fasting for extended periods of time without supervision. There are still many doctors today who deny all of these points and claim that fasting is detrimental to one's health and have evidence to back their statements. The idea of depriving a body of what society has come to view as so essential to our survival in order to heal continues to be a topic of controversy." I believe that fasting benefits both the body and the spirit. But only if it is done the right way. Fasting for an entire day or more is detrimental to ones physical health, and can lead to problems. I believe that fasting from dawn till dusk is good, as is the Islamic way. I've fasted before, and it really helps me connect with my spiritual side. I become more conscious of my actions and also I become a better person. Here is a good quote from the prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) about fasting: Sahih Bukhari Volume 3, Book 31, Number 118 Narrated by Abu Huraira: Allah's Apostle said, "Fasting is a shield (or a screen or a shelter). So, the person observing fasting should avoid sexual relation with his wife and should not behave foolishly and impudently, and if somebody fights with him or abuses him, he should tell him twice, 'I am fasting." The Prophet added, "By Him in Whose Hands my soul is, the smell coming out from the mouth of a fasting person is better in the sight of Allah than the smell of musk. (Allah says about the fasting person), 'He has left his food, drink and desires for My sake. The fast is for Me. So I will reward (the fasting person) for it and the reward of good deeds is multiplied ten times."
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No, you cannot do both at the same time. I would suggest staying at the weight you are at now and working out. Then when you gain some muscle mass, cut down on your food consumption. That way you will become leaner and more muscular. It's harder to become skinny and gain muscle that way. My brother has been skinny for most of his life and now he's trying to gain muscles. Even though he went to the gym everyday he didn't make much progress other than a six pack. But now he's putting on more weight and it's helping him gain muscles. When your on a workout regiment, your muscles need to be constantly replenished with energy. If your not eating a lot then your muscles won't grow no matter how much you work out. So, if you want to be buff then I suggest working out for a few months at the weight your at now. Eat about 4-5 meals a day. Small meals, but make them high in protein and carbohydrates. Chicken, pasta, and egg whites are good. Also, wheat bread, oatmeal, tuna are good as well. Oh and also make sure to drink lots of water. Nearly a gallon of water daily if your working out a lot. Let me know if you need some more tips.
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Maybe you should ask him to do something as friends. Then if you start to spend more time doing stuff together like going to see a movie etc., he might get the courage to ask you out on a real date.
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As for your problem with pre-mature ejaculation, you could try to masturbate before you start. That way, you will not be so sensitive when you first have sex. And in regards to your problem with not ejaculating at all sometimes; what will probably help is if you picture your favorite sexual fantasy. Visualize yourself in it, and you should ejaculate in no time. Don't tell your partner that you weren't thinking about her though, cause that'll piss her off.
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Is it porn, or a webcam? If it's a webcam then he has a right to react like that. If it's porn then I guess you two should talk about it to see whether or not you want that in your relationship. It's kinda weird though how your situation is the opposite of the norm. Usually the guy is the one watching porn and the girl is the one getting angry about it.
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You can't trick your own mind for very long. I think your problem is that you haven't found who you are yet. What is your reason for waking up every morning? You need to find out what makes you tick, and have a firm belief in something and then go out to accomplish it. Maybe you should take some time off from school and travel, read books, talk to people; try to get a sense of who you are.
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Well that depends on what your looking for. Are you just looking for some fun, or a long term relationship. If your looking for a long term relationship then you should probably look elsewhere, since you two are on very different stages in life as well as maturity levels. By the time he matures, you probably won't be able to have kids anymore.
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Even if this all doesn't work out the way you want, would you still like to be friends with him? Let's say for example he not really interested in you that way, but just wants to be friends.
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Like I said earlier, I'm probably going to marry a Black woman. I don't want my future kids to grow up not feeling apart of any one group. Kids who are the products of interracial relationships usually end up being confused as to their identity. Most of the time it's not about comments that Black women make, but mainly just the attitude that comes with them seeing me with a White woman. I don't bother trying to explain myself because I shouldn't have to. I don't care who they date, so why should they care who I date? Black women aren't responsible for Black men and vice versa. There are millions of Black people in the United States. If some are dating people from other ethnicities, then tough luck. Move on and find someone whose available. I'm speaking in general ofcourse.
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Im well aware of the history behind this topic. I've taken several classes on African American history, and also Race Relations. Also, I've read to Kill a Mockingbird, and Malcolm X is a man I deeply respect. I just feel like I shouldn't have to deal with all this hate.
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Yea but it's hard not to give up sometimes. It's a lot easier for me to be with a non-White woman. It seems like I get the wrong kind of attention from almost everyone, even some white women who I'm not dating. They ask stupid questions to my gf like "Does he have a big ****", and "How does his hair feel". I find that for the most part I get along better with white women. But thats probably because I came from a poor neighborhood growing up and all of the women there black, latino, etc. acted very aggressively and had attitude problems. I prefer women who act more feminine, and most White women I have come accross fit that description. Although I realize that not all black, latino women behave this way, mainly those from the poorer areas.
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It's not my preference to date White women, but it just so happens that most of the women that go to my college are white. I'm not bad mouthing Black women. I have nothing against them, and I will probably end up marrying a Black woman. But I just don't appreciate how their attitude when it comes to who I date. Not all Black women react this way, but most that I have met do. Most of the Black women at my college are already in relationships with White guys. I don't mind, and don't act negatively towards them. I don't care who the Black women at my college date, because it's none of my business. I just want them to give me the same kind of respect.
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I'm a 21 Black guy whose been in many relationships with all types of women, white, black, latino, asian, etc. But since the college I go to is mainly white I'm mostly interested in White women. The problem is that I get a lot of negative attention from other people for dating a white woman, and most of the time this effects my relationships. I don't get this kind of attention when I date women from other races. Most of the times it's angry stares from guys and whispers from girls. But once I was holding hands with my ex gf(whose white) on a bench and we were talking when a guy whose a part of the crowd passing by shouts "Quit fu****g N*****s". Incidents like that are the main reason why I haven't had much success dating white women. I feel like I have to constantly defend our relationship and deal with crap like that. Not to mention the worst attitude comes from black women. They act like I'm betraying all Black people by dating a white woman and that White girl is taking away a Black man from a sister. The way I see it, I wouldn't be theirs anyways so why do they care? I feel like I should just give up totally on the idea of dating white women, because society is just not ready for that sort of thing. But at the same time I feel like I should be able to live my life the way I want and not be forced to choose who I date/marry based on what other people think. What do you guys think? Has anyone else here had difficulties in interracial relationships?