Your1Desire

Even if it isn't a date, and you like her, make it one! If you want to get a little close to her in the movies and try to get some signals, lean over and whisper things in her ear. Try judging her reponse. Would you ask a girl to the movies who you were not keen on? She took the first step, and for that you're lucky. Make sure you take the next step. Leaving all the work up to her will ruin it for her. You're gonna have to make some moves!

Come on mate, chicks always post weird poems on their profiles etc. Half the girls I chat to have weird crap like that. One girl has a picture of a girl huddled in a corner with this bloody writing "Save me from the pain" on it or something. No offence but you may just be wishing she needs help so you can be close to her again. She doesn't want you in her life and having this poem up is not an invitation. Sorry to be harsh about this but I'm probably right. Anyway, she hooked up with your friend within 3 days. Think about that!

There's nothing wrong with you bringing this up. My ex brought it up with me a few times when we were together and because I wasn't cheating, it never bothered me for her to ask. I'd just shrug it off and say "Of course not silly!"... However, if she's holding things back from you then that's another problem altogether. I don't think the people in this site are going to be able to solve the problem for you or tell you what she might or might not be doing. You're just going to have to talk this one out with her. Good luck!

She's going to get hurt for sure, or at the best, disappointed when she finds out what he looks like. 22 year age gap is huge, although you haven't mentioned any ages here so that wasn't helpful. I'll assume she's 21 and he's 43 in which case they would definitely encounter problems in the future. HOWEVER, the only way to learn about love is to live it. Don't encourage her to shy away because you think she'll get hurt. Even if she does end up being hurt, what has she really lost? Nothing at all. Only through experience can one learn the most valuable lessons in life.

My mate started doing that. He lost weight (muscle) but that's about it. You will need to take some form of suppliments though to make sure you get enough protein and iron in your diet. Good luck

Mate it's not going to happen unless she wants it to and she's going to be the one who makes it happen. It's hard to make it happen to someone else. You yourself have to be in the right state of mind for it to happen so just make sure she's comfortable and relaxed and it will up your chances.

Obviously he doesn't want to talk about it. Hate to be blunt (or do I) but think of it this way. You could be with this guy for the next 60 years. Is it worth it? Doesn't sound like it. You love him because you've known him for so long but with the way you're going at the moment, there's no doubt that there would be someone better for you out there. Who knows, you might be better off alone? Relationships aren't chores, and they're not a requisite for living happily. If the benefits are being outweighed by the negatives then why go through with it?

Well that all depends on the ages involved. What's the point in telling us there's a 12 year difference without telling us the ages involved?

Meh nothing to worry bout here hun. Be glad he's understanding too It's like trying anything for the first time. Of course it's going to be difficult at the start and you have to get used to it but you will get used to it in time. Don't force yourself to do something you don't want to do but do give yourself a little shove to step outside your normal boundaries. The same thing is going to happen when you start using tongue, start going below waste, and eventually one day have sex. It's very nerve racking at the start but once you've done it a few times there's nothing to worry about and it becomes natural. No problems here. Everything you're experiencing is normal

Hehe that reply made me laugh Serious answer? Don't worry about it. This is obviously happening because you're both new to dating and you obviously really like each other. It wouldn't be happening otherwise. Just spend more time together and try doing things instead of planning to just talk. There's a think layer of ice between you at the moment but you'll be able to break through in time and then it will be amazing. Just see a movie or bring friends along etc. And as above, you guys sound cute

My ex used to mention breaks to me. And I'd say to her, a break is as good as a breakup basically meaning if her way of working out problems was to not see eachother for a while, then we might as well break up completely. Personally I don't see the point but I guess if you're meant for eachother then it can't do any harm. I think however that for people with problems, it can end up just making it worse... but at least you know

In a way I can understand where he might be coming from if what I'm assuming is correct. Relating this back to an experience of my own, my ex girlfriend worshipped me. She would have done anything and everything for me and it can get frustrating when in a way you're made responsible for someone else's happiness. I ended up leaving her. I think if this is the case from his perspective, maybe you need to start doing things on your own and with other people. Get some hobbies and get a life of your own such that rather than him being your life, he is simply a part of your life and a part which you would still live happily without. See less of him and eventually he'll start missing you. Having what you want whenever you want (what he has with you) can get boring and become a meaningless experience. You have to take some power back. See him less by being busier yourself. Don't always ask for his approval for everything (iPod) and be more independent. If the relationship is getting to this stage then there may be cause to start worrying about him leaving. But DO NOT bring this up with him ever. Just start living your own life for a change.

Virtually impossible for a guy

Doesn't he only visit once a year? If that was me, then I'd be flirting in the hopes of maybe getting some company/intamacy while visiting but knowing that it can't go from there because of the location difference. If you lived nearby then maybe it would work, or maybe he's just one of those guys who likes flirting for the hell of it. You guys seem pretty old though to not be able to work this out. No offence intended. If you really want to know then you're going to have to talk to him about it.

I think in this case it's about confidence. I used to be the same. I though, hey I'm smart, good looking, good body, funny, considerate blah blah blah but it's not what you are that counts, it's how you feel about being what you are. Walk with pride mate. Look at your "rep" and think to yourself, damn I'm pretty good. Better than my friends. I CAN get women easy being what I am, not I SHOULD get women easy being what I am. You have to have the confidence mate. Walk with pride. Talk with pride. You know you're good so don't hold those feelings inside, let everyone else see them. Women often react to guys based on the guys reflection of himself. If you think you're "the man" then they'll start beleiving it >>