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Yup it sure is a great poem!!!!!!!!

Thumb up for the poem, it rocks. And don't worry about what happened to you, I'm sure you'll get over it pretty soon, but you gotta understand it will take time.

If you have to be monitoring your SO's every moves then what is the whole point of a relationship, either you get pass his "year ago" betrayal or you break up with him and tell him something like "I can't take it anymore, I can't trust you".

Good for you on not looking back and staying with the charges against him. Whenever it's a first time in a relationship and they get physical, that's it, it's over right away. Even if he was sorry, that's it, nothing eh ever does will ever bring back that image he had of him before, that innocent image. Instead you're always have an image of him being capable of being a "savage creature". Good enough reason he's your ex now. Now what would suck is the next girl in his life, who knows what your ex might be doing to her.

I agree with hiring a detective and also having a recorder at home. As to tell if she's cheating or not, it's unclear and almost all the time when someone in a marriage is cheating, they will lie and lie till the end when they are thrown with all evidence or caught red-handed in the act and have nothing more to say, they most lie to avoid financial costs of a divorce.

Thanx for all the responses, yea I'm gonna stil wait a while, not really ready yet. Sydneybean84 as for children, I really have no desire for kids, I told him that from the start when we were first dating and he's ok with it. Nope, he's not pressuring me, heck if he was he would be out the door in seconds, he say to let him know when I'm really ready so I will when I am.

Then maybe it will be a right to tell him that you can't trust him and want to break up. You can't possibly truly love him if there's no trust.

Basically I been with b/f for 4 months and there's trust, communication, and off course love. We have done almost everything, except anal and penetration (in fact he didn't even get in one bit, not even the head). Well I do get tempted but then I refrain from it and we don't get to do it. I'm having kinda a hard time as to what would be the real reason I'm holding back from doing intercourse if there's temptation. So I'm gonna list some possible explanation. It it be that: 1) I'm kinda nervous about it 2) During fingering only fits one finger and whenever me or him puts a second finger, it won't beyond 1 inch without hurting (I have no problem with the length, even if it was the longest finger it'll go in without any problem, but I do have problem with the width) 3) Maybe I'm still not ready (maybe 4 months is too early for intercourse) 4) Want it to be a very special moment 5) Scared of pregnancy (even condoms can't guaranteed 100% effective, there's always a possible they can break) 6) I'm finally letting my guard down and knowing what it's like loving, hoping I don't get hurt/used since this my first actual serious relation Are these fears a normal reaction for "soon to become first timers".

Damn sorry to hear but in that case, you don't need any confrontation, all you have to do is pack your bags and disappear, never to contact her again and do change your #.

And what about abuse, that's another way of breaking one's trust and respect.

Another one is abuse and speaking of abuse, that has smething in similar with cheating, lack of respect/integrity for the SO and also not loving them unconditionally.

And at the same time he also needs to know he's better than the girl who's using him as a doormat.

Thumbs up!!!!!!!

True, he is still responsible for his own actions, but at the same time he's wasting time with a she that doesn't care no bit about him. Breaking up with her and improving himself, along with doing to a program for alcoholics will do it. Bruce you'll be less stress without her than you are right now.

Umm, I suspect you either co-dependent to her somehow b/c see if you ask any guy if they would forgive their g/f who not only cheated, but gave away their virginity when they slept with someone else, I'm sure they would have dump her in that instant. That to me would be a complete deal-breaker. Based on what you're describing it is not love, but clingyness. Either way she is bad news for you. Has she even express any level of remorse for her horrible cheating or was/is she acting indifferent/nonchalant about it??

I agree with the other poster but do keep in mind that people nowadays hide their their cheating episodes, they aren't that likely to confess when asking them, unless they're either caught red-handed in the act or caught up in their lies with sufficient evidence.

Cool poem, thumbs up!!!!!!!!

I agree with the other posters that you did the right thing in calling the police. No one made him get arrested, he did it himself by his horrible action and thanx to that, he would now have a record for life and will probably not get a good impression with the next girl coming. No one made him punch you in the face, he had the choice to either stop himself or get himself in trouble and he chose wrong. Once you're hit, the relationship is over for good and those good memories he had of him, those images he saw in him are all ghosts now. Don't take him back, once someone hits you, it's likely they will hit you again. Let me also add up, even if you did say mean things to him, he had the option to walk out and talk to you again when he calm down, that's still no excuse to hit anyone, esp. a beloved one.

Are you still with the same girl that gave away her virginity to cheat?? If so, then she's not the right girl, dump her before she gives you more headaches/migraines. As for your violent outburst, do seek counseling and also go to an individual program for alcoholics. I comment you for stopping yourself before doing something you would have regret for your entire life. Remember that no one makes you hit anyone, you and ONLY you alone are responsible for your own actions.

There's abosolutely nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite. If I was exactly like you, I would already lose my b/f in seconds. If you're still paranoid over the fact that he cheated last year, it means you haven't forgiven him whihc in turns means that the relationship was over a long time ago. From what you're writing, that's not love, that was clingyness. Overly jealous means there's no trust and without that, there's nothing left.

At least he told you the truth, now might as well throw him to the curb. A leopard does not change his stripes.

Ok so now that it was develop, I could put a better answer than the previous one. These are a few basic thoughts: A) "Boy, wish he was here right now (schedule differences sometimes)" B) "Oh well, I'm finally letting my guard a bit down, so in a way I'm risking myself from possible getting lied to or cheat, but I'm hoping for the best" or C) Oh well if he leaves me fine with him, at least I got a career on the way (you can leave me whenever you want to mister but my career and all I have accumulated in knowledge will never abandone me)

As early as age 11,two months before entering the 6th grade. To make matter worst, I was home alone at the time while my parents went grocery shopping. I was sitting down in my room, watching t.v., mending my own business when all of the sudden I felt a liquid coming out. At first I simply thought it was just cum/lubricant. So when I went down to check what was on my boxer and instead of cum, I saw a darkist brownish-reddish spot, I immediately went to the bathroom. Boy when I saw blood instead, I was freaking out, I didn't knwo how to react or what to do, I was kid anyways, not even a teenage. So for the meantime I try putting just paper towers on me. When they got home, mom explain me it was aprt of my normal bodily functions, otherwise I would be reproducing every month and dad say it was normal.

Yea saying I love you" esp. if it's your first time saying it to someone other than your parents of other family member does sound weird at first and thus you're not so use to it.

In my parents' case, no one did the asking, they just click and that was it, end of story. In my case, he ask me out when it was almost the third week.