Mr.Lowselfconfidence

ha..amazingly i acually got a girlfriend now i'm Mr.Highselfconfidence..but strangely..i met her when she was going out with my friend...it sounds like i stole her...but i really didn't. i've never been so happy tho

well...i dunno if anyone will read this...but the movie went great. we talked a lot. a little bit before and a lot after. she got there first and payed for herself...but i bought her some popcorn. overall it went just as good as i hoped. i didn't really try to hold her hand or anything...i just "enjoyed the movie'. thanks for all of your help!

good...thanks a lot for your advice...we've known each other for a while now...we talk every day in school...she doesn't tap me on the shoulder...i tap her. she smiles a lot...doesn't get too nervous. anyway thanks for your help about what to do.

ok well the girl i like asked me to a movie. naturally i accepted...duh! my question is, how do i know if it is an actual date like thing or just for fun. and what should i do in both cases. like if its a date like thing, should i hold her hand or something? i just need advice since the last time i went to the movies with a girl it came out horrible. thanks!

You're not answering my question. I asked "what should I do the next time i see her?" I didn't want people telling me to give up on her. She has legit reasons as to why she's busy. Just answer my question, please.

well I've asked her when she's free. I usually ask 1-3 days in advance but she never knows her schedule. And she doesn't work, so that wont help. And yea I asked if she was just being nice and didn't want to get together but she said no and that she actually wants to do stuff together.

After a few weeks of talking to a girl I like at school (she knows I like her), I asked her to go to a big event with me (I'm not gonna say what but its nothing out of the ordinary). When I talked to her later that night(Friday), it seemed as if she wanted to go. But I found out that night that the 'event' wasn't going to be open the time we were going to go. So today I called her. I told her that we couldn't go to the 'event' and I asked if she was still free. She wasn't, she wouldn't have been able to go anyway. It seems as if this happens every weekend. I always try to do things with her, but she's always busy. What should I do next time I see her? Any other advice would be really really helpful.

same thing with me...no girls talk to me unless i talk to them. i'd say you should just talk to them one day and see how they react. like are they smiling and seem happy to talk to you? i'm not sure, these are just some suggestions...

yea....this recently happened to me...went on for 8 months. i've just recently stopped myself from thinking about her all the time. it might help that you talk to this person...and maybe that'll help you...i'm just puttin out some suggestions. it worked for me.

i'm pretty sure about it. a while ago when i thought i should give up on trying to get her, i couldn't. no matter what i did i still couldn't get her out of my mind and just move on. this isn't some little thing that happens im a week. i have liked her for a long time.

not really..i just talk with her...she knows that i like her though.

hey everyone, Mr. Lowselfconfidence is back! I haven't been posting a lot. i really have had no need to. please read this even though it might be long. This is the progress i have made since my last post where i told about the girl i liked walking right past me when i wanted to talk. most people told me to just move on, but i couldn't. i con't to go after her. a couple of weeks ago we went out to a bookstore (she LOVES books) so she could recommend some reading material to me. it was great and i wasn't nervous at all. The most progress has happened in the past week. our school went on a music trip to disney world and just before i got enough courage to walk with her and talk to her when going to a class (real confidence booster for me). then, i called her later that night after we made it into our hotel. it was a short conversation, but it went smoothly. i saw her 2 days later, smiled at her when she passed. then wimped out at any other chances to talk to her. the next day she was going back to the hotel and so i left my friends and went to talk to her for again, a few minutes, not long at all. then, today on our flight back today, my seat was in an exit row and i wasn't old enough to sit there (a load of crap) an so i moved seats. then after that someone wanted to switch with me. so i did. then it happened again. and i eventually ended up right next to her. we talked a little bit at the beginning, but then we did our own thing for a while. i read and finished the book she gave me and she did hw. at the end of the flight, we had our longest conversation ever. it was really really good for my confidence. I really REALLY like this girl. I would do almost anything for her. i couldn't stand to live without her. now this is where you come in... I am planning on talking to her again and walking with her during school tomorrow. is there anything i should do? anything i need to improve upon or just flat out change? Thanks for reading!!!

i think you should just tell him how you feel one day. don't make it bold...just make it light and easy. i'm not sure but maybe something like "i really like talking and hanging out with you" and then go from there and then eventually spill the beans. good luck!

personally on this topic i feel like the girls are all self centered and want other people to come up to them so they don't have to strain themselves talking to someone. it really annoys me how they just sit back and if they give hints, they aren't good enough. like eye contact. so what? you make eye contact with a lotta girls. that doesn't mean they all like you. and when they hang around you, it has to be pretty noticeable. it has to be in you face. not just like, walking and stopping for a sec and pretend to do something or something to that extent. it has to be noticeable so that the guy gets the picture. yes this has happened to me. and i think "hmmm...maybe she likes me...naw i bet not...she's not really doing anything different from the other girls. i'm just being an idiot." i really think more girls should try to make an effort at least. hinting...pff...no effort at all...heck i can do that and i have low self confidence. it needs to be more substancial. at least...in my opinion.

Phil can't talk to her in gym class cause it isn't co-ed....only some units. i would just go up and talk to her. and this sounds weird coming from me...the low self confidence guy that can't do much right with this stuff...but thats what i would do. talk to her.