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sorry to say it but sounds like you have a double standard, on women and men sleeping around. I mean you have 16 she has 9..just try and put it out of your mind. If you cant get over her past love life, have you thought about her getting over yours? Since you have had more than her? I dont say that to be mean, but if you keep thinking about it, it might just start BS fights. So let it go. I mean she sounds like she has standards, since she waited a while to sleep with you. My ex had about 10 times the about of partners you have had, and I got past it. And if you add the two number is your post together you about have my number. But Honestly things in the past, are best left in the past. You live and learn, ya know? Hope that helped, and again I wasnt trying to be rude, just honest.

WOW 4 threads...your wife has lost her mind... She is trying to act like she is 21 again...adn hoenstly i am all for feeling young, but she has just gone stupid...I agree with Beec, you need to take care of your kids, and your first of all...Tell your wife until she gets counseling, and the correct help, and stops sleeping around with other guys she cant see the kids. If she honestly would consider "commiting suicide" in front of the middle daughter, What makes you think she wont hurt your kids? it sounds like she is quite capable of it. This women seriously needs help... Please keep us updated...and it sounds like you could use a vacation

WOW darlling, I am so sorry you are feeling this pain. But like others have said, it will eventually fade. Life is worth living, you just have to find your place Please keep writing it helps

Well today is already starting off on a good foot...I am in a great mood. and hopefully I wont hear from the ex it hurts to much to talk to him! But thanks everyone for the support

haha I heard through a friend...that the ex asked the new girl over to his house to watch a movie...the girl never showed...HAHA Is it wrong for me to laugh??

well Day 1 off NC didnt work out...see the above... So Today I am starting a new wish me luck!!

WOW...I am in GA as well, and there are alot of drugs around here...Small towns especially.. I lost a friend about 4 months ago to an over dose. And his father was an addicted as well..My sister had a meth problem...hopefully she is recovering, hard to know... I worry that one day I will get a call about my sister...And other friends I have. I am sorry for your loss

GRRR...I posted on my myspace that I was thinking of going to the movies...My ex ims me asking me what I am doing... like an idiot I respond to him... Does he honestly think I am a toy to him??

You know honestly...I am ticked off at the fact I am this weak..I honestly feel used, abused, and pushed aside. like some hooker...I want revenge...I want to hurt him where it hurts him...that honestly as childish as it is...would make me laugh so hard...but I know its not the best thing to do... and thank you annie

Thank you so much for your advice...I am thinking of moving closer to work, once I can get bills caught up. (Again helping family) I am going to try my hardest to move past this, and you are correct ilse I seriously have no idea why I continued to sleep with him. Maybe in hoping that we could work things out. But as I stated before...I am trying to be done with him,....thanks again

I think you are right annie...I cant leave my family...My mother is getting sick, and my sister has a drug problem or used to...but has depression.. So I feel if I leave them then it would be harder for them. I havent contacted him in a while..lol only 11 hours...but I am trying... But thank you for your advice...more is needed I promise...I will begin to whine about it sooner or later...oh lord.. Thanks again

Well I have gone from mad, to glad, to sad. I think I am starting to suffer from a personality disorder, or at least that is how my emotions are these last few weeks. The relationship with the EX, started out with friends with benefits. First, night I fell hard. So I started to pursue him. Well after a few months, I got him. But to explain how this came about. This is my IMO ONLY...but the ex and I were acting like a couple, going places together, getting jealous of others talking to us. Cuddling, etc...So one night, I made a comment "you act more like a boyfriend, than a booty buddy" And his reponse was "I will be monogomus with you" which honestly made me so happy... Few months into it, we were going good. Then around June, he for some reason, if I remember correctly, felt I argued too much, or something...So he tried to break up with me. I agreed to change. Well it was working out for a while. Shortly, after are talk, he quit his job. So it was always me going to see him, buying this, paying for that. And honestly it started to take a financial toll. Now before this, I moved in with him, and his mother (mistake NUMBER 1) and trying to pay my bills, and other things. So I think at one point I began to not like him. He was out of work for 9 months. Well this is all from the beginning of 2005 to the end. A few days after Christmas, he broke up with me. I think because he couldnt see a future. Then two days after that, he called me begging me back. So I went "home" to him. I didnt move back in. But things were great. In March he finally got a job, he was starting to love. I was so proud of him. Things from March to April were decent. Then In march I found out I was pregnant. Well I decided to have an abortion. And he was kind of supportive. But he isnt all that emotional. So I got what I got. Which maybe was all he could give. But if you look at my previous posts. It hurt alot to terminate the pregnancy. Honestly I would have rather been a stuggling, mother, than deal with the emotional pain I had, and still do. Over all after, that things were different between us. We kinda of took less care of each other. Summer was good for the most part. Then August, things started going down hill. He was put on a different work schedule than I. I was working 8-5 Mon-Friday, and he was work until 1 am most nights. And we couldnt really spend time together...So I guess that also had a lot to do with it. It stopped being fun, which are his words. He felt more like a chore to have intercourse with him. Everyonce in a while, our love life was great. But I got so disgusted with him, it seemed like he didnt want to spend time together. We would barely talk, and basically get on each others nerves. Prolly, I complained a lot about us spending time together. So a lot of things we did wrong. Well since we broke up in Oct. which was only about 3 weeks ago. He has gone out on a date with another, gotten attached to her. Told her friends, that on their date, his face was actually hurting, becuase he hadnt laughed so much in a long time. Nor did he have so much fun in a long time. I am not sure at what point we stopped having fun. Yes we would go out, and have a decent time. But still not sure when we lost the spark, that kept us going. I went out on a date as well, but it was a pitty date, my sister put together. I felt like I cheated on my ex. I even told two of the ex's stories, during the date. If that tells you anything. Well over the past two weeks, he has given me more mixed signals, than a broken traffic light. We continued to sleep with each other, for the past 3 weeks. And it was great, the passion was there, the love...cuddling afterwards. And it was great. Well, the girl he likes, didnt call him for a few days. And I was his focus. And he gave it his all. Then she sends him a text message the other day, and now its like I dont know. I mean this past Friday, he brought me flowers. Regardless of the reason, I got the impression, that we were moving forward, he told me he wanted to take me out on romantic dates, and do different things. Honestly now I feel like a runner up in his eyes. And I cant take that. I wont. I deserve better. I mean Saturday again, I stayed at his house, and we shared one blanket. WE HAVENT DONE THAT IN A LONG TIME...and then yesterday, deleting my comments, and deleting me as a friend. His excuse, "his friend was giving him a hard time' Honestly, I feel like he is trying to hide me. So I am not taking this anymore. My emotional rollercoster, has got to come to a stop. I am sick of hurting, sick of writing this detailed posts for support. Because I cant find it from my friends, nor family. How I feel doesnt seem to matter, I told him I wasnt trying to put pressure on him yesterday...But he said talking about this makes me feel that way. Well how about this...you are a jerk off...playing with my emotions like this. I feel like he played me like a fiddle at Christmas. I feel hurt, abused, and thrown away...But why do I want him so much...because I love him...Because at one point, he was my love, heart, and support, in my crazy life. Now I have nothing but memories, that I am starting to wish I didnt have. What do I do now...move on, get stronger. I am almost done with everything...I honestly just want to just pick up and leave. But I cant because of family. GRR...ok I am done ranting for now...Have a great day!

