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  1. Dannysgirl
    You're not being 'controlling' in the slightest, he is talking out of his backside and trying to guilt trip you because he wants to continue his ego boosting communication with these women. What he is doing is wrong and shows complete disregard for your feelings. I think its time to call him on this BS and tell him he is stop stop all communication with these women (why does he feel the pressing need to be 'friends' with these women anyway? Simple answer - ego boost and knowing he has other options if he wants them) because how would he feel if you were having conversations/contact of this sort with YOUR ex lovers? Would a request to stop that seem so unreasonable then? Tell him to grow up and stop being so childish and selfish, YOU are his wife, your happiness should be paramount rather than the feelings of a pair of ho's he once knew.
  2. Dannysgirl
    Also, block this girls's email and get a new sim card. If she is not willing to respect your wishes of leaving you alone at the moment then you have to give her no way of contacting you.
  3. Dannysgirl
    I would either ignore the invite (afterall you don't owe these people anything SHE broke up with you remember?) or respond to her dad and tell him the truth that you don't really feel comfortable meeting up with him under the circumstances. You never know it could just be that your ex has asked Daddy to do some match making to try to get you back together and I really don't think you should put yourself in that kind of position when you are trying to get over this girl. The last thing you need is her father pleading her case.
  4. Dannysgirl
    Have you given in having been sent similar gestures in the past? If so maybe he thinks 'well it worked before why not again? If I were you I would send his teddy bears back to him and begin immediate NC - thats should get the message accross pretty clearly!
  5. Dannysgirl
    Believe me I know how you feel, after I broke up with 'twatthew' I was giving the Freezer vibes to every guy who even glanced in my direction for about a year and a half. Its only natural to feel like that for a while but I'm sure it'll fade when you meet a guy worth something. Take this time to really start taking care of you, take up a hobby you've always wanted to but never got around to, spoil yourself - buy yourself all that stuff you've been promising yourself for ages and go out and have a great time with your friends, you deserve it girl!
  6. Dannysgirl
    If you're looking for something long term with this guy then I wouldn't hold your breath. It doesn't sound like he knows what he wants so if you're okay with being messed around then carry on. Personally I would cut my losses with this guy if he doesn't think you're 'terribly compatible' then clearly he doesn't think anything meaningful will ever develop from this dalliance. Maybe he just wants some no strings attached fun? what is rather confusing is the comment 'that makes me even less comfortable about all this' when the remainder of the conversation makes him look like he doesn't care... Regardless if you're not into mind games just lose this guy he sounds like a massive headache to me.
  7. Dannysgirl
    I think you should drop off the miscellaneous boxes of 'crud' (lol) at his mothers house so he doesn't have any excuse to turn up at your place again and you have no more reminders of him at all even hidden ones. Well done you! You have done brilliantly in getting this miserable excuse for a human being out of your life. You've also set a great example for doing so for all the other women on here in a similar situation and have proved that it CAN be done. Don't feel too bad about being single on valentine's day, be glad that you are free from skank boy and have an opportunity to be happy with somebody who actually cares for you next year. I was in a very similar situation to you in the summer of 2002 and by December 2004 I was happily married and still can't believe how unhappy I was back then (and how long I put up with it!) compared with how happy I am just a couple of years later. The right one is out there for you somewhere and you'll probably find him when you're least expecting it as I did. Chin up, you're FREE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  8. Dannysgirl
    This woman is a bully and as bullies usually only respond to strength it might be time to show some. Wait until she is alone leaving the office one day and say to her 'if you ever speak to me like that again I'll knock your ******* head off, got it?' She only speaks to you this way because she feels threatened by you because you're doing well and she feels she might be usurped as 'queen bee' of the company at the very least in the popularity stakes. Now that you failed to stand up for yourself following her little tirade she will think that she can say and do whatever she likes to you without repercussions so you have to be assertive and show her she can't. You don't have to be quite as aggressive as the above if you feel its best but at the very least say to her: ' Listen I don't like you either but the fact remains that we have to work together and i'm quite prepared to put my personal feelings aside for the good of the company so why don't you stop acting like and eight yr old and follow my example? I will not be spoken to like that again, and if it ever happens again I'll have no qualms about getting you fired as I am not the one causing conflict here.'