yesh he does things, but I want to start off on a strong foot. And sex is in the picture. And I am 23... We broke up due to not taking care of each other and, I am trying to not go there again...that is why I wish to try something...new every once in a while. thanks!

Well the ex, and I are considering getting back together, and are hanging out. And have gone out to dinner, movies. ETC... But I want to romance him... What can I do? I have read suggestions on the internet. I have done the little love notes, the phone calls. The praise of things he has done. I have let him play his favorite video games. I have taken him to an Aquarium to show him that i love him... What else... He is a techy kinda guy...I could create a little web page of things that remind me of him. Not sure what else... What other things have you guys thought of to romance a man, or men what would you like?

It does take a certain type of person to be in the Infantry...My brothers, and father, step father, were all Army, I have a couple of cousin's in the Marines, and one in the Navy..They say its the best thing they ever did. But they arent going to stay in very long. I honestly think maybe the Army would be the best choice, then maybe the FBI afterwards. Thanks again everyone for your help

I honestly want to work in the law field...but not sure as what..I also want my old life back...what I had a year ago... Just a simple life...without so many issues...

thanks...but when I was younger...I wanted to go into the military...But I do not want to leave my family...and go fight in Iraq... I went through a bad break up these past few weeks, and I still feel I should hang on, a little while longer, to see if he comes back...Because for some strange reason I feel he will...wishful thinking I guess..but I think me just going to school would be the most logical thing to do.

Basically the question is school or the military? I dont know what to do.... My mother has brought up the military...and I told her I would do the Asvap, and go from there... But I dont think its for me...i have been having doubts of it. suggestions, advice??

to be hoenst...I have been thinking of my HS sweetheart...and I miss him for some reason...I havent figured out why thought? Lack of affection in my last relationship...or something else... I agree with the other posters that you need to meet up with him first then decide. Cause like I said it could just be a void of not having that something in your last relationship. Granted I love my ex..but it just didnt work out

blah I feel so alone sometimes...it actually seems at times..i dont have many friends... I have only been speaking with my sister....But I am sure she is sick of me complaining to her all the time.. I dunno just kinda feeling alone...blah

Thank you so much...it does mean a lot to me that I found this website BUt you are correct. I have been keepign a journal on here, since about a week ago. And hopefully it will get better... I am finally sick of the "door mat" But I still want his attention. I think that I am doing well so far...granted it has only been 13 hours since I swore NC...but I was sleeping for most of that...but I will still keep your advice in mind. Thank you so much Oh and I am in a happy mood...just nervous..I finally ate something...But I still wasnt as hungry as I would have liked

My ex and I were doing the dating each other thing after we brokeup...but now I see he doesnt want me back, he just wants to have fun. So I am letting go...Maybe she isnt being selfish...She might just be moving on...which it sounds like you might be realizing that she is what you need. This is strictly just an obersvation, but during the "2 months of dating" was she always asking questions, about you two? Getting back together? things of that nature..that is what I did to my ex. granted it has been only two weeks but its about the same subject. Maybe her going NC was to help her get over you...But I am not sure who broke up with who? I mean you only started a relationship with her again...because you felt sorry for her. Maybe she sensed that and is movign on with out telling you... That is what I am doing with my ex..Although I know for a fact he doesnt care...and if he does he isnt showing it...

heh you go honey...I finally am letting go of my jerk!!! HEH...keep us updated on how you are doing!

I used to believe but right now I am questioning it...but you never know...once I get over my heartache it will be different... But I am happy for you that, you feel you have found your soulmate...that is the most wonderful feeling in the world...

WOW I am in the same boat right now...and you have given me so much hope from your story... Thanks..and congrats on everything