  9. Dannysgirl
    I actually wrote a strongly worded letter to the head office of The Ground Round and emailed it to the address on their website so I should hear back pretty soon. You try and do a good deed and look at the thanks you get!
  10. Dannysgirl
    Well the shivers and feeling cold has gone but my stomach still feels very weak, I have managed to eat some soup today but just started having diarrhoea again - is it possible the germ that caused this is still in there? I also called the proprietor of the establishment that made me ill and she was wholly unsympathetic and very rude! I wasn't calling to try and get anything out of them just to let them know that I was made sick by their food and to ensure that their health and safety practices are up to standard in future. She said very snappishly; "It probably wasn't anything you ate here it was probably something from five days ago' (since does it take five days to digest food? ) I wasn't planning on reporting them to any health and safety inspectors but after the response of the manager I might have to consider it...
  11. Dannysgirl
    Another quick question before I go, I have ben absolutely freezing cold and shivery since I started getting sick and just can't seen to get warm. I had a fever last night but I don't have one now so I have no idea what thats about. Any thoughts?
  12. Dannysgirl
    Thats the odd thing, I only ate one thing yesterday and that was the afore mentioned burger and fries. I only ate half the burger and it was medium well done so I don't understand how that could have caused food poisoning (unless the person who prepared it didn't wash their hands) and I know nothing else could have caused it because that was all I ate all day. I just had some soup and feel like I want to bring it back up again my stomach is making all kinds of protesting noises! I took some pepto bismol earlier on to see if that would help settle my stomach but it doesn't appear to have worked so I'm just trying to drink as much as possible although even that is an effort. I weighed myself this morning and to my astonishment had lost five pounds in one day! The human body is a pretty amazing thing, to just push the 'eject' button like that and get rid of EVERYTHING as a way of protecting itself from toxins, and you have no idea there is anything wrong until it starts doing that! Well I don't feel too amazing now thats sure so i'm going to get an early night and hopefully I'll be better in the morning. Thank you for all your advice.
  13. Dannysgirl
    About 5 hours after I ate a burger yesterday I was being violently ill and was having terrible diarrhoea at the same time so I can assume that I had contracted some sort of food poisoning. The vomiting etc lasted from about 8pm until 3am the next morning, but I'm still feeling awful, I'm really weak and although I did try to eat something earlier on I didn't manage to get much down (although I didn't bring anything back up) what can I do to start feeling normal again? How long does it take on average to get better after something like that? Thankfully I had a day off today but I'm worried that I'm not going to feel up to going back to work tomorrow.
  14. Dannysgirl
    Sounds like that might be the case. Maybe she wants to make sure you're still interested so that you're there if anything happens or if she just wants 'a night off' from being in her relationship so to speak. Next time she asks you just say you're busy and don't give a reason why.
  15. Dannysgirl
    Iceman is probably right, as much as it might make you feel better to go off on one at her etc, it just might end up being a huge ego boost to her. Like 'oh I got to him. He must really like me but knows he can't have me so is all upset, poor thing.' It probably IS better just to be very cool around her not out and out nasty but not friendly either, be as nonchalant as you can and I would still get that undergrad to meet you after class maybe then she'll take the hint.
  16. Dannysgirl
    I don't think you do at all, the girl played you and now you are quite rightly angry which I think you have every right to be considering her behaviour now. What right does SHE have to get pissy with YOU? I can't quite decide if this girl really is insecure or on the other hand incredibly full of herself. You don't owe her anything and if she gets 'pissy' with you again I would just tell her straight that you're not interested in being friends or anything else with somebody like her, although I think the cold shoulder treatment will probably work better if you really want to annoy her!
  17. Dannysgirl
    Oh dear, well next time you see her I would just tell her exactly what you've told us here. Tell her you're not a fan of manipulative, attention seeking, insecurity riddled little girls and you're not going to participate in her silly playground games anymore.
  18. Dannysgirl
    Could it be that she hooked up with somebody else while you were busy with your schoolwork and such? How long have you known her? Sounds to me that she might be quite insecure and is one of those women who has to have a boyfriend all the time and cannot bear to be single. Perhaps she was dating both of you at the same time for a while but thought that the other guy was more interested in her or a relationship? I'm not saying you are in the wrong here not at all, you shouldn't rush into relationships but there are women out there who are like that and expect commitment straight away. Is she still flirting with you and asking you to go out with her etc?
  19. Dannysgirl
    I would give him a time limit of how long you are willing to keep these animals before you take them down to the pet shop! A lot people when they are dumped tend to drag their feet about getting/giving back stuff because they think by doing that you will have time to reconsider your decision. Lets face it, he had a cushy little spot there with you and I don't think he's going to be in an hurry to get his stuff in the hope you'll cave and take him back. Send a quick email along the lines of 'you have until ...... to get your stuff and your pets, if they are not out of my house by then I will put them out in the road. If you think I'm joking try me.' That should get the message accross. I'm sure he'll be able to get his mother to help him move his stuff back to her place using her car so don't let him give you BS excuses. Alternatively you could always transport the stuff yourself in your car and dump it all on his mothers porch?
  20. Dannysgirl
    Its a way of keeping the lines of communication open and keeping SOME form of control over the whole thing because he has no power over the fact that you dumped him. I had the exact thing happen to me a few years ago the guy in question ended up slashing my clothes to ribbons and stealing anything I had of value when he realised that I was not going to change my mind. Its best to go strict NC with this guy and get other people to arrange to get your stuff on your behalf at least then he knows there is no hope. I would also get them to threaten him with police action if he doesn't hand your stuff over. I had no contact with this guy after I broke up with him and gave my father his number to arrange the collection of my stuff, he kept agreeing to give it back but then would not be there when my father went to get it. Basically he had no intention of giving it back and keeping it was just his way of excercising control because he lost control of me when I broke up with him. He finally went mental when I told him that he in fact had NO control over the situation, NO control over me and never would again whether he kept my stuff or not. If you can, try to forget about the stuff you left there believe me its not worth it I went through a LONG court wrangle about it and all I got in the end was my computer that he had put a load of viruses onto and was useless anyway. Just walk away.
  21. Dannysgirl
    Well done!!!!! You have done brilliantly and shown tremendous strength and courage, good for you. What an absolute waste of extra breathing room for the rest of us this guy is you are well rid of him.
  22. Dannysgirl
    I used to have this problem ALL the time. Pretty much every time I had sex it would happen and it made me miserable so I understand how you feel! I took to drinking cranberry juice all the time, peeing before and after and also using KY jelly to ensure proper lubrication. Since I started doing that the problem pretty much went away on its own and now I don't have to do any of those things although it was so bad at one time that I really did consider seeing a specialist.
  23. Dannysgirl
    My intention was not to suggest it he was 'making a big deal about it' just to ask him whether it really is THAT important to HIM in the grand scheme of things. Personally if I had a a good relationship with someone then I would think it a shame to end it based on something that is in the past and has nothing to do with me. However everybody is different and I wasn't implying that he would be wrong to end it based on this just that to think it through and decide what is more important to him, a relatively good relationship with somebody he cares deeply about that is good on every other level or his feelings regarding casual sex. If its the latter there is nothing wrong with that and he should probably end the relationship.
  24. Dannysgirl
    Maybe it would benefit you to think of her past casualness with regards to sex as a symptom of relationships that meant nothing to her, but then she met YOU and realised that sex IS better when in a relationship and that is something she only realised when she found somebody she really cared for. If you get on so well in every other way it would really be a shame to let this go down the pan because of her past indiscretions. Realise that she cares for you (and certainly cares about you much more than any of her previous boyfriends) and leave what is done in the past where it belongs. What is more important in the long run? A relationship with somebody who is 'a breath of fresh air' and who you can have good times with or identical views on sex? Is it really THAT important in the grand scheme of things?
  25. Dannysgirl
    If it really bothers you that your ideas regarding sex are so different then it doesn't look like you will be able to get past this and will probably end up resenting her for her sexual exploits in the past. Do you think that you can get over it and not let it bother you? If you don't think you can then its only fair to break up with her and find somebody more on your level in that area. How is your relationship otherwise, do you think your differences regarding this issue is worth ending it for?
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